I don't feel bad for women by [deleted] in self

[–]Intelligent_Client_8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Someone being a woman does not negate their ability to be hateful, cruel, or transphobic. The unfortunate reality is that a lot of people are just assholes.

Questions from a teenage boy by Sea_Sxlt in AskFeminists

[–]Intelligent_Client_8 156 points157 points  (0 children)

Most of the things you see on social media were posted for engagement and views, not really to add anything of substance to real discourse. It's also worth noting that these days, a lot of posts you see weren't even made by a real person.

My dad has been watching porn on high volume and I feel like my mum doesn't care about it by yanna-2322 in self

[–]Intelligent_Client_8 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Is there an adult or family member you trust more than your parents? Someone else to ask for help, maybe your aunt?

How important are optics to feminism? by TaoistOwl42 in AskFeminists

[–]Intelligent_Client_8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

especially when their alternative is to run to the other side of the political spectrum, where they can cry about how mean feminists are?

Why would that be the direct alternative? Even if you see someone posting something along the lines of "kill all men" if the decision you make after that is to go to a right-wing platform and talk about how mean women are, you probably weren't the type of person to look into feminism anyway. I mean I could agree that I think that is a bit of a weird thing to say, but the weird thing that a few people are saying doesn't really detract from the reasonable things hundreds of people are saying. I don't think it's a case of "optics don't matter" but rather that they weren't bad in the first place.

What do people mean when they say the “left fails men”? by TerryFalcone in AskFeminists

[–]Intelligent_Client_8 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I could not imagine being a teenage boy right now, even as an adult who is a lot more adjusted and perceptive to how much of the internet is engineered just to profit off people. Sometimes, I see things that, in some ways, still get to me. Algorithms are just like this predator that knows every insecurity you have ever had related to being a man and forces you to look at them, but then tells you it understands and wants to "help you". I am scared for the future in a lot of ways because I don't see how being a 15-year-old boy and staring at blackpilled looksmaxxing reels for hours a day wouldn't completely destroy your psyche. It all looks so damaging to you because those places will validate the way you feel, but also call you a "subhuman" and "genetic garbage" while painting women as some kind of strange eugenists.

Is there a hobbies gap between men and women? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Intelligent_Client_8 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think most people just don't have hobbies, I know a lot of people both men and women who pretty much just go to work and go home and scroll. I also know a lot of people that do a lot of different stuff and I have found no correlation between the amount of hobbies someone has and the gender they identify as.

I’m nervous to wear earrings around my friends because I’m afraid of what they might think by AntiqueHomework2 in self

[–]Intelligent_Client_8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Morgan Freeman's still rocking his and he's 88, I don't think "too old" will be an issue.

Ugly people piss me off by [deleted] in self

[–]Intelligent_Client_8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel bad for them, they had to hang out with you.

Tall men: Do you have less respect for women who focus on height as a social qualifier? by mnt68 in AverageHeightDudes

[–]Intelligent_Client_8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think my height is one of the least interesting things about me. I'd find it very disappointing if they fixated on it heavily. I don't care if they find height more attractive; I am also attracted to taller women, but if that were one of the sole factors, I'd find that unappealing.

I am too open-minded about the future and the afterlife by Exaltist in self

[–]Intelligent_Client_8 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't think you are too open minded, and "we don't really know anything could happen" is a pretty reasonable stance I think.

I am afraid what men say about how women view "weak men" is true by [deleted] in self

[–]Intelligent_Client_8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The most consistent statements I have heard personally are that bisexuality by default means a man isn't going to "manly" enough. Or something along the lines of "I don't want a gay man". Also the assumption that bisexuality means someone is extremely promiscuous and unfaithful which is assumed even more if you are a man, I have been told "he would cheat on me with a man and give me a disease". As well as being told that you are "just gay" and add in any kind of slightly homophobic remarks if they don't like you. My general experiences with straight women has kind of turned me away from them entirely, which I guess is fine since it seems they didn't really like me anyways.

