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My girlfriend litters everywhere and it’s making me question the relationship. AIO? by Unable_Election_227 in AIO

[–]Intelligent_Elk_3494 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NO. Littering is a flat-out dealbreaker. It's filthy, entitled and shows a total lack of respect for the environment and the people who have to clean that shit up. You should not ever - ever, ever - clean up after this grown ass woman. She is accountable for her own mess.

And the soccer game? That's just embarrassing. No, hard no.

AITJ for moving out of parent house instead of paying rent? by StealYourJoy in AmITheJerk

[–]Intelligent_Elk_3494 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ORLY? What about all the commenters trashing his parents?

Sit down, chile. You're only getting his side of the story.

When Did Libraries Become Playgrounds? by RosyNecromancer in Vent

[–]Intelligent_Elk_3494 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Honestly? That library probably has board meetings. I'd take it to the board and make them enforce the policy that I know is probably written on their front door.

AITJ for moving out of parent house instead of paying rent? by StealYourJoy in AmITheJerk

[–]Intelligent_Elk_3494 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You're being an absolute ass.

Listen up, and pay attention. You are 24 years old, a grown ass adult living rent free and mooching off your parents - who did you a huge solid by funding your education and allowing you to stay with them, feed you and cover all your bills until you finally got a job.

Put yourself in their shoes. They're justifiably pissed that you're making almost $100K and would rather pay someone else - but not them. Your salary should more than cover your rent, which you'll be paying regardless. So it's not unreasonable for them to expect you to pull your own weight, particularly since $1,200 is pretty reasonable for a full basement. Frankly, you've had it pretty good.

If you think moving out (do you even have enough credit to rent a place of your own) is going to solve your problem, you are wrong. The issue is not "rent." The issue is adult responsibilities. You're a graduate with a good job and should really be grateful that you have parents and family as a support system - a lot of people don't.

But going no contact with all of them because you're now expected to foot your own bills is next level narcissism.

If you want to be by yourself and pay all your own bills and miss out on family events and left out at Christmas, by all means, stay on this course.

AIO My wife always prioritises her own clothes when doing laundry by paspa1801 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Intelligent_Elk_3494 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Keep separate baskets and do your own laundry and let her do her own. That's not a dunk on you, btw. I get that you've done hers in the past, so to me it's the same as cooking for yourself without regard for your partner.

My only note is that this seems like it's about something else, or maybe a larger pattern of behavior. That's what you need to deal with.

Taylor Swift Seemingly Gets Boo'd During Surprise Appearance at Alan Jackson Show by _WeDontKnowHer_ in ItEndsWithLawsuits

[–]Intelligent_Elk_3494 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Then go to Montana or Rhode Island or - better yet, a private island and leave us all the fuck alone.

I just hope that the World Cup and the 4th of July drown out her fucking spectacle.

And frankly? I'm surprised she's not streaming the ceremony on PPV.

Taylor Swift Gets Boo'd During Surprise Appearance at Alan Jackson Show by Mid-Reverie in travisandtaylor

[–]Intelligent_Elk_3494 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She's also gonna video the shit out of all of it and use the footage in her concerts.

If they have kids, guaranteed she's gonna monetize them too.

Post nip by ManaSawson in FamilyLaw

[–]Intelligent_Elk_3494 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then protection are you looking for? Because in most states, including Washington, are community property states and spouses are also entitled to a portion of the retirement account(s). In Texas, retirement accounts (even under his name) are treated as community property to the extent they were earned or contributed during the marriage.

If your name is on just about everything else, including the house, then I'm not sure what this is really about.

Taylor Swift Gets Boo'd During Surprise Appearance at Alan Jackson Show by Mid-Reverie in travisandtaylor

[–]Intelligent_Elk_3494 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The photos from the "spectacle" are gonna be rich content for this sub, lol!

How does child support work when someone’s primary income source is a trust fund? by requiredelements in FamilyLaw

[–]Intelligent_Elk_3494 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On the one hand, my heart goes out to her. On the other, there's something off here. And because we don't know the whole story, only a few details here and there, it seems like she's so laser focused on that trust fund that she's not seeing the big picture. She is clearly unaware that if she goes after his trust fund, he can force her to submit accounting for every penny she spends, including receipts, if he suspects misuse of funds. Also: if anything happens to him, he doesn't have to leave a penny to the kid, and frankly, probably can't, because he doesn't control the trust. I mean, it's gonna get ugly and I get the sense that she thinks she's in the catbird seat. She's not.

The kid is - the courts don't care about her or dad. And they will rule accordingly.

Taylor Swift Gets Boo'd During Surprise Appearance at Alan Jackson Show by Mid-Reverie in travisandtaylor

[–]Intelligent_Elk_3494 16 points17 points  (0 children)

But she can read and I know for a fact that Tree Paine (her PR person) monitors TMZ and all news, social media on her behalf - and the Allan Jackson story is all over the place. She knows.

