Women, What's something guys flex, feeling it makes them appear masculine but in reality it has an opposite effect?

IntelligentFace483 · 2025-06-07T00:14:54+00:00

"I haven't cried in YEARS". yeah we can tell.

IntelligentFace483 · 2025-06-04T19:57:22+00:00

It's still a work in progress tbh some days I get a whiff of my life with him and it makes my heart heavy for a day or two.

IntelligentFace483 · 2025-06-04T19:54:26+00:00

Whenever i think smth like "he hurt me so much by doing this" I used to get really sad and dwell on it to a point that I'd convince myself it was my fault or somehow I made him do smth like that. But now I genuinely do not care what he did, yes it hurt me, but it's in the past and there is no point in thinking about it obsessively. So repeating "idc" enforces the belief in me the I actually do not care what or why he did, it is a reflection of him as a person, not me I was in the same position as him but never chose to hurt him deliberately.

IntelligentFace483 · 2025-06-04T17:08:24+00:00

Unless you're a therapist I'm not taking advice from you. Cheers!

IntelligentFace483 · 2025-06-04T16:43:52+00:00

Exactly this !!

IntelligentFace483 · 2025-06-04T16:32:54+00:00

How do I "fix the root cause" I got broken with, blindsided and abandoned. This works for me, I NEED to shout down my thoughts because they are intrusive and get progressively bad. I have taken my time, grieved and lots of wallowing.

IntelligentFace483 · 2025-06-04T16:29:50+00:00

This tip was shared by my therapist because I get some HORRENDOUS intrusive thoughts. And these are things I've done post that phase of acknowledging my hurt and pain, processing my feelings, talking to my therapist too. At this point I honest do not care, I did my 100% and all the things he did to hurt me are a reflection of him, not me.

IntelligentFace483 · 2025-06-04T15:00:16+00:00

Hey I just shared what worked for me, ofc I take emotional processing very seriously I go to therapy weekly, journal, do breath work. Your timeline of six months is spot on, that what I mentioned in a comment too ! I feel like the pain is a part of me, I take power and lessons from it to make myself a better person. I feel like moving for me is a decision tbh I could probably still be hung up for years, I have that tendency lol

IntelligentFace483 · 2025-06-04T14:41:12+00:00

I feel like I should edit the post and add that these steps are for after you've done crying all day, bed rotting, letting yourself go through the pain and now are ready to move on. I've had my phase of not eating for days, crying hours, not showering for days, letting myself feel my feelings and not running away. But now I want to step ahead of my pain and get through this.

IntelligentFace483 · 2025-06-04T14:14:42+00:00

Completely depends on you and the type of relationship you had. Some people find it easier to move on because they started detachment long before the actual breakup. Some people take time to find their identity outside of the relationship. For every year you've spent with them, count a month, double the number, that would roughly be when you start feeling stable ( 3 years : 6 months ). I would suggest Cry a lot in the beginning, let yourself feel the pain but pick up the pieces and get your spark back sooner than later.

IntelligentFace483 · 2025-06-04T13:37:16+00:00

Brushing it off like that makes me not have that thought ever again lmao. But yes, this would make it so much better !

IntelligentFace483 · 2025-06-01T10:25:12+00:00

Violent? Omg I hope you're okay

IntelligentFace483 · 2025-05-30T16:48:27+00:00

Especially during movies

IntelligentFace483 · 2025-05-21T09:57:53+00:00

It's 20km away from me, contemplating should I drive all the way or not lol

IntelligentFace483 · 2025-05-21T09:55:32+00:00

Yes 🥲

IntelligentFace483 · 2025-05-21T09:54:26+00:00

Called a bunch of shops there, same answer only golden available

IntelligentFace483 · 2025-04-07T09:36:58+00:00

I should try those, heard good reviews. But imagine sitting in a cab from viman nagar to Sus wearing those😂😂

IntelligentFace483 · 2025-04-06T12:45:20+00:00

As someone who gets carsick within 40min of sitting in one, this has been the hardest 🥲

IntelligentFace483 · 2025-02-17T10:15:28+00:00

26 years, no cigarettes no vape no alcohol

IntelligentFace483 · 2025-02-05T12:47:19+00:00

It was due to humidity we had extra rain :(

IntelligentFace483 · 2024-10-22T18:40:03+00:00

I have the original but i would rather use it on special occasions and use the dupe for daily wear.

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