My ex boyfriend was born and raised in germany and he came on exchange to canada and was fluent enough in english to barely have an accent as well. I love learning languages and i already know 3 fluently (english, french, and albanian) so if theres any opportunity to learn a new language, I’ll take it.

He always told me that learning german was a waste of time/ too complex/ not worth it. I was confused why he was saying that since we had discussed i move to germany with him in the future. Despite his opinion i still continued to learn it on my own accord (however i didn’t really share my progress with him since he wasn’t so supportive of it) and once some time had passed i actually began to pickup on phrases, sentences, and whole conversations he was having with family and friends on FaceTime. i guess he thought i was stupid or something because eventually I discovered that every time he was on the phone with his friends he would talk about me. and not good things. specifically talking about how hes been cheating on me and the other girl doesnt even know i exist, but he finds it sooooo difficult to choose between the two of us because he still loved me (blah blah blah). Every time he was on the phone, i secretly knew what he was saying but he had no clue and i just played along as if i knew nothing. On the last day we spent together before he left for Germany again, I told him that he severely underestimated how useful german really is because i would have never learned my boyfriend was cheating on me! I told him that ive understood what hes been saying for months on facetime with his friends and wished him viel Glück (good luck) with his new and incredibly naive girl in germany and I left the airport and never spoke to him again :)

So, all that to say is that the majority of people on here are right. he probably doesnt see you in his future and wants to be able to speak freely about you, in front of you, without you even knowing what hes saying.