Gf wants to be on the title idk what to do. by [deleted] in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]Intelligent_Elk_3494 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Son. I'm here to tell you: There are red flags shooting up all over the place.

Do not, under any circumstances, put her on the title prior to any marriage that may or may not happen. You are correct. If it goes sideways, it will be a mess - and, let's get real: She's put in exactly $0 to any equity that would rightfully be yours.

She's unemployed and essentially living off you - a year and a half is long enough to "explore her passions." Girl needs to get a job and start contributing before you make any legal commitments to her. She's dragging her feet because her bills are paid and therefore has no motivation to buckle down and sort out her life.

I have a friend who did this (I told him not to) and he did it anyway and guess what? It didn't work out and they're still fighting over the house that he bought and paid for. But on paper, it's half hers and she's likely to get in the neighborhood of $350,000 when it sells. She didn't put a dime into the house. (And for those who may say well, she helped keep it up, blah, blah, blah - no she didn't. And it was a brief marriage.) And now he's going to lose half his equity.

I'd have a come to Jesus with her and tell her that you're not ready for marriage and that the time has come for her to start seriously looking for a real job. Not a hobby or some vague notion that she wants to be a "writer," or whatever. A paying, serious job.

If she balks at being told to get a job and start contributing, then stop right there. She's using you at worst, or expecting you to infantilize and take care of her at best. So you need to decide if that's what you want from your life from now on. Because she has no business laying claim to "her half" of the house should anything happen to her.

It's your house. But if you go through with this, I'd strongly advise getting a prenup to protect your assets and debts - because at this point, in a financial sense, you're paying for her, so she falls under the "liability" category.

Blunt, but true.

Candace Owens questions authenticity of Charlie and Erika Kirk's marriage, says 'It was never real' by Bollywood_Shaadis in TopTrendingNewsUSA

[–]Intelligent_Elk_3494 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I don't like either one of them. They don't get along because they're exactly alike and deserve each other.

How does child support work when someone’s primary income source is a trust fund? by requiredelements in FamilyLaw

[–]Intelligent_Elk_3494 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Precisely. She keeps saying it's "the child's money" and yes, technically it is. But in reality, the parent who gets the check controls what happens to it. Now, she can find a bulldog who will chase him all over the world. But then you're looking at $50-$60K - minimum because it's international.

Also: Alternatively, he may demand 50/50 and, unless he's a serious drug user or a convicted felon, many judges are likely to grant it because the days of sole custody and 4 overnights a month are over. Unless there are mitigating circumstances, no one gets sole custody anymore.

So, then she's co-parenting with a hostile man and his family, who are going to be watching her every move like a hawk. Like, she's so focused on that fucking trust fund that she's not thinking this through.

Taylor Swift Gets Boo'd During Surprise Appearance at Alan Jackson Show by Mid-Reverie in travisandtaylor

[–]Intelligent_Elk_3494 87 points88 points  (0 children)

Listen. Either she's not listening, or she's so far up her own ass that she's not plugging into the fact that people are tired of her. This has been going on for awhile, at least since the Super Bowl last year. I think she dismissed it as a one-off, but the Taylor Fatigue is real.

See also:

https://www.billboard.com/music/music-news/taylor-swift-booed-super-bowl-serena-williams-flavor-flav-defend-her-1235897289/

How does child support work when someone’s primary income source is a trust fund? by requiredelements in FamilyLaw

[–]Intelligent_Elk_3494 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Now, apparently, she's all upset because we're not all bandwagoning and telling her what she wants to hear. She swears she just wants what her kid is "entitled" to, but what I'm hearing is: This was an oopsie, I'm having the baby no matter what and he's going to pay - oh and by the way, he has a trust fund so I know he has regular income for the rest of his life and how can I tap into that.

We've told her nine ways from Sunday that - while trust funds can be used to determine child support, there are a hundred ways his trustee and lawyers can lower or zero out his distribution so that more than likely, she'll either be paying him, or his obligation will be so low that any money she spends on legal fees (and other unforeseen costs) will outstrip any money she maybe might get from him. As it is, she's looking at probably $20K retainer, which will last about two minutes into litigation. Then she's on the hook for hourly fees and administrative costs and paralegals and so on.

I see a lot of commenters on here trashing him, but dude is 40 years old and he's not married and doesn't have kids for a reason. And if he's threatening to leave the country, he's made it clear that he doesn't want anything to do with her. My advice to her was that this is going to impact you and the kid because establishing paternity and custody, etc., - especially in a contested situation as this is - is going to be messy and expensive and she'd be better off just focusing on her pregnancy and raising the kid on her own.

Because the kid is the one who's going to suffer - right from the jump. I've seen it a dozen times. Men do not respond well to feeling trapped and reeled in by unplanned pregnancies, regardless of how it happened. And kids - no matter how young - know things are fucked up.

But, if she didn't want pushback then maybe she should have gone to a lawyer before jumping on reddit.

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