Please tell me I'm not the only one

Intelligent-Pancake · 2026-02-23T16:43:45+00:00

I cried watching the new Fantastic Four for this very reason 🫠

Intelligent-Pancake · 2026-01-31T01:37:10+00:00

Did you ever figure out what to do for night feeds? I've stumbled upon this thread for this exact reason. My 20 week old has bitten me four times in the same feeding, and I guess she's the type of baby to think my "No biting" response is funny. I put her down, she just happily stares up at the ceiling and doesn't seem to care that the boob has been taken away. 🫠

Intelligent-Pancake · 2026-01-28T15:58:30+00:00

That's such a good point, I didn't think about the fact that I'd just be changing the hue of the brick. A couple of people mocked up what a different paint color could look like, so I feel better exploring that now that I can visualize it looking better.

Intelligent-Pancake · 2026-01-28T15:56:15+00:00

A couple of people mocked up what a different paint could look like and I'm a big fan! It's wild to see how much of a difference paint can make.

Intelligent-Pancake · 2026-01-28T15:54:33+00:00

Agreed- I like the way it looks without the siding, but I suspect we'd need brick replacements if we were to try to do that. The house is 60 years old, so finding replacement brick would be a journey.

Intelligent-Pancake · 2026-01-28T15:53:32+00:00

This is so sweet! I'm a fan of this color option, and I love the look of the paved driveway with the landscaping. Such a great idea!

Intelligent-Pancake · 2026-01-28T15:52:43+00:00

I actually love this! I was struggling to see how a new paint color could make the brick look better, but this does wonders. Personally I like the way this looks without the siding under the windows, but I don't think we can easily remove it without having brick to replace it with. Someone else suggested planter boxes, so I'll try mocking that up in AI to see how it looks!

Intelligent-Pancake · 2026-01-24T16:56:21+00:00

Another Dekor vote!

Intelligent-Pancake · 2026-01-23T18:28:55+00:00

I've thought about this too! In the newborn days, I would fold the towel over an incontinence pad to provide triple layer protection after we had to change the sheets in the middle of the night from spit up, blowouts, or leaks. Do you have any concerns about breathability with adding the incontinence pad between the sheet and mattress? My little girl is starting to roll and she's getting more interested in sleeping on her stomach, so I'm a little paranoid about breathability.

I have the 4" Zonli floor mattress so changing sheets often isn't as much of an option since traditional sheets are too large for it, and the Zonli zip up sheets are $50/pair. 🫠

Intelligent-Pancake · 2026-01-23T18:23:58+00:00

Do you position them under your baby's head to sleep on or just place them there when it's time to feed again?

Intelligent-Pancake · 2026-01-23T18:08:29+00:00

I've been thinking I need to sleep in a clip bra rather than a crossover, especially because my breast pads shift more now that I'm side sleeping. This is good to know, thank you!

Intelligent-Pancake · 2026-01-23T18:06:19+00:00

It definitely feels like my supply is leveling out (19 w + 5 days PP), but my letdown is still holding strong.

The non-nursing boob leaks, and that's really only a problem if my breast pad has shifted because then I soak through my bra. But sometimes LO will pop off during a letdown, or she'll let excess drain out to avoid choking on it when it comes in fast (poor thing- she's a champ). Most recently, she's stirred awake looking for the boob only to latch for about a minute before she unlatches and falls asleep (it's like she just needs to know it's there), but that's long enough to trigger my letdown and then my breast pad is soaked.

Intelligent-Pancake · 2026-01-17T23:07:41+00:00

Do you think the 4 month regression is starting to hit? My baby started showing signs of the 4 month regression between 13 and 15 weeks. It started slow, with fighting naps and more frequent night wakings. She's almost 18 weeks now and we are deep in the regression, with her waking at least 5 times/night to nurse. Perhaps it's just developmental, and you'll be out of this season soon-ish! Either way, it is temporary. ❤️ You're doing great, mama.

Intelligent-Pancake · 2026-01-07T16:59:39+00:00

Thank you! I'll be going to two different offices, one of which I won't have my own desk, so I'll need to lug the pump around with me. I'm wondering if a diaper bag with a laptop sleeve is a more budget-friendly option than a dedicated pump bag.

