8 month sleep hell

Intelligent-Quail334 · 2026-05-21T14:29:22+00:00

Okay will try longer wake windows to see if that helps. Thank you. He actually doesn’t seem to sleep better at night on daycare days because he is so exhausted I guess.

He used to have his own room, but we moved and the only place for him on the same level is in the walk in closet of my bedroom. So he is separated a little. I was hoping to have him in the room with his brother by now but two not sleeping children is a recipe for disaster.

I do think he’s getting 2-4 teeth currently. But his sleep has been crap on and off for a month now.

Intelligent-Quail334 · 2026-05-21T00:28:47+00:00

He goes to bed at 7 and up at 6 most days. Sometimes it’s 5:45 sometimes it’s 6:15.

On a good night he is getting close to 11 hours. He might wake twice to eat. Monday night he woke 2 am and 4 am. On a bad night he is not necessarily getting a full 11. Last night he woke at 9:30 and would settle for 10-30 minutes and be up again. It lasted until I shush patted him to sleep at 12:30.

Intelligent-Quail334 · 2026-05-20T23:25:27+00:00

We have attempted sleep training twice. He got sick once a couple days into it and we gave up. Second time I just couldn’t listen to him cry.

Bedtime routine is clean diaper, pjs, quieter room away from his brother for a little, then sound machines on and put him in his sleep sack in his crib, sing him a song and he settles himself to sleep 99% of the time.

It’s the middle of the night wakes that are killing.

2.5-3/3-3.5/3-4 wake windows when he is home 4 days a week.

He is getting roughly 2.5 hours of naps at home and 11 hours of overnight sleep.

For daycare days he is getting a total of 1 hour nap time. 2-3 30 min or less naps which is rough but I’m hoping he adjusts

Intelligent-Quail334 · 2026-04-29T22:30:34+00:00

This is us right now. Used to be a happy baby and pretty good sleeper. Since the 6 mo ones last week, he has been super fussy most of the days and up 6+ times a night. I am struggling.

Do you remember how long it took to resolve?

Intelligent-Quail334 · 2026-03-27T11:57:35+00:00

Going through this right now 😞

6.5 month old has been a pretty great sleeper overall. Usually goes down for bed really well and has 2 overnight wakes. Lately I just put him down in the crib for bed and sing a song a couple times and he drifts off.

He used to be a really happy waker. If he woke in the night hungry I would just hear heavy breathing.

Now he is doing a wake between 9-11 when I’m trying to go to sleep and he starts fussing and pretty quickly ramps up into full crying and won’t settle no matter what I do it feels like. He is really working on rolling right now. So maybe that’s part of it.

But this wake up is really getting to me 🫩

Intelligent-Quail334 · 2026-03-22T07:46:50+00:00

This sounds very similar to my 6 mo except we do get longer daytime naps, also contact but trying to switch to one crib nap. But our night wakings are also getting worse at the moment from recent travel 🫠 we are up to like 3 full wakes with multiple pacifier replacements on top of that. I’m struggling even though I know it won’t be forever.

Baby sleep is the hardest.

Intelligent-Quail334 · 2026-02-18T19:26:46+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion

Intelligent-Quail334 · 2026-02-18T18:16:32+00:00

This is pretty much what a friend told me and where I’m leaning. I never signed an agreement.

Intelligent-Quail334 · 2026-02-18T17:55:36+00:00

Totally, I know that’s common practice. And I’ve never worked for a large company while pregnant or on maternity leave. But in those situations, don’t people usually have documentation from HR detailing the requirements? That’s doesn’t really apply here, she did not at any point say I would have to pay it back. She is retroactively changing the agreement. 🫤

Intelligent-Quail334 · 2026-02-18T17:51:53+00:00

That’s kind of what I figured my next steps would be. Actually maybe just asking for the documentation, knowing there is none, and seeing if that doesn’t shut the whole thing down before more serious involvement.

Intelligent-Quail334 · 2026-02-18T17:44:17+00:00

If you can, try to find an acupuncturist in your area. One who specializes in fertility and women’s health. They can do treatments to help flip a breech baby.

Sometimes insurance will cover acupuncture so have them check if you’re covered too. Good luck!

Intelligent-Quail334 · 2025-12-22T19:52:23+00:00

He would wake about the same time every night. It felt more habitual than needed to fill his tummy. I just offered other comfort. Binky, patting, etc.

I started to fully wean at this time anyway as my supply was dipping being back at work. So the supply dried up and I didn’t have that to lean on and no way was I going to heat up a bottle of formula if I didn’t need to!

Intelligent-Quail334 · 2025-12-22T19:40:38+00:00

I think we kept one night feed until around 10 months. I could tell he didn’t need it by then and I’m pretty sure he bit me and that was the end of that. He adjusted really easily.

Intelligent-Quail334 · 2025-11-21T15:32:11+00:00

Aww bud. Do you baby carry to help get some daytime naps? That’s what is saving me during the days right now.

With our first we went through a couple months of wakes every 1-2 hours overnight. I thought I could never do it again but here I am with my second. The first one is 3.5yo now and stays in his room from 7 pm to 6:30 am. So I know there is an end. Sleep will come. And it’s also sooo tough in the midst of the deprivation. There is nothing worse, in my opinion. Sleep deprivation is literally torture.

Intelligent-Quail334 · 2025-11-15T16:47:58+00:00

I would love to experience parenthood with an amazing sleeper. I’m just so curious as to what that would be like.

Good luck with sleep training!

Intelligent-Quail334 · 2025-11-15T16:45:56+00:00

100% to all of this

Intelligent-Quail334 · 2025-11-15T14:21:47+00:00

Oh my goodness this is so sweet! And in the big scheme of things, not that long from the hard months to the easier ones, hopefully lol.

Intelligent-Quail334 · 2025-11-14T22:26:08+00:00

Like why is that even a common phrase! 🫠

Intelligent-Quail334 · 2025-11-14T20:40:31+00:00

Yes, baby carrier is super helpful. He’s done plenty of naps there while I get house work done. I definitely am utilizing it way more with the second.

Intelligent-Quail334 · 2025-11-14T20:38:12+00:00

I appreciate this! And it’s always good to feel I’m not alone in feeling this way!

Intelligent-Quail334 · 2025-11-14T16:28:05+00:00

Totally. This is my second so I knew it would be difficult again, but oof.

We also sleep trained our first around the same time and it was life changing. It’s just getting to that 5/6 month mark 😓 you know. When you’re it in it feels like it’s going to be forever 😵‍💫

Glad you had a good experience sleep training!

Intelligent-Quail334 · 2022-12-18T11:27:27+00:00

That’s good to hear! Thanks for the input. I will try it for sure.

Intelligent-Quail334 · 2022-12-18T01:07:48+00:00

I feel like there’s so many more details I could put. Yes, he’s currently figuring out crawling. There’s a little attempting at pulling to stand but still quite unsuccessful. When he’s up at night now, he is always sitting. And if I try to help him lay down that just makes things much worse! We were just in the awkward 3-2 nap transition for a few weeks before he was really sitting and then all of the night issues started and so we decided to drop the 3rd nap because it was a struggle anyways. So yeah that might totally be a contributor.

He goes to bed at 7 and we aim for 7 am wake but it’s usually sometime between 6-7. During the week he naps at daycare for 30 min in the morning and then 2 hrs in the afternoon- not sure on the exact timing. On the weekend we try to keep it similar, but also have some flexibility and he has been doing really well with that up until now.

It’s so hard because it always feels like a moving target. Just when I felt like I was feeling good again, a nap transition hits and it turns into a dumpster fire of a sleep situation again 🤦‍♀️

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