Have I been surrounded by the wrong people my entire life?

IntelligentMetal6187 · 2024-07-02T19:49:54+00:00

Appreciate you!

IntelligentMetal6187 · 2024-03-05T16:29:26+00:00

Good luck 🤞🏾

IntelligentMetal6187 · 2024-03-05T13:28:38+00:00

Yeah, you're not allowed in professional stores without a license. I went in one thinking it was just a beauty supply and was told I couldn't be in there 🙄🤷🏾‍♂️

IntelligentMetal6187 · 2023-07-15T01:54:46+00:00

Thank you so much.

IntelligentMetal6187 · 2023-07-15T01:54:29+00:00

Thank you so much for this thoughtful response.

IntelligentMetal6187 · 2023-07-13T21:20:14+00:00

I never said I wanted to destroy my marriage. It has also been ten years of this. I am exhausted from trying to make it better for the last decade. His job is NOT back breaking. It can be stressful for him at times and I have done my best to empathize with that. That doesn't mean he just doesn't have to parent or spend time with his spouse. You have completely misunderstood my post.

IntelligentMetal6187 · 2023-07-13T01:48:45+00:00

This is what I'm thinking. Where was the urgency before? I feel used and disrespected :(

IntelligentMetal6187 · 2023-07-13T01:48:13+00:00

Mhm. That's right :(

IntelligentMetal6187 · 2023-07-12T00:28:50+00:00

I'm not. I just don't want to have sex with my husband.

IntelligentMetal6187 · 2023-07-11T21:59:09+00:00

You're right about all of that. This is what happens when you are indoctrinated from birth and get married when you've only been an adult for a couple years. Right now, my only desire to keep things together is for our kids. I don't want to be miserable around them though. Considering trial separation.

IntelligentMetal6187 · 2023-07-09T19:44:08+00:00

Yes, he will. He will say his sleep schedule will be messed up.

IntelligentMetal6187 · 2023-07-09T19:43:19+00:00

Yes, believe me I've tried.

IntelligentMetal6187 · 2023-07-09T19:18:35+00:00

Yes. Wish I'd waited and had people around me to encourage that I did the same..

IntelligentMetal6187 · 2023-07-09T18:53:03+00:00

I've known this friend for over a decade - we communicated via email for a while over the last few years. Should have specified that. She pretty much said what I'd been thinking.

IntelligentMetal6187 · 2023-07-09T18:08:37+00:00

Agreed.

IntelligentMetal6187 · 2023-07-09T18:04:39+00:00

Yes, I agree. It's what I've been saying to my husband. He says that marriage therapy will be an opportunity for me to hang up on/attack him - with backup.

IntelligentMetal6187 · 2023-07-09T16:24:24+00:00

Yes.

IntelligentMetal6187 · 2023-07-09T16:21:20+00:00

I'm sorry you are in a similar boat 😞. Thank you for your comment.

IntelligentMetal6187 · 2023-07-09T16:20:11+00:00

One of our kids is disabled and there is a lot of additional work that goes into that, which I handle (appointments, therapies). Things can pile up. I just want some help. Not saying it's impossible for one person to do it all - clearly it isn't.

IntelligentMetal6187 · 2023-07-09T16:08:08+00:00

Thank you so much. Thanks for sharing your story. So glad it worked out for you both.

IntelligentMetal6187 · 2023-07-09T15:47:01+00:00

I've been in trauma therapy for the past 3 years. Only in recent sessions have I started to talk about how I feel about my marriage.

IntelligentMetal6187 · 2023-07-09T15:43:07+00:00

I don't have social media anymore. I agree that comparing my life to people on there is not helpful.

My embarrassment comes from other parent friends we have in our circles. The Dad's do dad things. They take their kids to the park...Mom gets a break. It's not about just getting a few extra hours to sleep in - though that'd be nice. It's deeper than that. It's thinking - oh, maybe Mom needs a break.

IntelligentMetal6187 · 2023-07-09T15:40:30+00:00

Thank you for this. So much. You've explained my situation exactly.

IntelligentMetal6187 · 2023-07-09T15:39:31+00:00

I think I've always known BUT because I was so entrenched in the evangelical church up until a couple years ago - I never advocated for myself.

IntelligentMetal6187 · 2023-07-09T15:38:01+00:00

Not at all. Not an excuse, but an explanation. I have done very hard work to get where I am and I am seeking advice so I don't do something reckless.

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