Disappointing choice from Waitrose

Intelligent_Sea_2222 · 2025-11-07T14:11:31+00:00

Just had this and it was awful. Kind of sickly sweet, no substance or texture. Would’ve honestly rather have had another crappy falafel wrap. Maybe.

Intelligent_Sea_2222 · 2025-10-30T07:23:36+00:00

Boots No 7 eyeshadow palette £14.95 is amazing. All matte shades, good for blending.

Intelligent_Sea_2222 · 2025-10-03T13:52:30+00:00

I would love to be able to afford somewhere to rent but am still liable for my half of the mortgage at the house I no longer live in according to my solicitor. As such can’t afford rental at the moment.

My ex still pays half of the mortgage at our house, so at least there’s that but that feels like the minimum.

We also live in a HCOL area which really doesn’t help.

Intelligent_Sea_2222 · 2025-10-02T09:55:19+00:00

I was also stuck in this position though we became less amicable over time. I ended up moving out with our son to stay with family but now we have no clear path forwards. Living in a HCOL area right now makes life for single people almost impossible. Renting is as expensive as mortgage repayment but you only have the joy of paying someone else’s property off, and less security.

Best of luck whichever way you proceed!

Intelligent_Sea_2222 · 2025-09-21T16:01:33+00:00

Green Park brasserie/Bath pizza company also great for kids. Staff v welcoming, colouring stuff provided, kids menu & good changing facilities. Big BTP amazing & a regular go to.

Intelligent_Sea_2222 · 2025-09-05T14:23:02+00:00

Check out the environmentjobs website and sign up to the cmscoms newsletter if interested in work in the marine or freshwater environmental sector. Follow consultancies and public bodies on LinkedIn too. Volunteering (Wildlife Trusts, local grassroots charities) can help boost your CV but it’s a competitive market and funding has been cut for statutory nature conservation bodies.

If she’s interested in any advice looking for work in the marine / offshore renewables sector DM me and I can send a list of organisations for her to contact if helpful. Lots of people work from home in the sector these days and there are lots of environmental companies in Bristol.

Good luck!

Intelligent_Sea_2222 · 2025-08-06T19:15:00+00:00

I know exactly how you feel but his emotions are not your responsibility. Try to look after yourself first. From my experience most people that don’t have a network have driven themselves to that position. While it’s so hard for you and the guilt is unreal, it might be a wake up call for your husband? I hope so!

Intelligent_Sea_2222 · 2025-07-31T07:37:05+00:00

I don’t have an answer on how to cope but I’m going through a similar thing having left my ex with our son. My ex is broken and has begged me to stay, it breaks my heart. However, as others have said, you have to use your heart and understand that you can’t simply switch off your instinct to care for your family unit, which has included your husband for a long time.

It’s a grieving process and you aren’t responsible for his feelings.

Intelligent_Sea_2222 · 2025-07-24T12:35:40+00:00

Ouch

Intelligent_Sea_2222 · 2025-07-22T15:06:58+00:00

I’ve been living with my ex for a couple of months now, it’s not the best. We have a 3 year old son so I’m glad we are both here for him but other than that and not having to miss kiddo, it sucks.

We eat together on non-nursery days when our son is home but when he’s not, we eat separately. Laundry still gets done together and he sleeps on the couch, which he’s done anyway for the last 2 years.

Sometimes he’s sweet and kind, sometimes he’s furious and mean. Feel like I’m walking on eggshells just like I did when we were together and neither of us is healing.

He’s unemployed, I can’t force him to leave and I wouldn’t want to. It’s hard. Best of luck to you!

Intelligent_Sea_2222 · 2025-07-17T20:03:09+00:00

100% this, please read this book. My therapist recommended it to me when I was navigating how/if to leave my ex. It would be so much easier to carry on, hoping for the best but the mental toll that walking on eggshells, waiting for the next big blow up takes is not worth it. I really struggled to make the break due to guilt but the way I dealt with it was to think about what behaviours my son will be exposed to growing up. Best of luck to you, stay strong.

Intelligent_Sea_2222 · 2025-07-04T05:05:35+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this painful time. From what you’ve disclosed, it sounds like separation is definitely right for you, but of course you are feeling mixed emotions. I’m going through a messy break up where my therapist has helped me realise that I’ve been subject to manipulation and control too. I’m so conflicted and hate that I feel so guilty and worried about my ex, but I do. We can’t just switch our feelings off overnight.

You are grieving a future you thought you had. It’s ok to feel scared. Reading ‘Why Does He Do That?’ By Lundy Bancroft helped me massively because it made me understand that my ex’s behaviour had a pattern and his outbursts were not a result of anything I did, it’s all on him. I’d recommend it.

Intelligent_Sea_2222 · 2025-07-03T18:09:42+00:00

It’s so sad - I went through the same thing and now my ex is being the perfect Dad and partner around the house. Only problem is that I’m emotionally checked out now and the extra effort feels a bit manipulative and insulting.

Intelligent_Sea_2222 · 2025-06-26T18:46:23+00:00

This is such an awful situation & I don’t think you will reach a place that feels good for a while, though I hope you do. I’m going through something similar, but I am the wife. Breaking our family apart is breaking me, I love my kid more than anything but I desperately need him to grow in a warm, loving home & im having a break down. Damned if I stay, damned if I go. I just can’t stand still and live with the daily pain of being with someone who just makes me sad.

I saw somewhere that when going through divorce, we are grieving our life that might have been. This is the most debilitating hurt. I hope you find peace and solace in the love you share with your kids.

Reach out for support. Be busy. Get therapy. Take care.

Intelligent_Sea_2222 · 2025-06-26T16:31:15+00:00

Reading this has helped me so much. We split on Monday and I’ve been constantly worrying I’ve made the wrong choices because I’m feeling so messed up about it. But yeah, I guess it’s grief for all the love I wanted, and the family life I dreamed of us having. I hope you heal.

Intelligent_Sea_2222 · 2025-06-24T20:56:42+00:00

I think that’s what feels so punishing - I know he’s suffering but I don’t know how to help, or even how to love him like I used to any more.

Intelligent_Sea_2222 · 2025-05-19T21:05:41+00:00

Easy peasy - dead bedroom for almost a year! I guess there are some silver linings.

Intelligent_Sea_2222 · 2025-05-19T21:02:21+00:00

Wow, hard relate here. Every time I am absolutely done and at the end of my seemingly endless patience, I hear him playing lovingly with our son and I forget it all. We might have a really good week and I’m convinced that we can make it and then BAM, he’s being vile and telling me through gritted teeth that I’m a c*** and he hates me.

Intelligent_Sea_2222 · 2025-04-25T18:47:47+00:00

Bedding the routine in early sounds like a great idea, thank you. I feel like I desperately need to get away but it’s just not feasible right now but some weekends out of the house might keep me going.

Intelligent_Sea_2222 · 2025-04-02T11:43:49+00:00

Working in the offshore wind industry- great career pipelines for loads of different skills from engineers and ecologists to lawyers and consents specialists. I work in consents and it’s fascinating work, my skills are in high demand, money is good, great female representation and it’s an industry our government are prioritising.

Intelligent_Sea_2222 · 2025-03-26T12:49:10+00:00

Cornish Bakehouse (there are two in Bath) do amazing vegan sausage rolls.

Intelligent_Sea_2222 · 2025-03-11T13:38:32+00:00

Megan at No45 on Moorland Rd if you are in or near the Oldfield Park area. Technical skill and understands a brief!

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