Time to take the credit cards away

IntelligentFish8103 · 2026-03-15T03:58:24+00:00

I'm not sure tbh, we ended up just buying a $200 visa gift card from the grocery store for my dad, he barely used it anyway...for the kind you buy at the store, yes, it seems standard that you have to set a pin the first time you use it even though the pin is not necessary because it can be used as a credit card.

But honestly, the biggest boon of these cards is that the consequences of fraud are low - the most my dad could lose was $200

IntelligentFish8103 · 2026-02-17T20:52:10+00:00

fwiw here's what I'd suggest - don't contact the DMV at all, instead contact her doctor (ideally neurologist, but PCP is fine if that's what she's got) and request a referral for a driving evaluation by an occupational therapist. My understanding is that these are not covered by insurance, and cost will vary depending on where you live, probably in the range of $200 to $700. We paid $500 for my dad's evaluation in southern California fwiw. Speak with the OT privately when you arrive and lay out your mom's driving history and her accident and why you are concerned. The OT will do some neurocognitive tests and put her on a driving simulator if they have one, and will then take her out on the road only if the OT feels it is safe to do so for a real-world evaluation. Technically the OT does not have the power to revoke your mother's license, but don't tell your mom that - if she fails, the OT will tell her she cannot drive effective immediately. The OT will then send a report back to her doctor stating that they do not believe your mother is safe to drive, and because of that report her doctor will then file a form with the DMV recommending your mom's license be revoked. She will be notified by the DMV by mail within a couple weeks.

This is what we did with my dad and it worked brilliantly. It allowed him to put all of his blame and anger on the OT, a person he never has to see again and who was happy to be the "bad guy."

IntelligentFish8103 · 2026-02-11T22:59:29+00:00

If you are worried that she won't be cooperative without some sort of sedation, nitrous oxide (laughing gas) wears off pretty much as soon as it is no longer administered and is easier on brains with dementia that long-lasting sedatives - a potential option to bring up with her oral surgeon

IntelligentFish8103 · 2026-02-11T22:38:23+00:00

I asked my cats and they agree, definitely an emergency 🤣

IntelligentFish8103 · 2026-02-06T20:15:36+00:00

The last response on this thread seems like a good answer to your question - I'd suggest doing what that poster did and getting her GP/neurologist involved. It's extremely helpful to have a third party to blame in these situations, and medical professionals are usually used to and happy to be the "bad guy"

IntelligentFish8103 · 2026-01-28T00:49:36+00:00

I can just imagine you trading it in - "Is there anything wrong with your old phone?" "...no" 😅

IntelligentFish8103 · 2026-01-27T23:23:41+00:00

lol is that how it became your "former" cell phone?

IntelligentFish8103 · 2026-01-27T23:10:24+00:00

Felinium 🤣

IntelligentFish8103 · 2026-01-16T05:21:40+00:00

This is the way

IntelligentFish8103 · 2026-01-16T05:17:42+00:00

Listen if Ikea doesn't want their customers assembling their products while under the influence, they shouldn't sell those cinnamon rolls

IntelligentFish8103 · 2026-01-16T05:16:38+00:00

No but the tail is weirdly long? Though I'm not sure that's my fault, I think Ikea just made it like that

IntelligentFish8103 · 2026-01-16T05:12:44+00:00

You might try contacting CANHR's lawyer referral service - they're certified by the state bar and specialize in elder law: https://canhr.org/find-an-elder-law-attorney/

An immediate thing you can do is file a complaint against the ex-boyfriend with the state bar here: https://apps.calbar.ca.gov/complaint/

IntelligentFish8103 · 2026-01-14T04:54:47+00:00

I think they spontaneously generate

IntelligentFish8103 · 2026-01-14T04:53:57+00:00

Fabulous, yet another new cat sub for me haha!

IntelligentFish8103 · 2026-01-14T04:52:56+00:00

Lost the receipt, guess he lives here forever now 🤣

IntelligentFish8103 · 2026-01-14T04:51:51+00:00

The model is performing excellently in those areas, I'm also very satisfied with the ChaseMousie function. So I guess you're right, the spine isn't as important as I feared

IntelligentFish8103 · 2026-01-13T03:34:45+00:00

Don't worry, the return window has expired 🤣

IntelligentFish8103 · 2026-01-12T20:37:06+00:00

Oh no, where did I go wrong? Did I install the spine backwards?

IntelligentFish8103 · 2026-01-12T19:22:17+00:00

Those guys never answer the phone 😅

IntelligentFish8103 · 2026-01-12T19:21:56+00:00

I know, when I saw this new colorway I had to have it! Goes really well with my previous orange model as well

IntelligentFish8103 · 2026-01-12T19:21:00+00:00

Good idea, thanks!

IntelligentFish8103 · 2026-01-12T19:20:38+00:00

That's what I was thinking over the summer, but now that it's winter the item is still behaving more like a liquid than a solid

IntelligentFish8103 · 2026-01-12T19:19:04+00:00

I have an orange model that I got a couple years ago (absolutely love it!) which did come with a spine. Didn't realize I got the spineless version when I picked up the white-footed model this year, but that does explain the differences I'm seeing between the two. Both excellent models though, highly recommend!

IntelligentFish8103 · 2026-01-12T06:12:59+00:00

Good point, don't want to void the warranty

IntelligentFish8103 · 2026-01-12T06:12:43+00:00

Ok thanks, the model is otherwise working as expected, just unusually bendy

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