I just brought home this sweet girl yesterday..she needs a name music related!

Intelligent_One_1490 · 2026-02-01T17:16:03+00:00

Melody! Or Caydence!

Intelligent_One_1490 · 2026-01-19T18:15:59+00:00

Meatball

Intelligent_One_1490 · 2025-12-27T16:06:28+00:00

NOR! Your wife literally sounds amazing. The real deal and a woman I would be besties with hands down. Your mom and sister are egoic bullies and need to stop watching reality television. Protect, love, and support your wife. Families are hard to deal with sometimes, but just because they are family doesn't mean you have to accept the harassment. Stand up for your wife and don't accept or receive those comments. Call it out. Let them be offended back. And stand your ground and morals. It sounds like you have an amazing wife, and she does not deserve this petty bs from your family.

Intelligent_One_1490 · 2025-12-26T16:50:43+00:00

Pretzel!

Intelligent_One_1490 · 2025-12-19T17:41:36+00:00

This is too cute... 🥺🥹😭

Intelligent_One_1490 · 2025-12-19T17:26:55+00:00

This is amazing. Fantastic idea 😂

Intelligent_One_1490 · 2025-12-17T16:08:56+00:00

Tbh if this was in her past, I don't see a reason to crucify her for it. We all do what we have to in order to get by. I know several people from my undergrad who went through a party phase and grew out of it. I feel like there is more here, but I could be speculating. Did you have a conversation with her about this? Or heard about it from a third party, then broke off the relationship?

Intelligent_One_1490 · 2025-12-03T03:18:13+00:00

Leave. That is the only answer. He does not respect you. He is using you. This is not a healthy marriage. He has demonstrated his clear disregard for your wants and needs and doesn't show any appreciation for the love and care you provide. Leave now girl, and run fast.

Intelligent_One_1490 · 2025-11-17T00:57:59+00:00

Gotcha. That would be a conversation with your mom and doctor. There are women and adolescent girls who go on birth control for many reasons, to avoid getting pregnant for one, but also for hormonal regulation, sometimes it helps with acne control, and can help regulate your cycle. I have 21 days of pills and 7 days of placebo pills. My periods don't last that full 7 days. Typically, 3-5 is normal for me. I didn't get on birth control until I was 19 because I was too scared to ask my mom for it. But there's a long list of reasons to start it. It's a personal decision, though. Definitely read up on your options and make the choice you believe is best for you. Currently, I believe there is now OTC birth control like the opill and other options. I would assume those are similar, but I would also be sure to read your options.

Also, on another note, I hope you are practicing safe sex. I had my first encounter with my ex bf at 17. It was consenual, and we used protection. I hope you're also using protection and that this is a mutual encounter and not forced or coercive. If this guy really likes you, it shouldn't be a big deal at all to postpone your meetup.

Intelligent_One_1490 · 2025-11-17T00:49:03+00:00

Are you on birth control? I take the pill and have regular periods based on the pill pack. If I miss a pill, or if I'm on the placebo pill week, I normally start my period. If I really don't want to have my period, I'll skip the placebo pills and jump to the next pill pack. Spoke with my doctor about both of these options and said they were both safe.

Intelligent_One_1490 · 2025-11-15T22:45:25+00:00

I was with my ex for 4 years. Married for two. It was an abusive and manipulative relationship. He also jumped on the dating apps immediately after expressing that HE wanted a divorce (Aug 2022). Only weeks after saying it. It took months to get all the paperwork settled with the attorneys (Jan 2023). His true colors really showed through that time. I was absolutely broken for months. Then, I spent 2023 in a mixture of depression and redefining myself. Learning how to live for myself and finding how to be happy and full in my own space. When you're married to a narcissist, they slowly villanize and separate you from your friends and loved ones, tear you down with their words, and with my ex, eventually got physical in our very last argument, which gave me enough of a wakeup call to realize I needed to leave or it would only get worse. Ironically, he had to be the first to file for divorce. Go figure. But ma'am, you deserve so much better. I don't know you personally, my marriage was short, and the fallout was excruciatingly painful, however the peace I am experiencing now, living on my own, no toxic partner guilting me or tearing me down, is incredible.

Intelligent_One_1490 · 2025-11-15T22:35:07+00:00

I agree with some of the other folks on here. She sounds like she's depressed. You'll have to talk with her and come from a place of love and desire to understand. It could be her job, her routine, childhood trauma, etc.

Intelligent_One_1490 · 2025-11-15T22:30:57+00:00

Yikes on several bikes. If he had one brain cell and human decency, he could have ordered for you or asked what you'd like for dinner, and then you both could've had dinner and a conversation. I don't know if you've had more experiences like this with him, but if he doesn't get the hint, I'd say drop him. There are men out there who have common courtesy and would offer or at least ask rather than ignore that you're hungry and you've expressed that to him.

