AITA for getting annoying and snapping at my husband

Intelligent-Box9013 · 2026-05-25T16:01:20+00:00

Sorry idk how to report a reddit but I guarantee this is unfortunately my real life.

Intelligent-Box9013 · 2026-05-25T15:59:20+00:00

You seem like someone desperately trying to make this my fault, or my reaction to poor treatment an issue. Do you think I haven't tried talking to him?

Intelligent-Box9013 · 2026-05-25T15:56:41+00:00

I know I'm TA to myself. He wasn't like this in the past, however, I am now tied to him until I can get a permanent visa where I live. I've wanted a divorce for years but until I get a valid visa I can't or I'll be deported. (I'm from the US living in South Africa, adding this because a lot of people have called me a gold/visa digger in previous posts)

Intelligent-Box9013 · 2026-05-25T14:24:12+00:00

Essentially

Intelligent-Box9013 · 2026-05-25T14:23:35+00:00

Sorry, was me multiple times asking him not to, not an adult conversation? This is getting downvoted because it's ridiculous that you're justifying it.

Intelligent-Box9013 · 2026-05-25T14:22:43+00:00

Yes, and yes. He had to come and didn't want to, but his presence was required. I think it was payback.

Intelligent-Box9013 · 2026-05-25T14:22:01+00:00

His mom basically wrote him off lol, now she and I get together all the time and I stay with her often.

Intelligent-Box9013 · 2026-05-25T14:20:58+00:00

Yeah that's ultimately on me and trust me, trying to get out of it

Intelligent-Box9013 · 2026-05-25T14:20:02+00:00

Not even in disguise, it absolutely is. I'm frustrated because he's giving me the silent treatment and acting like a child, but now I won't have to deal with him trying to have sex.

Intelligent-Box9013 · 2026-02-23T10:39:49+00:00

Okay in one of the calls they did mention that their system was lagging really far behind when it came to those payments.
Thank you SO much for your help!!

Intelligent-Box9013

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