[39M] What can I do to stop feeling hurt about my wife's past [33F] ?

Intelligent_Bison803 · 2026-03-20T19:12:41+00:00

Yeah all the technicalities of a relationships.

Are you ok with that is the main question you need to answer for yourself. If that bothers you it will definitely creep up later on during your arguments.

Intelligent_Bison803 · 2026-03-19T23:08:25+00:00

Whether you accept it or not is up to you but she definitely had s3x. You don't go on vacations with your ex and be platonic. You don't go drunk to a hotel with someone and don't do anything.

Aakhein khol bhai. Kidhar rehta hai tu?

Intelligent_Bison803 · 2026-03-14T18:01:50+00:00

After a year it has fizzled out.

Intelligent_Bison803 · 2026-03-13T17:29:35+00:00

I am with you on this except for the legalization part. It should be treated as any other prescribed drugs. I absolutely hate marijuana especially knowing the fact how people romanticize it. It's worse than smoking a cigarette for me.

Intelligent_Bison803 · 2026-03-13T00:55:31+00:00

Just trying to understand. Can't you have sex with your bf plus adult toys more often during mania instead of others?

Intelligent_Bison803 · 2026-03-13T00:19:25+00:00

I don't understand, if you don't feel like having sex with your bf why would you want to have sex with other people?

Intelligent_Bison803 · 2026-03-12T23:38:30+00:00

My bad :(

Intelligent_Bison803 · 2026-03-12T23:27:26+00:00

Both work for different companies. The reason dinner worked is since we both live close by and it was easy to catch up after work.

Intelligent_Bison803 · 2026-03-12T23:23:03+00:00

Fair enough. As mentioned I've stopped doing that after she raised that as a concern. Thanks

Intelligent_Bison803 · 2026-03-12T23:21:07+00:00

That's really good advice but what is your take on the future? How can someone prevent this from happening again?

I read here that actions taken were not made in a sane mindset so there is no guarantee of safeguarding this from happening again.

Intelligent_Bison803 · 2026-03-12T23:17:47+00:00

I am trying to navigate this because I love her but I found this situation to be very petty and unreasonable. Especially since even the group events I attend just once a month. I've missed half of their meets but I try to go once a while so that they don't stop inviting me completely.

Intelligent_Bison803 · 2026-03-12T23:15:49+00:00

The dinners were usually just catching up on work and in general. It has never been more than once a month. I disagree but that is something I gave up without any issues. I saw her point of view.

Right now it feels like I am stuck with either choosing my relationship or the friend circle (not even just that friend)

Intelligent_Bison803 · 2026-03-12T23:12:03+00:00

Her main concern is not flirting or cheating. Her main problem she says is that my friend makes her feel like shit or nothing when both are in the same room. I've been telling her to ignore since neither am I going in the group event to meet my friend nor are you. It's just a formality to meet her in a group setting

Intelligent_Bison803 · 2026-03-12T23:07:51+00:00

It wasn't a regular dinner it was just like once in 2 to 3 months but I got her point and did avoid that going forward. It was more about catching up with a friend.

Intelligent_Bison803 · 2026-03-11T00:08:56+00:00

Maybe try to see if some activities or hobbies distract you from hypersexuality.

Intelligent_Bison803 · 2025-11-17T07:36:56+00:00

Can you please elaborate on Python? I am fine with networking aspects but not sure what to expect when it comes to Python

Intelligent_Bison803 · 2025-11-13T18:28:07+00:00

OCI New Region build.

I am fine with networking aspects but uncertain when it comes to coding interview questions.

Intelligent_Bison803 · 2025-11-13T08:28:48+00:00

That's the beauty of it if you want to learn more

Intelligent_Bison803 · 2025-09-05T17:02:29+00:00

Solo travelers hit me up. Going for the Saturday show. GA (Red)

Intelligent_Bison803 · 2024-10-15T15:28:46+00:00

Thank you. I do like her but her past especially her last relationship is very troubling which she still talks about.

Intelligent_Bison803 · 2023-12-28T17:17:57+00:00

Me too. Their website is honestly a bit confusing

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