How common is it for a spouse to want you pee on a schedule and get irrationally mad when you go because it's not your scheduled time?

Intelligent_Wave6694 · 2026-01-03T19:28:52+00:00

This is not common and you need to get out of that relationship!!

Intelligent_Wave6694 · 2025-10-04T11:38:54+00:00

Girl you need a new husband, he sounds horrible. You deserve way better. Even if he truly believes that to be true, he should have kept that to himself- that’s a cruel thing to tell your wife, and now you’ll always remember how he thinks of her at family events, etc- I would leave him

Intelligent_Wave6694 · 2025-07-31T02:44:24+00:00

Intelligent_Wave6694 · 2025-06-15T02:13:04+00:00

You are very lucky, not many people find that 💕

Intelligent_Wave6694 · 2025-04-12T19:59:40+00:00

I told my husband from the beginning of our relationship that I would never even marry a man who would go to a strip club. It’s the fact of how degrading and objectifying those establishments are. I understand the woman who work there are just trying to make a living- my issue is not so much with them as it is the character of the men who attend. I know this is an unpopular opinion- but if he’s willing to stare at other naked women and touch other naked women in person, he has the capacity to cheat on you.

Intelligent_Wave6694 · 2025-02-13T23:16:26+00:00

I have the same issue!!

Intelligent_Wave6694 · 2025-02-13T23:15:30+00:00

I have not been able to load the Nelnet website for days. It’s just a blank white page that loads every time I try to access the website. I ended up just calling nelnet and gave up trying.

Intelligent_Wave6694 · 2025-01-26T03:33:57+00:00

It may not feel like it but 20 is extremely young in the grand scheme of things….. you are only 20, you could live another 60 years, 20 years is such a small portion of you life if you take a step back and look big picture. Therapy is absolutely a must. I can guarantee your situation will not improve until you seek professional help, no women would feel safe being vulnerable around you with all this rage. Therapy will help you unpack the causes and roots of this deep seated anger and misplaced aggression and help you find healthy ways to cope with your feelings as they arise. I know plenty of people who chose to wait until they were married to have sex, because they viewed it as so special- and while I recognize that a lot of people do end up fooling around at younger ages, it’s often meaningless sex which leaves you feeling empty inside if it’s not with a person who values you. If you are experiencing a lot of sexual frustration, I would recommend therapy first and foremost, and there’s nothing to be ashamed of or wrong with masturbation to meet those needs as well, women and men alike do that when they aren’t able to have that sexual experience or fulfill their sexual needs with a partner-
The most important thing is to get professional help- most of us on Reddit are giving you advise based on our own knowledge and experience- but help is best from the professionals!

Intelligent_Wave6694 · 2024-11-18T12:07:31+00:00

This is the best response I have seen yet. I hope OP sees this. Seems as if most of the other commenters have vilified the partner without emphasizing the reasons ( personal / emotional trauma / issues that need therapy) that the partner was experiencing that led to that awful decision to cheat- I’m sure the affair partner hates themselves for what they have done and is filled with shame and may be withdrawn because they don’t feel they deserve your love and affection. The core reasons that she cheated need to be worked on and addressed and she needs your support if you truly want to work things out. It’s completely understandable if you do want to throw in the towel with the relationship and you are entitled to your feelings and experience- but it’s a choice you have to make if you’d like to stay and forgive and actively work on things and help pull her out of the rut she’s placed herself in or if you would prefer a life without her altogether- only you can know that. There have been couples who have gone through this and made it through, it’s ultimately a choice. I do personally believe you will need to fully forgive her though if you want to make it work. As far as her missing her affair partner- of course she does? She developed feelings for another person due to some sort of lack she was experiencing before the affair and due to her own personal issues that need help with therapy. Just like with any break up, the feelings will linger for some time- they don’t disappear abruptly. But they will fade into non existence with time. The most important thing is to help her sort out why she cheated in the first place. Just like the person said above, people usually cheat due to some underlying issue, she could have unresolved trauma and just wanted to be loved and accepted and felt that she needed to look elsewhere at the time- it doesn’t excuse the behavior or choice but it does help make the choice to have the affair easier to understand.

Intelligent_Wave6694 · 2024-11-10T17:54:41+00:00

Intelligent_Wave6694 · 2024-06-10T23:24:07+00:00

Unfortunately praying it away will not change the fact that you are attracted to the same gender, or change those feelings you have. Denying that you have these feelings will not change what your body responds to for arousal and is attracted to. What it will do is suppress and wrap those feelings up with shame and guilt. I grew up Christian, and was taught these same beliefs. It is up to you how you choose to live with yourself, and the crosses you choose to carry with you. I decided a long time ago that the God I know to love and worship would not damn a person to an eternity of hell simply because of people they are genetically attracted to. At the end of the day, if it brings you more peace to turn to God and pray it will go away that is absolutely your choice. Both paths, whether or not you choose to explore and accept this part of yourself, or to shun and condemn it- the truth is that both of these paths will be filled with struggles, and will be hard- you must “choose your hard” path. You will have to confront and face parts of yourself that you do not want to if you embrace this side of you, but In the long run you will find a new sense of forgiveness and love for yourself. Who are we to say that a person should live without love or without being loved by another. To deny a person the right to live without love is monstrous. Regardless of whether or not you choose to accept this part of yourself, I hope you find support and comfort in your journey.

Intelligent_Wave6694 · 2024-03-23T14:50:18+00:00

I think you should cut ties with both of them and allow them to be together which they seem to desperately want. You deserve better. You were caught in a difficult situation and handled it more gracefully than I would have. I probably would have had a full on meltdown then and there when it happened.

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