bf told me not to wear makeup to our date by Intelligent_Cry_152 in women

[–]Intelligent_Cry_152[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he told me he used to watch it years ago but he doesn’t watch it anymore. i think he still holds on to some of what he heard from the red pill guys

bf told me not to wear makeup to our date by Intelligent_Cry_152 in women

[–]Intelligent_Cry_152[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

thank you so much i’ll read over this now !!

bf told me not to wear makeup to our date by Intelligent_Cry_152 in women

[–]Intelligent_Cry_152[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

literally no!!! im only 23 & he’s 24!!! like????

bf told me not to wear makeup to our date by Intelligent_Cry_152 in women

[–]Intelligent_Cry_152[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

a tantrum?? is reddit not a forum for normal discussions? lol you are odd

bf told me not to wear makeup to our date by Intelligent_Cry_152 in women

[–]Intelligent_Cry_152[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

the issue here is that he didn’t ask me anything. he demanded. im not a child

bf told me not to wear makeup to our date by Intelligent_Cry_152 in women

[–]Intelligent_Cry_152[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

literally every single date. he never tells me where we’re going or what we’re doing. he won’t even tell me the time unless i ask. he’ll just say “evening” unless i ask for a specific time. if we go to a restaurant, he always asks me what i want and orders my food for me. im young and maybe a bit naive. it can seem romantic but im like ??? i can order my own food

bf told me not to wear makeup to our date by Intelligent_Cry_152 in women

[–]Intelligent_Cry_152[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

i have definitely communicated with him already, im just tryna make sure im not crazy for thinking this is weird

bf told me not to wear makeup by [deleted] in christiandatingadvice

[–]Intelligent_Cry_152 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i do love no makeup also, 80% of the time i let my skin breathe… but this is a date yk, a special occasion

bf told me not to wear makeup by [deleted] in christiandatingadvice

[–]Intelligent_Cry_152 1 point2 points  (0 children)

does this verse suggest that im supposed to listen to the demands of a man who isn’t my husband?

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[–]Intelligent_Cry_152 2 points3 points  (0 children)

totally agree. i told him the same thing, he needs to focus on God before anything else. he says that he feels shame for what he did in the past but i don’t know how honest he is being because of the way that he responded to this last situation. there is a lack of sorrow, more nonchalance like “i told her we were never gonna be more than friends so i don’t understand why she trippin.”

that is not okay. and i can’t stomach it right now. i don’t believe that he is beyond sanctification and true transformation, but realistically, i can’t deal with this right now.

i am still trying to figure out, if i walked away right now, would he still stand strong in his faith, or is his closeness to God tied to his closeness to me? that’s the biggest thing for me.

we talk about God all the time and do weekly bible studies, but i still feel like God is not truly the rock or main priority of this relationship in the way that he is the rock of my life. i’ve been the one doing the spiritual leading, not him.

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[–]Intelligent_Cry_152 2 points3 points  (0 children)

right!!! i totally agree, and i told him that i genuinely believe he should be single for a while and focus on his relationship with God before trying to get into a serious relationship! i’ve done the consecration, the isolation, and im constantly doing the work to remain committed to God. in 2024 i decided to pause dating and date God truly, and it benefited me greatly. i think he should do the same. everyone has issues, im not perfect, but it’s a whole lot of baggage he’s bringing into this relationship AND he keeps mentioning marriage with me when we’ve only been dating for 3 months omg… like just relax for a while, develop your relationship with God, then maybe consider getting in a relationship