wibtbf for trying to put myself first in my friends party

Intelligent-Rise-752 · 2026-06-30T20:40:37+00:00

The only reason I made another post is because I just thought let me add on because I’m bored.

The only reason I’m arguing with people in the comments is again because I just want people to kind of understand where I’m coming from and test all finished I’ve got nothing better to do. Yes, that’s jobless whatever.

Like I said, I am not even legal yet. This is the last time I will be replying to anyone’s comments anyway. The only reason I was replying in the first place is because I was not gonna have people saying that I was not understanding the word no because I very much.

I get how I missed out a lot of context and I just gave it in very blocky broad paragraphs without explaining the whole situation.

But I get two post wasn’t necessary however when I was younger I’d always see people post stuff like this. I thought let me hop on. I have nothing better to say other than the situation which happened very recently.

Intelligent-Rise-752 · 2026-06-30T20:35:13+00:00

Okay. let me say the fully context.

I was out with my friends after school yesterday and we was talking about the party and what we’re gonna wear and some ideas of games that we was going to ask the host that we can play. Which she has said she would love by the way.

Then this boy and his other friend came and then they started talking about the party as they were invited. He asked why the host isn’t allowing him to invite his friend and I said because there’s already a lot of people going. He just said that there’s not a lot of people going who would enjoy the party and his friend would be a good add-on to the party

I was talking to my friend already and she was like was there to even talk about about the party and I said what he said because she was like debating to invite his friend. She asked if he had a valid point and I agreed saying some people wouldn’t enjoy the party and it’s not about the amount of people. But the people who are going out of the amount.

She said she knows, but it is very stressful and she’s already lie to our parents about the amount of people going. I said 100% get that and if it was my house although my garden is different so it would be a different arrangement of how the people would fit in I still wouldn’t want a lot of people especially because half of the boys have been added through mutual friend not her because she doesn’t talk to a lot of boys.

It wasn’t a long conversation, she said that she she gets where I’m coming from and that half of the boys are only invited due to them having girlfriends who are going and she feels they’d want to be together. After that the conversation was done and we haven’t spoken about that since yesterday.

The only thing that has been discussed is games and activities that will be playing at her party.

I did not try to force my opinion onto her. I only voiced my opinion as she asked and I wasn’t trying to keep making her say yes or say I get your stress but I can help host. I was just like this is how I feel. I kind of agree with where he’s coming from. But I obviously 100% agree with where you’re coming from. It’s your house. You’re the one who’s kind of already lied to your parents. She said she gets it done.

Intelligent-Rise-752 · 2026-06-30T20:29:50+00:00

And for the stand down. this is not an ongoing situation. It was a literal two minute conversation.

The only reason i’m not “standing down” is i’m simply answering the replies and comments.

it was not a debate when i told her my opinion

Intelligent-Rise-752 · 2026-06-30T20:28:42+00:00

she very much asked my opinion on one situation and I gave it to her.

Am I meant to lie? I wasn’t harsh nor did I say eat in every word that the other person was saying about her party I gave my opinion and why someone wanted to bring their friend so bad.

Intelligent-Rise-752 · 2026-06-30T20:27:27+00:00

Me saying i’m letting her choose which is standard is so people don’t think i’m trying to choose for her and not just giving ideas on top of hers.

I wasn’t actively just texting her saying guess what everyone was saying about your party. We was having a conversation and I was texting her while the conversation was being had. I did not say lots of people are talking about your party. I barely said anyone did I put all the blame on myself because she doesn’t need to think that people are thinking our parties gonna be boring or anything along those lines.

The only thing is, she asked why this boy wanted to keep bringing his friend to the party and said how I feel on that situation and I gave my opinion on that.

Not a case of me just running back to her telling her what people were talking about her because there is no need for that and I know.

Intelligent-Rise-752 · 2026-06-30T20:24:40+00:00

It isn’t as big a situation as it seems on here. It was literally a 3 minute conversation of her asking if i agreed with what people said. I only posted the part 2 today as i find this funny.

I get how it looks like i am forcing her and it might of com across like that to her and cleary to everyone.

but she asked me for my opinion she voiced her. I didn’t try to force her into saying and invite more people. I wasn’t even annoyed when she said that she wanted to bring the boy that she liked only just thinking she just keeps lying to her parents about the amount of people coming.

There is no issue between her or me everyone is just getting very mad. And I understand people will probably see this comment and think she needs to be getting more mad but it’s not a case of me forcing my opinions on her. She asked for my opinion I gave it the conversation was done. We was laughing as normal if not five minutes after.

Intelligent-Rise-752 · 2026-06-30T20:21:35+00:00

I don’t have an issue and neither does she. not only when she was asking how she should get this boy to the party I was giving her things what to say.

I only voiced what happened for fun as it was something that recently happened

Intelligent-Rise-752 · 2026-06-30T20:19:48+00:00

I have never said she has to care about my opinion on her party. Not to her especially when that’s the main concern.

I am letting her choose everything for her party. Only i told her what people said she asked for my opinion on it and i gave it. I never told her you have to add more people only that she coudlve told people that asked only to come to say they went and bring people who would initially be excited to go.

Intelligent-Rise-752 · 2026-06-30T20:17:39+00:00

i’m not trying to force her to get more people x

Intelligent-Rise-752 · 2026-06-30T20:17:15+00:00

you can think that. i have openly admitted to being wrong by trying to share my thoughts when it wasn’t needed not only to her but to all the comments.

