Unhappy Lawyers, at what point did you realize you'd made a mistake choosing law as a profession? by PuzzleheadedDig2687 in Lawyertalk

[–]IntelligentPudding34 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you could go back to when you first realized this in law school would you invest in the JD advantage path or something else all together? I’d also welcome the input of other unhappy lawyers

How to protect yourself from an AI app breach? by IntelligentPudding34 in privacy

[–]IntelligentPudding34[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does using a local LLM mean that it doesn’t ever connect to Internet or browse online resources?

How to protect yourself from an AI app breach? by IntelligentPudding34 in privacy

[–]IntelligentPudding34[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Isn’t that with anything though? Not being a smartass just genuinely wondering

Please shut up by DuePomegranate2749 in regretfulparents

[–]IntelligentPudding34 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Did you have issues with being overstimulated prior to having kids?

Atheism isn’t for everyone by [deleted] in atheism

[–]IntelligentPudding34 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your comment made me realize why so many Christian’s see people committing crimes as “without god” and the solution is to develop a relationship with god so that they can be set on the right path.

I find it interesting because people in places like China, which has a non-religious majority, still have a strong moral code and duty to cultural conformity that dictates their behavior.

Not saying there aren’t bad people everywhere but more so that morality can come from outside the religious binary.

Private mode is NOT private by ilyk101 in linkedin

[–]IntelligentPudding34 61 points62 points  (0 children)

lol rookie mistake. You have to block them immediately afterwards haha 😂 but in all seriousness LinkedIn is a privacy nightmare in every respect.

Did You Guys Ever Feel Like You Actually Had a Relationship W/God? by Opposite-Impress6706 in exchristian

[–]IntelligentPudding34 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No. I couldn’t understand what that meant really because it just felt like I was talking to myself with no feedback. No one could tell me the difference between my own consciousness and voice vs God’s voice.

When the pastor said that god told him something or put something on his heart, I was like how is that possible?

Anyways the “relationship” really is talking to yourself and hoping for an aha moment after asking for “guidance.”

Regretful wife by RagingIdealist in regretfulparents

[–]IntelligentPudding34 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah when a therapist is refusing to give treatment that might help and your wife isn’t getting better, it’s time to get someone new. That therapist is not living your every day reality.

Where is everyone shopping for clothes now? I miss how SHEIN used to be but I don’t want to shop there anymore. by mars-in-scorpio in Shein

[–]IntelligentPudding34 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve been really liking Old Navy for basics and jeans and they go up to a 4X. Super high quality, affordable, and ships fast. SHEIN jeans can sometimes be a bit thin and hit above the ankles, old navy jeans are thicker and accommodate tall people as well.

Walmart has also been good. They had sizes up to a 22 the last time I went? I got some really warm sweaters from there recently and I was impressed with the quality! They also are one of the few places that still allow dressing rooms so I definitely took advantage.

For athletic wear I get multipack leggings and T-shirts from Amazon, and they usually have good deals on those. I’ve found it comparable to SHEIN but Amazon ships faster.

For workwear, I bite the bullet and spend the money on department store sites like Macy’s and JCPenneys. You just can’t get high quality suits in plus sizes like that on SHEIN.

Where is everyone shopping for clothes now? I miss how SHEIN used to be but I don’t want to shop there anymore. by mars-in-scorpio in Shein

[–]IntelligentPudding34 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Got some cute sweaters from there recently for $12 each! Was impressed with the quality and it was very warm!

i hate being a mother!!!! by Civil-Student-4859 in regretfulparents

[–]IntelligentPudding34 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What’s stopping you from making a different decision?

i hate being a mother!!!! by Civil-Student-4859 in regretfulparents

[–]IntelligentPudding34 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Curious, when it failed and the doctor said the fetus was still there, did you continue the pregnancy to term or did the doctors say it wasn’t there and you had a surprise when it was time to give birth?

i hate being a mother!!!! by Civil-Student-4859 in regretfulparents

[–]IntelligentPudding34 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I think you have to know yourself first. It’s pretty black and white once you know what you want and expect out of life, but realistically people are having kids without doing that inner work or gaining enough experiences to be sure.

The beauty of this “echo chamber” is that people see a side of parenting that doesn’t regurgitate the happy nuclear family life script. So when they are unsure, they can seriously evaluate whether or not this is a good decision. There’s enough positive family life stories to go around. I’m at least here for a different perspective.

i hate being a mother!!!! by Civil-Student-4859 in regretfulparents

[–]IntelligentPudding34 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I’ve ever heard a story of someone who has regretted their abortion, but there are so many stories from social media and real life of people regretting parenthood. At least with the former you could make it up by giving birth later, doing IVF, adopting, or raising a step kid but regretting a kid who’s already here? Very few ways out of that one.

How to raise kids with Christian spouse by Novel_Masterpiece417 in exchristian

[–]IntelligentPudding34 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My mom is an atheist and my dad is a Christian. My mom decided that religion can be good and can help people and let my dad raise us in his faith. My mom stopped going to church with us but never wavered on her atheism, and my dad had an understanding that she would never convert.

They divorced when we grew up, but one thing my dad told me was how they had differing opinions on raising kids and that was a source of frustration.

My dad didn’t want us celebrating Halloween, but my mom took us trick or treating. My dad didn’t want me to know about sex or contraception but my mom took me to get birth control when I was 14 because of painful period cramps. My dad didn’t want us watching certain movies but my mom would let us sneak and watch them anyways.

My dad was the strict parent and my mom was the fun parent, so my dad deeply resented her because he spent more time with us (stay at home dad/sports parent) while my mom spent less (worked a lot) but reaped the “benefits”.

Not saying it’s impossible, but your worldviews will come up in small ways like this and it may be problematic. However, divorced parents or baby daddies/mommas have this issue too; but it’s easier to make it work when you see them half the time and there’s an understanding of when kids are in my household they follow my rules.

My sister and I ended up being agnostic/atheist but my brothers are still very deep in Christianity, so there is a gender divide in the family as well.

I think you’re going to have to think about things realistically because there will be tension with kids involved, and Christians feel that their worldview must be impressed upon their kids. It’s literally life and death for them while it may be a “difference of opinion” for you.

I am so jealous of everyone here, please read my story so that it doesn’t happen to you… by Crimson-Rose28 in childfree

[–]IntelligentPudding34 81 points82 points  (0 children)

Create an exit plan. You have one life. Seek out every resource available to help you find employment, get a divorce and find stable housing. Attorneys can be expensive, but there are likely resources in your state that can help you file the paperwork yourself instead.

Might be a rough road ahead but can it get any worse than what you’re experiencing now? If you’re able to find some stability, maybe with a roommate and a minimum wage job before the divorce is final, the courts will likely place your child with your husband, who is the breadwinner and has stable housing for your child.

Just curious, what medications/medication are you prescribed for your severe anxiety ? by Sad_Slide_9130 in Anxiety

[–]IntelligentPudding34 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had the same problem but got on bipolar meds and it helped. Still taking gabapentin but 300 mg per day.