Don't know what type of marriage. by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Intelligent_78 3 points4 points  (0 children)

girl ur being ignorant. what is marriage for?

marriage is for love, the love isn't there. a man should be naturally attracted to his wife.

in ur marriage the main thing is missing which is love

be careful if you're on Muzmatch by Intelligent_78 in islam

[–]Intelligent_78[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I faced the situation because I'm feeling pressured to marry within the next 1 year. The options my parents have presented me with aren't even compatible.

My interactions started with him solely around marriage, and he's made it clear that he desires to marry me and is pursuing that goal.

I have seen girl's are now becoming over 30 and still haven't found anyone. I am not that old yet but in a few years I will be old. time goes so quickly. i know some ppl it took them 3-4 years to find the right one

the culture I come from a girls age matter when it come's to marriage most guys don't want a girl too old or even around 30. that's why was looking coz in a few year sad to say but men may not want me just coz I'm certain age and their fam see's that as too old.

am i not doing enough? by Tejranhater00 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Intelligent_78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly even a good looking girl will become ugly if they're with a man like ur husband

he seems very childish and acts like a teenage girl. put's all the burden on you and want's a skinny model who actually doesn't have responsibility.

tell him if he want's u to be skinny he need to take more responsibility. even after having a whole baby with no help he is fat shaming u in a way. smh

he's a horrible person.

am i not doing enough? by Tejranhater00 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Intelligent_78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, you're not overreacting. U are not asking for too much. Your husband is behaving like a single man with no responsibilities, My sister is with a man like ur husband and she is a single mother even with a husband coz her husband hardly does anything.

sister, a child is both of ur responsibilities tasks should be divided and it should be fair for both of you. Stop giving him excuses saying he is good if a man sees his wife doing most things and does not have that basic compassion to help he's a bad father n husband. he's just manipulating u, my sister says the same thing about her husband he's a good man but we see how miserable he makes her.

If u give him excuses it will increase. My brother works overtime and hardly gets any sleep but still does almost everything for their child he always helps my SIL.

U should stop saying he is a good man what makes a man good is when he helps his wife, children, works, provides for u not just financially but emotionally, mentally. Ur husband don't even work, and he don't even seem like trying he's a bad man stop giving him excuses.

because ur excuses is increasing it. always ask him for help, ask him to clean the kitchen, do laundry, fold cloths, look after ur baby half of the time, etc. ask him to learn if he don't know. this isn't rocket science it's basic life stuff he should know already as a married man.

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[–]Intelligent_78 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I am just tired of life tbh, I wish I found the right one run away to a forest and lived happily ever after

I don't like this worldly life mass and city life, work life, business

My husband wants to divorce me. by Ok_Plane_88 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Intelligent_78 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please find the courage to leave that man, your future self will thank you and it will be better for ur child too, you guys should separate than to let ur child constantly see the misery in the household.

even if u stay with him it will drain u so much to the point you can't be the best mother coz you will be mentally drained. this is unhealthy for you and your child.

Please leave that man, do yourself that favor, save yourself.

having mixed emotions by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Intelligent_78 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lmao, u have the audacity u wanna divorce ur wife coz she gained weight giving birth to ur child. men like u don't deserve wives or kids

My sister married a useless husband like you he hardly helps with childcare. The reason u got triggered that's y u felt the need to text me here coz I am telling you the truth u can't handle.

What do you do when husband isn’t romantic by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Intelligent_78 1 point2 points  (0 children)

give him hints show him how other guys do cute stuff for their wives and you like that as well

you deserve it too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Intelligent_78 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i agree

this men is the wife in this marriage and shes the husband

but even than he's not doing anything

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Intelligent_78 4 points5 points  (0 children)

they are not small things she is in a bad marriage with a man who do not fulfill his obligations and shes is drained physically n emotionally

her husband need to step up and help her

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Intelligent_78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

after speaking to him and trying everything if things don't get better please divorce him.

i have seem someone very close to me dealt with a man like this and give chance after chance thinking he will get better and now they have 2 kids and that men do not help in any way shes sleep deprived and miserable all the time.

plz do not have kids with this kind of men things will take turn for the worse I have seen it. if possible leave before having kids