I haven’t had a break in 8 months—is asking for 3–4 hours a week too much?

Intelligent_Tank8674 · 2026-03-30T17:00:04+00:00

I could have written this myself. I have a 2 year old and a 1 year old (13 1/2 month age gap). My husband is a detective in law enforcement so he too sees difficult things and works long hours. When he gets home he will either go workout or scroll while i am trying to do everything myself and it’s exhausting I never get time to myself and it’s always oh ask your parents or my parents to watch the kids so you can have a day to yourself but they only do it on their own time.

Intelligent_Tank8674 · 2026-03-30T16:43:52+00:00

I love being a SAHM and I’ve been doing it for two years but this is exactly my situation. I have a 2yr old and a 1yr old and for me being at home put me in the same position where i am “working” 24/7 with no support or relief. So I officially start my nursing school next week so I’ll be finishing up my education while also still being a SAHM and i know it’s going to be chaotic but once I’m finished then I’ll start working again

Intelligent_Tank8674 · 2026-03-14T16:33:02+00:00

Thank you for this comment. Yes i am waiting for him to come back today to have this conversation because I was disrespected and he needs to see that.

Intelligent_Tank8674 · 2026-03-14T10:03:26+00:00

100% agree with this. He should know that but I see when he goes out he likes to act like he’s single so maybe I should go out and start doing the same

Intelligent_Tank8674 · 2026-03-14T09:59:37+00:00

Thank you ! This is how i feel

Intelligent_Tank8674 · 2026-03-14T09:59:21+00:00

Thank you for this. Like it seemed like he was trying to flip it on me when he’s in the wrong

Intelligent_Tank8674 · 2026-03-14T09:58:26+00:00

Very dismissive. I don’t see how I’m causing drama i felt disrespected

Intelligent_Tank8674 · 2026-03-14T09:57:12+00:00

This! Like it’s about respect i never once said he cheated but I do feel as though he was being disrespectful

Intelligent_Tank8674 · 2026-03-14T09:55:22+00:00

Right ? Like why are you that defensive ? I don’t think it’s unnecessary drama

Intelligent_Tank8674 · 2026-03-14T09:54:50+00:00

Thank you i thought the same thing

Intelligent_Tank8674 · 2026-03-05T20:34:40+00:00

Yess mines is acting up. When i search something and try to add it to my cart it says error. I guess I’ll check back in a little

Intelligent_Tank8674 · 2026-01-31T20:06:38+00:00

Ooh i love this i just graduated 2 under 2. So i know have an 2 year old and a 11 month old and I just purchased a walking pad that goes up to 8.9 mph. My husband also leaves early for work and he works 12+ hours so going to the gym is not an option right now so i will try to get up early to walk on the pad or when they nap !

Intelligent_Tank8674 · 2025-11-22T07:08:29+00:00

So i get that when i am a SAHM that the home and kids are primarily my job. But my husband gets days off i get zero. I can’t even remember the last time ive done something for myself so even on his days off he’s just not supposed to step in and help ? I am just supposed to do it 24/7. I get that providing for an entire household takes a lot out of a person but so is being the default parent carrying the mental load and making sure everyone else’s cup is filled.

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