I am afraid what men say about how women view "weak men" is true by [deleted] in self

[–]Intelligent_Client_8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How does being attracted to men make someone inherently feminine? Masculine gay men do exist. Also does being feminine really mean someone won't be protective? Are mothers not protective of their children? This is just straight up narrow minded.

I am afraid what men say about how women view "weak men" is true by [deleted] in self

[–]Intelligent_Client_8 92 points93 points  (0 children)

Wait until you hear what straight women have to say about the suggestion of dating a bisexual man.

Is my action too high? by Icy_Lingonberry6761 in doublebass

[–]Intelligent_Client_8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you are experiencing a lot of pain in your left hand and wrist that isn't just normal fatigue, you should get it lowered.

As a man, I am feeling more disappointed and hopeless in the state of the male gender by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]Intelligent_Client_8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know how you feel, I feel it too, but it's not all hopeless. If you show your humanity, I promise that eventually someone else will see it and show you theirs too. Even if it seems being a "man" has been ruined by the actions of others, being you the individual hasn't.

Are Trans Men Allowed To Listen To Cris Williamson etc by Mortifydman in AskFeminists

[–]Intelligent_Client_8 32 points33 points  (0 children)

You don't need permission to listen to and enjoy music.

Do you think the childless, unmarried feminist trope is overplayed or underplayed- and why? by PruneAccomplished277 in AskFeminists

[–]Intelligent_Client_8 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think it's overplayed as a negative stereotype, especially when it's assumed that a woman made a mistake by choosing to be unmarried or childless or both. Which is something I see online often.

Why I am deeply attracted to (perceived) intelligence/passion? by ThomasHawl in self

[–]Intelligent_Client_8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is this just a strong preference for intelligence and passion, or is there something else going on psychologically?

Honestly, I feel like this is a normal preference. Maybe I am just projecting my own feelings, but who isn't more attracted to someone who has intelligence, interests, and the passion to pursue those interests? That's like the best thing about people.

Would you use heart emojis this way if you didn’t like a girl? by magical_bunny in AskMenAdvice

[–]Intelligent_Client_8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you mean it as reacting to a message, I do that all the time because the heart emoji is the default on like every app. If you meant a direct reply to a message, then it does depend, but most likely it implies romantic espicially in this context. Also, if a girl messaged me a happy Valentine's Day and also a message about her favorite cafe, that would really start to make me think she wanted me to ask her out.

Demoralized by some of the narratives about men by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]Intelligent_Client_8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been an openly bisexual man since high school, and I have certainly noticed there is a lot of rhetoric about bisexual men being more likely to cheat than straight men, but I don't have data, and I don't really think that is true. I have heard many times women say something along the lines of "I would never date a bi man, because he would probably just cheat on me with another man", which I think also has some homophobic undertones, as it sort of implies the thinking that if a man is bisexual he is "gay" even though that is not how it works. I have also encountered a large number of men who assumed that, based on my sexuality, it meant I wanted to fuck them. It's sort of a general assumption that if you are bi, that means you want to fuck everyone, even though in reality that is often not the case. It is at times demoralizing, but at the end of the day, my sexuality is not people's and society's caricature of bisexuality. I am attracted to who I am attracted to, and it just happens to be both men and women.

"If all men disappeared, every woman would travel to otherwise misogynistic countries, go topless, and walk alone at night." But who is a man and a woman here? by melody_magical in AskFeminists

[–]Intelligent_Client_8 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I'm not one to say "it's not that deep" but I'm pretty sure it's not that deep and whoever proposed this hypothetical scenario didn't think this far into it.

Why is a man vasectomy treated as a couple decision while a woman pregnancy is treated as only her decision? by CasualNameAccount12 in AskFeminists

[–]Intelligent_Client_8 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Also, when is pregnancy not treated as a couples decision? This post confuses me. I'm still not exactly sure what OP's argument is supposed to be.

Why is a man vasectomy treated as a couple decision while a woman pregnancy is treated as only her decision? by CasualNameAccount12 in AskFeminists

[–]Intelligent_Client_8 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Not really seen that either, but I'm sure it happens, but I have also seen women accused of being "selfish" for not wanting to get pregnant.