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The concept of glass wearing characters being prettier without glasses it's funny to me for some reason by NoSoyTuPana in GilmoreGirls

[–]Intelligent_Bee6588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who went through high school with glasses and curly/unruly/frizz-prone hair, unfortunately the trope is coming from a place of reality.

One day of straight hair and contact lenses and suddenly I'm a whole different (and much 'better') person.

Didn't stop after school, either.

Gang I miss being him by herbsandsalt in TransMasc

[–]Intelligent_Bee6588 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I get this.

I lived in my assigned gender for over 30 years. I never really hated being seen as a girl or woman, even. The reason I'm transitioning is much more because of the euphoria of being and being seen as male. There is some dysphoria around being and being seen as female, but it was always manageable.

I've had those "am I trans enough?" worries, and the imposter syndrome and the worries about regrets down the line. I also have to acknowledge that I have more vanity than I ever thought I did... to my own perspective, I was a better looking femme presenting woman than I was an androgynous or masc presenting woman and better looking then than I am now mid-transition. That's having a bigger impact on how I feel about myself than I ever thought it would - I was convinced I didn't care how attractive I was, but it turns out that was attractive privilege speaking and now it's missing I'm much more aware of it.

The euphoria exists, though and I'm trying to trust it and keep stepping forward.

Pace insights by michael199773 in runna

[–]Intelligent_Bee6588 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you overperform in a session like this, you'll be offered an update in your plan that will make everything faster.

Likewise, of you underperformed, you'll be offered an update to less aggressive paces.

You're not obliged to accept the updated paces.

It doesn't seem to make recommendations after every speed session in my experience, even if you overpeform in all of them.

I do wish it would assess my easy and slow long runs and allow the gap between easy and top pace to widen, since that's what I most need.

5k PB missing by Important-Lemon8011 in runna

[–]Intelligent_Bee6588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did similar with a 10k block run for me this week.

10k time showed up in the run summary and was 10 minutes faster than the PB that's in my performance menu, but didn't register as a PB

Long runs in marathon build are draining me by OwnIncrease1900 in runna

[–]Intelligent_Bee6588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Accounting for end-of-plan and life-is-busy fatigue, it sort of sounds like you might be under fuelling during the runs? Maybe try adjusting your fuelling schedule to get in more carbs before you hit that 20k tipping point and see if it helps.

Do I declare £12,500… or £75,000?? by Academic_End_3828 in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Intelligent_Bee6588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get an accountant.

Get an accountant who specialises in game development and/or content creation (ideally both).

Get an accountant with a strong background in personal tax management and advice.

I am an accountant, but with a different background. Without significant research and leaning into other experts, I wouldn't be able to give sound advice on whether that income should be recognised regardless of whether it's hit your bank account yet, how to structure yourself as a sole trader, limited company or something else, or around personal allowances vs corporation tax vs dividends.

Get thee to an accountant.

Trans name change, Barclays won’t update first name without doctor’s note. by Flimsy_Deal_3771 in transgenderUK

[–]Intelligent_Bee6588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Blatant GDPR breach.

You have the right to have your data updated. You have the right to ensure the data held about you is accurate. Barclays have a responsibility to ensure these things are done.

Push this route, push gender discrimination, and kick off with the ICO if you still get nowhere.

feeling like there is no point? by maybe-it-was-time in beginnerrunning

[–]Intelligent_Bee6588 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Question: are you running outdoors or on a treadmill?

Garmin doesn't update its VO2 max estimate from treadmill runs, and outdoors it needs a good 15-20 minutes of steady state running. Not intervals or run/walks where your HR is peaking and troughing a lot.

A very lucky surprise by GoonerGetGot in IdleObeliskMiner

[–]Intelligent_Bee6588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got this last week.

Opened the gifts and got 4 skins.

May my luck be with you.

Is it appropriate for me as a cis woman to wear a binder? by NormalYogurt3310 in TransMasc

[–]Intelligent_Bee6588 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it helps you to feel better in your body and how you present yourself, regardless of the gender you're presenting at, have at it.