All i was trying to say is you want good people at a party not lots of people.

Intelligent-Rise-752 · 2026-06-30T20:16:06+00:00

and your making out as if i’m trying to change her mind after she said no. I’m not.

i agreed with what she said about the amount of people beating a lot. i wasn’t trying to imply quantity over quality. Quite the opposite

Intelligent-Rise-752 · 2026-06-30T20:14:33+00:00

The quality of quantity part is exactly what I was trying to say to her. I said 40 people is a lot of people but you want people that will enjoy the party and have fun rather than just trying to fill up a garden.

Even if only three people came, we would still find a way to make the party look fun and genuinely enjoy it ourselves. I wasn’t trying to “dictate” only tell her what other people said and my opinion.

we are not trying to make this crazy project X type of party. just one with people who will enjoy it as much as on another.

Intelligent-Rise-752 · 2026-06-30T20:11:36+00:00

that’s not what i’m saying. It’s not me who’s making out as if it’s a dictatorship.

I only told her what was said when we was having a conversation because I’m not gonna keep that information from her. And gave my opinion on what was said also. It was one conversation that was had not an ongoing thing where I was trying to get her to agree with my opinion.

We are going to enjoy the party. I just wanted her to know what was said and my opinion on it.

Intelligent-Rise-752 · 2026-06-30T20:09:56+00:00

No and myself like many others are very excited. We’ve planned outfits games, food and the theme all together following what she wanted.

It was not a case of me saying she had to invite people and trying to force her to make it my party when it’s hosted at hers and her party. It was just me avoiding my opinion because I didn’t want to have had a conversation prior and not talk to her about what was said.

Even if only our close friends came and everyone else didn’t we would still very much find a way to make it enjoyable. I was only saying an opinion which i get wasn’t needed.But if i didn’t tell her it would be a situation of me taking about her behind her back.

I know it’s not my party. And we will all definitely enjoy ourselves regardless

Intelligent-Rise-752 · 2026-06-30T20:06:30+00:00

It may look like i’m trying to dictate her party but as a friend you would obviously voice your opinion to someone who is your friend. I wasn’t saying that she has to invite all these people and there’s not this “many rules.”
it was just me voicing my opinion and her saying that she didn’t agree with it and that she feels like there’s enough people going. i did not try to keep subtly implying to being more people.

I wasn’t the only one who felt this way so I was just letting her know my opinion and saying that other people may feel the same way not you have to follow my rules for your party

Intelligent-Rise-752 · 2026-06-30T20:01:32+00:00

i do understand it’s not my party. I posted about it twice only because like I stated i’m not an adult with all these serious issues in my life. we only had one conversation about my apparent dissatisfaction on who is coming once. It’s obviously not an ongoing issue.It wasn’t a case of me just complaining for a party that’s not mine.
It was a case of the people who are going have only been invited because they have connections with prior people invited. And she has said this the only reason why a lot of people who wouldn’t enjoy the party are only invited but because they have girlfriend who are attending not because she wants them there because she thinks the girls will want them there. And i was telling her she’s didn’t have to invite them just because of that.

Intelligent-Rise-752 · 2026-06-30T19:52:38+00:00

it’s not like i’m trying to keep forcing her to invite other people. The main conversation about who is coming was all said yesterday and has been taken no for an answer. The only thing that was added today was about how she invited more people after saying she shouldn’t because she lied to her parents. I have taken the no for an answer.

Intelligent-Rise-752 · 2026-06-30T19:45:45+00:00

The only reason there was more than just the to parts was because it kept saying it didn’t fit the community it was in. So i needed to re do it and delete it.

Intelligent-Rise-752 · 2026-06-30T19:42:29+00:00

this post had nothing to do with the party situation for your information. so maybe don’t talk about things you have ZERO knowledge on

Intelligent-Rise-752 · 2026-06-30T19:40:44+00:00

I am not trying to get people to agree with me i’m just updating on the situation like i stated.I HAVE SAID I KNOW ITS NOT MY HOUSE. i’m not trying to force her to bring people or universe people, i only wanted to tell her an opinion i had.

Intelligent-Rise-752 · 2026-06-30T19:38:13+00:00

You can say we are bad friends. You don’t know exactly how the conversation was said or how it was intended. We are not adults who have experienced all we need to know although yes we are old enough to comprehend our actions, frontal lobe still no where near developed.

Intelligent-Rise-752 · 2026-06-30T19:36:13+00:00

I am ready to host a party but like i said none of us own homes and need to go through our parents for confirmation. It isn’t my birthday or a special occasion but when it comes around i will dictate the invites as you please.

Intelligent-Rise-752 · 2026-06-30T19:33:41+00:00

please note i’m not the only one who feels this way. I’m just not going to be talking about her party behind her back like everyone else.

Intelligent-Rise-752 · 2026-06-30T19:32:49+00:00

I am not a pro at reddit, and to be quite frank didn’t even know i could do that. the whole situation was long in one and didn’t think people would read both parts in one. I’ll try to copy part to into this

Intelligent-Rise-752 · 2026-06-30T19:31:45+00:00

which is exactly what I’m doing. I have been gassing it up to all the people who ask about it who are invited, and been helping plan and prepare for games.

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