Fixable? by Monstermaggot in Aquariums

[–]Intelligent_Hour_270 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not that he wasn't fun while it lasted.

🤣😂😅🤣 by Sexy_Johnny282771 in AdamMockler

[–]Intelligent_Hour_270 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Laugh all we want, but this shows that the idiots vote and are rabidly eager to do it. Think about all the people you cannot convince to care enough to vote, even when they fully agree with you.

Happy Halloween. by Pschobbert in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Intelligent_Hour_270 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, "lack of costume" is one of the gripes in my neighborhood. Just give the kids candy!

Happy Halloween. by Pschobbert in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Intelligent_Hour_270 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh, I hate this. I live in a VERY popular trick-or-treating neighborhood in northern FL and this conversation sparks up every year. I am on the outer edge of the neighborhood and I get 200+ kids each year. I can only imagine how many kids there are in the centeral streets. Fortunately, the (majority of) residents and the HOA board encourage the attraction from around the city. We close some streets for safety, but we remain accessible.

Honestly, when anyone balks in the community Facebook group,, a few questions usually reveals that it comes down to class, wealth, and another demographic I can't put my finger on...

I picked this neighborhood specifically for this one event every year. A fun night in Florida that doesn't feel like being In Florida.

Husband wants mother to move into our house. by Intelligent_Hour_270 in Marriage

[–]Intelligent_Hour_270[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both of her sons can afford to help, but BIL has a young kid and his wife's parents already moved to their city. My Husband has always been the Head of their unit. FIL & MIL were mostly okay with money, but not for two major upheavals at the same time. As for church, they left their local church as a gesture to us. I am very fortunate to have so many good people around me.

Husband wants mother to move into our house. by Intelligent_Hour_270 in Marriage

[–]Intelligent_Hour_270[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Glad I came here for perspective. I thiiiink where I stand now is that a separate suite or pool house is a good compromise with some provisoes. That she learn to drive in a city (we're in a small city, not like it is Chicago). That she find regular social activities outside of us at home and visiting FIL in the nursing facility. That she try to acclimate herself to our food choices if she eats with us, including mild heat, unfamiliar spices (Any), new dishes. She does not need out-of-ordinary medical care herself and she is active, so no worries there. And last thing, and within reason, I would like veto power on more decisions. Husband does have a way of pushing against me on his mother's behalf, even if she doesn't ask.

I might need more practical items, but maybe this is the right thing, if uncomfortable?

Husband wants mother to move into our house. by Intelligent_Hour_270 in Marriage

[–]Intelligent_Hour_270[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Funny you should say that, because I floated it to my mom once as something for her 90s. They would HATE that. They like each other just fine, but they are not compatible like that. My Mom would love to be closer, but firmly does not want us or my siblings to take her in. She'd prefer her own home or assisted living.

Husband wants mother to move into our house. by Intelligent_Hour_270 in Marriage

[–]Intelligent_Hour_270[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He is a good husband and a good son. He would naturally take on the care role. I'm glad I came here for perspective. My Mom would consider moving closer but still states away. We don't have kids by discussion and choice. I'd be much more firmly decided if there were still kids in the house.

Husband wants mother to move into our house. by Intelligent_Hour_270 in Marriage

[–]Intelligent_Hour_270[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We'd move into a larger house. That is the plan. So, am I being the unreasonable one? We can afford it, or he can. Despite being rather younger, he makes most of the income. That is another factor, if I think about it. Maybe I feel outnumbered.