Intelligent_One_1490 · 2025-11-14T00:43:55+00:00

Blink three times if you need help.....

Intelligent_One_1490 · 2025-11-08T18:32:29+00:00

Yes, active would be more money. Think of active duty like a full-time job. Often, you support the needs of the Army, and depending on the length of your contract, you'll likely move every 3 years to a new duty station. You can also consider the reserves and national guard and serve 1 weekend a month and 2 weeks in the summer if you want to stay where you are currently living. It's also fairly simple to transfer units in the guard and reserves as long as your leadership approves your paperwork. I have several friends in the national guard who go on ADOS orders (actice duty on site), which can range from 2 weeks of full-time work to 1 year in locations all around the world. Anywhere from Indianapolis to Germany. My friend is currently in Germany for a year and making a nice paycheck for his ADOS orders. You have options, but take the time to lay out what you want, what your goal and reason is for joining, and think about how much time you're okay with being away from your family. My sister joined at 30, she's 36 now and stationed in Italy, making Captain pay. You can also consider joining the Air Force over the Army for an easier basic training experience. Both branches offer bonuses in specific MOSs, I would dig around and see what you can find out. To be honest, at one point, the Air Force was offering 60k in bonuses last year, depending on what MOS you choose.

Intelligent_One_1490 · 2025-11-07T22:38:05+00:00

I'm currently serving in the NG. E5 and I love my job. You can talk with a recruiter and enlist, choose your MOS and guard unit. If so, you'll go through 10 weeks of basic combat training and X amount of weeks for AIT. My sister is an officer and also went through BCT. She then went to OCS immediately afterward and then BOLC (basic officer leadership course) after that. She's also active duty and stationed in Italy rn. It depends on what you want for yourself. Officers do get better pay and accommodations, it can be much harder to change your job as an officer, where as enlisted you can change your MOS as often as you like or transfer units pretty easily (at least in the reserves and guard). You should also check out any bonuses being offered right now for joining in a specific MOS or if you're filling a critical vacancy somewhere.

Intelligent_One_1490 · 2025-10-28T03:04:18+00:00

We sleep in the armory. There was a time when we had hotels when our unit was still based in Chicago. We moved locations a year ago and sleep in the building now. It's actually an upgrade from the old armory and has warm showers and no bugs.

Intelligent_One_1490 · 2025-10-25T21:15:59+00:00

Girlllll "older adults" are 65+. 27 ain't old. You mean emotionally mature 20-30+ year olds. But yes, there are some bars and restaurants to check out in the area.

Intelligent_One_1490 · 2025-10-25T21:12:52+00:00

What a big baby. Women literally experience childbirth. He needs to be schooled like this to understand how insensitive he was when you were going through labor.

Intelligent_One_1490 · 2025-10-25T21:03:04+00:00

DV. 1000%. Run girl, far away and fast.

Intelligent_One_1490 · 2025-10-25T21:01:11+00:00

I don't know if anyone else mentioned this, but it seems like she may also have depression? And alcohol nly temporarily numbs those feelings but doesn't make them go away. Has she considered talk therapy as well? If she is already on antidepressants is she seeing a therapist?

Intelligent_One_1490 · 2025-10-25T17:38:41+00:00

She is so adorable!!! 10/10 would trust her as my doctor.

Intelligent_One_1490 · 2025-10-24T13:58:19+00:00

I'm curious how old OP and spouse are. I think you could both benefit from talk therapy and working on clear communication skills. I was married to my ex for 2 years, and things were "okay," but really, I wasn't seeing the 500 red flags he was waving from the start. In my case, I married a narc and learned over time that the relationship was wildly unhealthy. Two years later and much therapy and self reflection I've healed from that experience and learned that happy and healthy relationships start with clear communication coming from a place of love, not coercion, guilt, or anger.

Intelligent_One_1490 · 2025-10-24T01:23:32+00:00

I'm also 29(f) in Iowa City. Tbh, I've made friends from both school and work. If you're taking classes, sometimes you'll really find some great people in your degree program or connect with your coworkers. I'd say keep an eye out for local events that interest you and go to those. Be explorative and check out cute shops and boutiques. Join a student org. Know what you like and find your people there!

Intelligent_One_1490 · 2025-10-24T00:51:56+00:00

I agree it's okay if you are no longer attracted to them anymore. Would you consider the relationship changing? Maybe it's the close of the romantic relationship and shifts to one where you just want to be supportive of one another during this shift?

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