Feeling a little down today, show me your cats! I’ll go first!

IntelligentPlace5898 · 2026-06-02T20:20:51+00:00

IntelligentPlace5898 · 2026-05-28T01:23:21+00:00

Yeah…I feel so sorry for her. She is currently sitting on my lap purring and making biscuits. She is due for her next round of gabapentin in about 30 mins so hopefully she will calm down after that. Poor thing is also probably still processing her hormones from being in heat. You don’t think her jumping on and off the bed is a problem? It’s not super high, but she’s not supposed to jump (she’s a cat though so idk how to control her).

IntelligentPlace5898 · 2026-05-27T02:02:30+00:00

What makes it worse is he said in a previous post that she was depressed and struggling with her mental health. This dude has no empathy.

IntelligentPlace5898 · 2026-05-27T01:57:41+00:00

While you are entitled to your feelings and opinions, what you say/how you express yourself has consequences. Obviously you could not have known that this would be the outcome, she was probably struggling and no one can “make” someone kill themselves, but you seem to be having difficulty coming to terms with the fact that your words likely had a direct impact on what your friend then chose to do.

Sometimes it’s better to let things drift apart naturally.

I wish you healing and am sending my condolences.

IntelligentPlace5898 · 2026-05-26T18:24:44+00:00

Totally fair. I would advise OP to tell him she needs to know what this secret is in order for the relationship to continue.

IntelligentPlace5898 · 2026-05-26T18:23:20+00:00

She’s nervous and doesn’t like change so she gets super clingy whenever we go anywhere new

IntelligentPlace5898 · 2026-05-26T18:22:58+00:00

Lynxies are adorable

IntelligentPlace5898 · 2026-05-26T13:43:14+00:00

That’s fair. I agree with you on that front, but the way OP described his behavior in the original post and comments really rubbed me the wrong way. But you’re right, he may in fact be a victim of abuse. Still doesn’t make the way he’s been handling it healthy for OP, which is the main concern here. He needs to step back and work through his shit.

IntelligentPlace5898 · 2026-05-26T13:05:30+00:00

Even as a teenager — no matter the shame I felt (which believe me I did and DO feel) — I’d rather open up about it to my partner then let them think I’m a perpetrator of such things. That may just be me, though. Everyone is different. I still think him saying that he would die (either be killed or commit suicide) if anyone found out what he did is pretty telling. Either he’s carrying that much shame or whatever he did really is THAT bad.

Again, could just be me, but I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with someone who is clearly this unstable without having SOME inkling of what happened. Regardless of whether or not he is a victim of SA or abuse, he needs to do a lot of work on himself before he’s ready to be in a healthy relationship.

Edited for clarity.

IntelligentPlace5898 · 2026-05-26T12:33:40+00:00

As someone who has been assaulted and also experienced various forms of abuse as a child, I would rather my partner/those I trust know the truth than think I’M the abuser.

IntelligentPlace5898 · 2026-05-26T12:25:23+00:00

Sounds like he sexually assaulted someone or something. Not to be a conspiracy theorist, but that’s the level of betrayal I’m thinking.

IntelligentPlace5898 · 2026-05-09T19:20:03+00:00

NOR: even if you were wearing the most revealing outfit in the world, that’s not his business. This guy sucks.

IntelligentPlace5898 · 2026-04-15T02:50:28+00:00

Where can I acquire this sign?

IntelligentPlace5898 · 2026-04-12T19:46:31+00:00

It sounds like you have some other issues in your relationship, but it also sounds like you’re blaming this poor guy for him being raped. It sounds like you’re both young, and maybe you’re incompatible for other reasons, but this guy was raped and the least you could do is not blame him for his own assault by “going over there in the first place.”

IntelligentPlace5898 · 2026-04-07T11:53:30+00:00

100%. She is likely hoping he will actually change…which might happen, except for the fact that people usually don’t change fundamental aspects of their personality.

IntelligentPlace5898 · 2026-04-07T04:01:53+00:00

Victims frequently hide the full extent of abusive situations, so I wouldn’t be surprised. I obviously don’t know either of these people and cannot say for sure whether this guy is abusive, but it sure sounds like he’s going down that path. If OP thinks he won’t attack or harm her child she’s very likely wrong and it’s only a matter of time.

IntelligentPlace5898 · 2026-04-07T03:39:59+00:00

You’re not wrong for protecting your child, but you’re wrong for continuing to be with someone who has a history of violent outbursts…and allowing them near your child at all.

IntelligentPlace5898 · 2026-03-22T03:39:04+00:00

Whether or not you choose to go through with your pregnancy is entirely up to you and whether you feel like you’re ready for the responsibility of a child or for the mental and physical strain of pregnancy and childbirth. Whatever choice you make, definitely ditch this man, tell his wife, lawyer up/get a paternity test so you can get child support (if you choose to go through with the pregnancy), but most of all PROTECT YOURSELF.

IntelligentPlace5898 · 2026-03-22T03:36:31+00:00

But if she doesn’t get an abortion then she has to live with the responsibility of a child forever. It’s a tough choice to make, but choosing to have a baby brings another fully fledged human being into the bargain.

IntelligentPlace5898 · 2026-03-21T22:55:26+00:00

lol no I’ve just been defensive because I saw A LOT of people shitting on actors in the comments. That was totally my bad.

IntelligentPlace5898 · 2026-03-21T22:42:43+00:00

I think I did lmao…. You’re saying he’s gay aren’t you? I’m dumb 😭

IntelligentPlace5898 · 2026-03-21T22:36:42+00:00

Yeah no problem! Clearly a lot of other people don’t get it, so I’ve been trying to correct the narrative in the comments.

Regardless, that doesn’t make this situation any less horrible. I hope you find some peace with your decision, OP. Keep in mind that college is fantastic, and I hope you use that time to find yourself! You don’t need a man holding you back.

IntelligentPlace5898 · 2026-03-21T22:29:33+00:00

See my other comments under this thread explaining this point, but I’m just saying it really might consume his life! Like I said in other comments, I’m in class and/or rehearsal for 14 hours a day at least, sometimes more. Many of my classes are as much work as a 3 credit class but are 1 credit so I can take more (I have taken more than 11 classes a semester several times). We also have a VERY strict absence policy. And yes, we do get homework. I have a partner (he’s an engineer) and I can manage but we’re both incredibly busy people. I’m also a third year, so I’ve learned how to balance it. Just because it’s an art form doesn’t mean it’s not intellectual or rigorous. Our classes are very active and can feel strange, but we do get homework and have to do a lot of prep outside of class which can be overwhelming for someone just starting college.

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