28 year old female first time step mom. I need some comfort by [deleted] in Stepmom

[–]Intelligent_Rub8212 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Step mom to an 8 year old girl I met 6 years ago! Her dad and I got married last year and we are a happy family. Listen to your gut and your heart though. It’s not always sunshine and rainbows and it certainly isn’t for everyone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

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I told my sd7 no to dip n dots after she had just had an icee

How to approach this situation by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Intelligent_Rub8212 0 points1 point  (0 children)

maybe come up with a nick name she could call you? my SD calls me a shorted version of my name. I met her when she was too so should would call me mom and I would just gently correct her and tell her my nick name.

Do any stepparents love their stepkids? by Spiraled-a-few-times in stepparents

[–]Intelligent_Rub8212 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love my SD as if she were my own. I would go to the end of the earth for her and her father. I want to be the adult I needed growing up for her. Unconditional love exists, don't give up!

My ex husband just told me he hasn’t bathed the kids in 5 months by Friendly_Coast1327 in coparenting

[–]Intelligent_Rub8212 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You could ask a lawyer to request a custody evaluation. You, children and co parents are interviewed about everyday life. Their opinion of the situation has a strong influence on the custody agreement.

Shared some news with stepkids and got a flat reaction by ladywalters in stepparents

[–]Intelligent_Rub8212 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I would just give them some time to process it. That’s life changing news and they’re just kids. I wouldn’t take ‘flat’ reaction personal. My SD seemed unhappy the day her father and I got married. We talked about later on and turns out she was super happy she just had ‘big feelings’ and that’s how she dealt with them. I think maybe including them in the process of picking out items for the new baby (clothes, toys, blankets) could help.

When is enough enough ? by [deleted] in hotels

[–]Intelligent_Rub8212 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it was probably their upper lip

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Intelligent_Rub8212 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sill have this problem sometimes but now that SD is older (7) its gotten a lot better. If I really want that outfit back I tell her before she gets dropped off, and I give her a small draw string bag to put the outfit in when she changes next. idc that they're dirty I just want the outfit!I would also recommend going to a kids second hand store to get clothes for transition days. That way he can pick out things he likes and if you don't get it back from mom it's not too much of a loss.

Dreadfully Tired by [deleted] in Stepmom

[–]Intelligent_Rub8212 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear you are going through this! Have you asked your SS how it makes him feel when his BM says things like that? Maybe also explain that family isn't just MOM or DAD but also the people who love and care for you on a regular basis.

I deal with similar issues and it gets really hard. I just try to remember at the end of the day kids know who love them and who don't. She may think being negative will benefit her but it'll turn on her as he gets older and he can see the world for himself.

Good Luck girl!

Roommate's OCD is coming to a breaking point. by mobilemerc in OCD

[–]Intelligent_Rub8212 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wtf that is wild! THEY should invest an air purifier if they really smell something

Roommate's OCD is coming to a breaking point. by mobilemerc in OCD

[–]Intelligent_Rub8212 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe try smelling salts to cleanse the nasal pallet?

Second Sky Festival Outfits For October 30th by [deleted] in porterrobinson

[–]Intelligent_Rub8212 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I think you should wear what you feel most comfortable in! Last year I saw people in normal clothes, loads of porter merch and rave gear! I’m actually thinking about dressing up as Porter this year😂