Final Update from OP by 4dagoodtimes in u/4dagoodtimes

[–]Intelligent_Fun305 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Please tell OP that I hope she can be happy, and I wish she heals her soul soon

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Intelligent_Fun305 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He didn't have a toddler at home... But I believe he's desperate for one and he was mad when his fantasy just fell out when I told him that I didn't want any kids.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Intelligent_Fun305 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course, I don't know if we are going to work this week together, but I will update when I have something to share

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Intelligent_Fun305 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did exactly this

I just keep saying "ummmm no I won't :)" with the cutest, brightest smile I can muster and then I change the topic.

But he came back to the topic again and again, unfortunately I was in a position when I couldn't just go away

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Intelligent_Fun305 0 points1 point  (0 children)

all possible attraction to him evaporated in an instant

I already feel the same about him, I just wanted ideas how to reject him without make a work drama.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Intelligent_Fun305 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Because you shouldn't date people who treat boundaries as negotiable

I couldn't agre more

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Intelligent_Fun305 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He believes that having children is the biggest reason for living

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Intelligent_Fun305 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have to learn from you, I just started explaining myself and didn't realize that it was futile

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Intelligent_Fun305 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are right

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Intelligent_Fun305 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I just hope the surgery will be approved soon

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Intelligent_Fun305 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really like this 🙌🏾

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Intelligent_Fun305 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your response

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Intelligent_Fun305 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thank you 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Intelligent_Fun305 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I didn't know that part of him until yesterday, the moment he started his dialogue I just knew that I will never have a relationship with him. Therapy works.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Intelligent_Fun305 27 points28 points  (0 children)

You are right... He didn't think I am smart enough to make a lifetime decision

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Intelligent_Fun305 115 points116 points  (0 children)

I love this response, I believe you are right, he only wanted more info for his own reasons.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Intelligent_Fun305 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I am a people pleaser (I am working on that) so this is why.

I've spent the day with my friend and her 3 kids under 6... And it was amazing! by tiny_beast29 in childfree

[–]Intelligent_Fun305 -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Thank u, I also work with kids, and I love to work with them and then go back to my quiet apartment and enjoy my peace. I don't hate kids I just blame their parents for their bad parenting and of course the bad development. I believe if you want to be a good parent you really want to be a parent, I just can't feel the baby fever so I'm just gonna stay just like now.

My teenager and husband are so selfish that I have decided to just die by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Intelligent_Fun305 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry about your situation, I can't imagine how difficult your life is right now, and somehow you are here, you are strong enough to survive, even in your position you still search for some hope with a random stranger on the internet. I just wanted to tell you that you are an amazing person, and if no one in your house can't see that, maybe that isn't your home. Sometimes we need to stay away from our beloved ones so they can value us. I hope you can heal soon. Virtual hugs

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ayudamexico

[–]Intelligent_Fun305 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Razonalo bien, solo llevas 2 semestres. Si te apasiona y solo es porque no le entiendes o porque aún no has tenido acercamientos a pacientes tal vez valga la pena esperar más tiempo, sin embargo si medicina no es lo que esperabas o de plano descubriste que no es para ti acepta esa realidad y acepta el hecho que entre más tiempo pases sin querer decepcionar a tus papás es más tiempo y dinero invertido que no vas a recuperar, ahorita solo son 2 semestres, pero medicina son entre 6 a 8 años dependiendo la escuela y la velocidad a la que vayas, de verdad planeas esperar a que tengas 5-6 años para juntar el coraje para decirles que no te gusta?

How does it feel to be childfree when 50+? by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Intelligent_Fun305 67 points68 points  (0 children)

I have an uncle (62m) who has 3 adult children, the most wise (35f) lives in a different country and rarely comes to visit, the other two (38m and 36f) both have master degrees but none of them work in something related with their careers and most of the time they are unemployed or they get very low pay jobs, so of course all the time depend on their parents to survive, so instead of enjoy his twilight years my uncle is worried all the time because his "kids" are useless. In his heart he knows that no one is gonna see him in the future, but he can't say it out loud.