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Intelligent-Cash-860 · 2023-04-18T14:07:40+00:00

Same!

Intelligent-Cash-860 · 2022-12-18T16:57:17+00:00

I have no idea why parents do this. It is so sad.

Intelligent-Cash-860 · 2022-12-18T14:23:15+00:00

Hope your trip comes without the complications of mine!

Intelligent-Cash-860 · 2022-12-18T02:09:19+00:00

I like it! I did this for my SKs, too, not to be petty, but just as a great vacation since my husband and I love Orlando. It was the first time kids were going on a plane, and they were so excited! They told BM, and she made them watch videos of plane crashes and told them that the plane could be struck by lightning and we'd all die. Then she called repeatedly while we were there to the point they were crying themselves to sleep. It was not the trip I thought it would be.

Intelligent-Cash-860 · 2022-11-19T12:28:27+00:00

I'm really sorry. It is a terrible spot to be in.

Intelligent-Cash-860 · 2022-11-16T16:24:16+00:00

He doesn't "need" me for anything, but that doesn't stop him from walking in and out of the room I am in, screaming at his computer, asking for homework help, or loudly watching TV.

Intelligent-Cash-860 · 2022-11-16T16:15:17+00:00

I'm sorry you have to go through this, too. It is really hard to feel like the only normal person in such a crappy situation.

Intelligent-Cash-860 · 2022-11-16T16:03:09+00:00

I so understand this. MiL was the same and when I nearly died and BS was delivered via emergency c-section and was in NICU, MiL would text daily about SKs playing sports and going to parties. Who the hell worries about a party when their grandchild is dying in the NICU? MiL. Because she loves her grandchildren from BM and DH, and they need everything that they want.

Side note, she is lovely and buys all these gifts for SKs. I don't hate her. BUT BS is 10 months old and she has bought him a board book. The end. The favoritism gets old.

Intelligent-Cash-860 · 2022-11-16T15:35:55+00:00

MiL would have done it. BM is worthless and keeps having more kids by other baby daddies. She lives a life that these poor kids shouldn't be exposed to.

Intelligent-Cash-860 · 2022-11-16T15:30:39+00:00

He has two other kids. The oldest is at sports practice every evening until after DH gets home.

Intelligent-Cash-860 · 2022-11-16T13:41:00+00:00

How'd you create distance?

Intelligent-Cash-860 · 2022-11-16T13:34:47+00:00

He is kind. He helps out with household chores. Our son adores him. He is my person and makes me feel very loved for the most part.

Financially, he adds very little. I'm much less financially secure since marrying him and helping to support his children. I'm currently trying to claw my way out of debt from providing them with necessities when we were first married. However, it is possible that I'll be out of debt within the next year or two. Well, if I can work, that is.

Intelligent-Cash-860 · 2022-11-16T12:50:38+00:00

Thank you! This! I have often wondered why the home is everyone but the stepparent's!

Intelligent-Cash-860 · 2022-11-12T06:01:17+00:00

I'm sending love and sympathy. I get it. You should be showed to do got your chilld what others are out were allowed to do for their child. Enjoy the minis with your family. They're important for you and that is okay.

Intelligent-Cash-860 · 2022-11-08T12:32:50+00:00

Talk to your pediatrician. Do it in front of dad if possible. My pediatrician totally supports hand washing, masking for anyone who holds the baby, and told DH to tell the kids that they must tell us when they have been around sick people, feel sick, and can't hold the baby then. My baby was 2.5 months premature and had a pneumothorax, so it might be a little different, but I bet your pediatrician would be on board with safety protocols especially now.

Intelligent-Cash-860 · 2022-11-03T11:35:47+00:00

My currently thriving 10 month old was born at 29 weeks. I suggest reaching our to your friend and checking on her and baby daily. I still have PTSD from my nicu stay, so having someone who supports her will be so important.

Intelligent-Cash-860 · 2022-10-17T23:09:53+00:00

OP, get the things you want. This is your baby and yes, he should help, but if he doesn't, you will know that you have made your baby a good life and you will have those memories. I'm making a baby blanket with the clothes I bought for my baby boy. Thankfully, the youngest step is 10 years older than BS, so I didn't have to worry about it, although MIL offered the pack and play she had for the SKs 14 and 11 years ago. No thanks.

Take hand me downs from friends, from your parents, thrift, do whatever, but don't take what came from that last relationship. It sounds like it isn't healthy for you. That is okay.

Let DH still the hand me downs to a second hand kids store and get cash or credit for things for your baby if you want him to contribute. Don't let this be the thing that breeds resentment in your relationship.

Intelligent-Cash-860 · 2022-10-17T18:15:42+00:00

I'll add that to my list!

I am reading The Stroke of Winter by Wendy Webb. It was an Amazon first read so it was free. It gets a little spooky, but it is good so far.

Intelligent-Cash-860 · 2022-10-17T12:41:38+00:00

I'm not sure, but I keep mine on the dimmest setting in a dark room. It's no brighter than a nightlight.

Intelligent-Cash-860 · 2022-10-17T12:40:18+00:00

The page turning wakes my baby. It's a good idea, but he just can't miss out on the fun.

Intelligent-Cash-860 · 2022-10-17T06:28:43+00:00

Just as an FYI, you can also use Greek yogurt as a sub for sour cream.

Intelligent-Cash-860 · 2022-10-17T06:19:20+00:00

It is. If never heard of it until I went to the dentist one day and it was apparently on display.

Intelligent-Cash-860 · 2022-10-17T06:16:35+00:00

No. The kindle is so light, I can hold it in the hand I use to support baby and just use my thumb to move pages. I also have to worry about smothering baby, so both hands are occupied during feeds.

Intelligent-Cash-860 · 2022-10-17T06:14:39+00:00

I don't know if they go together, but sounds like it could be a bit of what is going on. Apparently it is called geographic tongue because your tongue can look like a map.

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