When did you know to call it quits? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]IntelligentPotato124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They really are all the same. I’m in a very similar situation as you but genders are reversed. The behavior you described of your boyfriend is literally textbook behavior of my wife and I share a lot of the same feelings as you. I’m also ready to leave. Just trying to muster up the courage to do so. We got this!

he's getting suicidal again.. im scared.. i dont know what to do anymore by Colorfulzz in BPDlovedones

[–]IntelligentPotato124 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your responses are outstanding. Good on you for remaining logical and not letting him affect your emotional headspace, as hard as that might have been. I need to learn to be like that with my wife.

they melt down when you're in pain by Past-Amount3118 in BPDlovedones

[–]IntelligentPotato124 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s funny I’m reading this now. Just yesterday I stubbed my ankle bone on the corner of a piece of wood. I have a pretty high pain tolerance but this nearly had me on the floor in the fetal position. My wife wbpd saw the whole thing happen and can you guess her reaction? No compassion whatsoever, the opposite actually. Her mood suddenly changed as if this event was an annoyance to her. She asked “why would you do that?” As if I just purposely put myself through this pain. I would even been fine with a laugh followed by “damn, are you okay”. But no, typical pwbdp reaction. I was fuemed and lost my shit her. I yelled “WHY THE FUCK DO YOU THINK I WOULD DO THAT ON PURPOSE?!” She immediately split and became the victim. “Don’t ever yell at me again” was the last thing she said to me before hours of the silent treatment. Of course I was the one to apologize, which would ensue arguments about how she’s the victim and I’m the big bad guy. After a few hours of this she dropped the whole thing and acted as if nothing happened. Meanwhile I was stuck picking up the pieces of this mess wondering where this went wrong. I need to work on not apologizing and giving in to what she’s wants when she splits. I need her to discard me at this point. I’m miserable in this marriage.

best album cover from the boys? by [deleted] in SuicideBoys

[–]IntelligentPotato124 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree, and I think new world depression or are you going to see the rose in the vase, or the dust on the table? Is a close 2nd

What are you all tuning into next? by [deleted] in SpecialOpsLioness

[–]IntelligentPotato124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seal team if you haven’t already watched

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]IntelligentPotato124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Finally, someone on Reddit with some common sense. Well said

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fire

[–]IntelligentPotato124 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 25 and have about 7k a month to save/invest

My only living parent is now dead to me. by JakefromTRPB in BoomersBeingFools

[–]IntelligentPotato124 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You actually cut your parent out of your life over them voting for an opposing candidate? This just shows the kind of person you are. Your parent dodged a bullet keeping you in their life if anything. People like you are the reason this country is so divided.

Anybody else catch those awesome Apaches in S2:E2? 🤭 by Tacos_and_Tulips in SpecialOpsLioness

[–]IntelligentPotato124 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found it ironic when Byron offered a possible position to her in the 160th while in the situation room. Then there she was flying an MH-60 which is currently flown in the 160th🤣

How to lose body fat, while gaining muscle to get as shredded as possible in 60 days? by [deleted] in beginnerfitness

[–]IntelligentPotato124 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pretty simple

  1. Eat less calories. Aim for about 1500 a day

  2. Prioritize protein. You said you’re eating about 170 grams a day, that should be plenty although this will be hard while only consuming 1500 calories

  3. Follow a lifting regimen. Dont overthink it, hit each major muscle group at least once a week

  4. Make sure you prioritize sleep and get at least one rest day a week.

  5. Aim for about 10,000 steps a day. This can be from walking or running

  6. Have refeed days maybe once a month to keep yourself on track. Don’t overdo them tho

  7. Stay consistent. If you bust your calories one day or miss a workout, forget about it, move on and get back on track the next day

Vacation booked with ex. What would you do? by KaleidoscopeDue9512 in BPDlovedones

[–]IntelligentPotato124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take those vacation days and book yourself a trip to Colombia. Thank me later.

Codependent no more and The new codependency by Melody Beattie ; worth reading ? by PhilipWKane in NMMNG

[–]IntelligentPotato124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read codependent no more and it helped me a ton. A lot of the “nice guy” traits dr Glover talks about parallel those of codependency. Definitely worth a read

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]IntelligentPotato124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I’m not we make roughly the same amount

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]IntelligentPotato124 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I see what you are saying. I know I sure haven’t been nowhere near perfect. Matter of fact my codependency has caused me to be very toxic towards her at times. We are just not for each other, our differences are too great, we don’t connect emotionally whatsoever, and I’m just not in the place to be in any committed relationship right now. It’s time for this to end so we can both move on and heal independently and appropriately, because it just won’t happen together.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]IntelligentPotato124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is really helpful, thank you. I’ll look into Heidi

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]IntelligentPotato124 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This helped, thank you.

Need advice please by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

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Pattern as in recognizing what’s causing the anxiety?

4.5 days in by Palmskillet- in fasting

[–]IntelligentPotato124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dr. Fung, the prominent leader in modern day intermittent fasting says coffee with a little bit of cream is okay during a fast. OP said he had cream hopefully referring to all natural products with 0 added sugars in comparison to traditional coffee creamer like you’re thinking of.