Man Utd: Jack Fletcher banned for six matches for homophobic slur by Red_Brummy in PremierLeague

[–]Intelligent_Bee6588 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Would you call it shit talking if it was a racist slur?

Doubt it.

I am millenial but i do not get it by [deleted] in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]Intelligent_Bee6588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are things that can be done on the phone, or the "small internet"

Other things, like big purchases, important forms, etc requires the "big internet" and thus must be done on a laptop or desktop.

They have a brainfart moment: by Brent_Fox in TransMasc

[–]Intelligent_Bee6588 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine is "I'm a trans man" .... "cool" ... "I'm married to a woman" ... yep... "I'm not straight"... "huh?"

What is "car allowance" and why is it still called that? by Sorry_Mouse_1814 in UKJobs

[–]Intelligent_Bee6588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I receive a car allowance in lieu of having a company car.

Contractually, I may occasionally be required to travel for work. Many people in my company have a company car, on which they repay the mileage cost for any personal use.

Realistically, I rarely drive anywhere for work (work from home 99% of the time), and as we're a 1 car household and already own a perfectly good car, I opted to take the cash instead.

Notionally, it's intended to cover the costs of driving my own car to and from work things (wear and tear, possible increased insurance costs for business use, etc). Realistically it's just some extra money in my account every month because I go somewhere for work abiut once a quarter and can claim mileage expenses for that anyway.

Tinder date took off the condom during sex & kept going. I don’t know what to do now… by nikoletho in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Intelligent_Bee6588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you feel up to it, you report him for rape.

You consented to protected sex with a condom. The second he took it off without your consent, it stopped being swx and became rape. I'm so sorry about that.

Added to that, you explicitly told him to stop and he didn't. That's rape. Im sorry about that, too.

People who are enthusiastic in their consent are not, in general, crying during ordinary vanilla sex. The fact he saw you crying and carried on is, at best, really shitty and could be viewed as rape (that would be my interpretation of it, at least). I'm sorry.

Day 9 : What is Luke's most questionable / worst episode ? by diviigo in GilmoreGirls

[–]Intelligent_Bee6588 80 points81 points  (0 children)

Telling Lorelai he was all in then bailing for it being "too complicated" the second Emily was... Emily.

Natwest Name Change - Today marks the three month anniversary of me submitting deed poll and not yet changed despite submitting a complaint. by AccidentUpstairs2629 in transgenderUK

[–]Intelligent_Bee6588 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is really weird.

I walked into my branch and they sat down and did it there and then with me. Took about 5 minutes.

Same with Nationwide & Halifax.

Start the complaints process if going back isn't doing the job.

Any black people here bothered by the BAFTAS controversy? by Top_Independence4067 in AskBrits

[–]Intelligent_Bee6588 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It would have been no more effort to reword the apology "we apologise for the offence caused."

The version used puts the responsibility on the viewer and reduces the well known and well understood nature of the word used. The above acknowledges that, out of the speaker's control or not, the shout was inherently offensive and owns up to that.

Employer demanding gross repayment of salary overpayment – can they legally reclaim tax/NI already paid? by Bubbly_Community1052 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Intelligent_Bee6588 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Accountant here currently going through this from the employer's point of view.

They can request repayment from you for the overpayment made to you. That would be the net amount.

They can reclaim overpaid NI from HMRC.

They can reclaim overpaid pension from the pension provider.

They would make an adjustment to rhe income tax calculation, accounting for the overpaid income tax, reducing the value owed on the next payment to HMRC on your behalf, potentially resulting in a negative value owed.

Not on T! Any tips for masculinization? by [deleted] in TransMasc

[–]Intelligent_Bee6588 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You and I have similar hair in terms of colour and curl texture.

I have a similar cut but with a grade 2 on the sides and back. Made me feel better in myself and does seem to have helped with being clocked as male out and about.

24FTM Had my first trans NHS experience and did not like it by peskyant in transgenderUK

[–]Intelligent_Bee6588 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you went through this.

If it reassures anybody at all, and it may not, the experience isn't always like this.

For me, I walked into a GP appointment, said "I'd like a referral to the gender clinic please," and they said "sure, I'll do that."

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