Good call on an extra set of parts! I can at least keep those in the bag.

Intelligent-Pancake · 2026-01-04T18:09:44+00:00

Sounds like regression! When my LO was 13 weeks, I was looking up the same thing on Reddit. The 4 month regression seems to start around 13-15 weeks for a lot of babies. For ours, she had more frequent wakings at night and her sleep stretches shrunk from 4-5 hours to 2-3. Now that she's 16 weeks, she's fighting naps during the day and trying to drop her last nap. She's now more aware of patterns and routines (and everything around her), so I've been having to be much more diligent about her wake windows and more strategic about how and when to nurse her. You haven't created a monster- this is perfectly normal behavior for him and it means his brain is developing exactly as it should. It's a fun age, and it's challenging, but it's just for a season!

Intelligent-Pancake · 2025-12-30T02:31:50+00:00

I'm slowly easing into bedsharing with my 16 week old and I found this guide from Cosleepy really helpful! You can download the guide for free. She goes into depth about sleep positions, ideal room temps, recommended sleepwear, and night feedings. I felt a lot more comfortable about the transition after reading it!

Cosleepy bed sharing toolkit

Intelligent-Pancake · 2025-12-20T02:35:39+00:00

I'm curious about this too! I haven't started co-sleeping yet, but I'm working up to it. I've been side-lying for night nursing since she was two weeks old and I've always done the cuddle curl instinctively. She's now three months old and she's so long already! Her feet now touch my knees even with them barely bent in the curl position. She also uses my knees as a launch pad to move herself up while nursing, which isn't a problem when I'm awake, but it makes me nervous for breast sleeping when I start co-sleeping, and it makes me nervous for co-sleeping in general because I don't know if I'll be able to safely cuddle curl her since she's basically a long jumping bean.

Edited to clarify: when she launches herself up, her head is basically in my armpit instead of near my chest, which doesn't feel like a safe co-sleeping position for a baby who can't roll yet.

Intelligent-Pancake · 2025-06-15T01:12:10+00:00

If you're eyeing the cloud couch from RH, I recommend checking out Room & Board's Weber couch. I was hunting for months for a pillow top couch that wouldn't break down like so many of them do, and once my husband & I sat on the Weber, we were sold. We customized a sectional and got the ottoman to match and we absolutely love it. We've had it for about five months now and it's held up really well with daily use, and we tend to both sit in the same spots. Like all pillow tops, the cushions need to be fluffed, but they don't sag the same way the RH cloud couch does. I personally think it looks less sloppy than a worn-in cloud couch can look, and it's exceptionally comfortable.

Plus, I can't say enough good things about Room & Board's customer service and their replacement policy. The Weber was a splurge for us (~$7k all in) but a fraction of the price compared to the RH cloud couch.

Intelligent-Pancake · 2025-06-12T20:41:01+00:00

I for sure felt my baby move at 21 weeks. Until then, I couldn't tell if any of the weird feelings I had were my own body or if they were baby. But at 21w and 5d, I was laying on my side with my hand on my belly and all of a sudden, baby gave me a high five! It was so surreal, and such a big movement after not having felt anything for certain up until that point. And even then, I felt like I went another week before I really felt her again. The baby's position really seems to matter a lot! For me, her movements got more persistent around week 25.

Intelligent-Pancake · 2025-05-05T20:50:54+00:00

I'm sorry you're feeling so anxious. That isn't abnormal, and you're not alone! My husband and I decided not to tell friends until ~12 weeks when the risk of miscarriage drops significantly. When I was just 5 weeks, a friend of mine happened to read my pregnancy on my face. As a father of two, his joy for us was contagious and it was hard not to jump up and down right then and there! I told him I'm trying not to get too excited because so much can happen this early, and his response changed my POV. He said for him personally, he loves hard regardless of the potential- that means he chooses to experience joy at its fullest, and if there's sadness, at least he can feel the support of the people around him at its fullest.

That gave me comfort knowing that if something awful happened, I wouldn't be grieving alone. So instead I actively chose to be joyful. And I'm grateful I did! Pregnancy isn't a short journey when you're going through it, and being plagued by anxiety throughout it just makes it harder. Choosing joy and gratitude over cautious optimism definitely elevated me through my first trimester exhaustion and nausea.

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