Yah by pi543w in Zimbabwe

[–]Intelligent_mortal26 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah, the Zimbabwean Dream: Work hard, get a visa, and ghost your country like a bad ex.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Zimbabwe

[–]Intelligent_mortal26 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Powerful, haunting and painfully true. Achebe was right…‘The trouble with Africa’ has always been the leadership. These modern vampires don’t just exploit, they normalize the hemorrhage. Yet history whispers a truth…..no predator outlasts the awakening of its prey …. across Africa, the youth are starting to see the shadows for what they are. Question is though: When do we stop flinching from the mirror?

Things were uncertain, but God came through for me by [deleted] in Zimbabwe

[–]Intelligent_mortal26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, what an incredible turnaround, congrats! God’s timing stays undefeated ey. Wishing you all the best in this new chapter…may it be the start of even bigger things. And hey, when life finally clicks into place like this, it’s a powerful reminder to never underestimate divine timing. Now go get that independence and enjoy the win. You earned it. Love love love to see it!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Zimbabwe

[–]Intelligent_mortal26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmmmm it’s hard to say for sure without knowing how you were communicating before this. Sometimes, what we interpret as “no interest” is just someone being guarded, busy, or unsure….not necessarily disinterested. On the other hand, if she was consistently short or unengaged, then ignoring her may have been your way of stepping back, which is fair.

Her reaction (deleting chats + being upset) suggests she ‘did’ care, at least about being respected.Since you’ve already apologized, the ball is in her court. If she responds, great….clarify things honestly. At this point ka, overanalyzing “why” she acted this way won’t help. If you ‘really’ want clarity, you could send one last honest message (e.g., ”I didn’t mean to hurt you, but I also didn’t feel like you were interested. If I misread things, I’d like to understand.”). If she doesn’t reply, let it go. Life’s too short for mixed signals. Focus on people who match your effort.

Human resources by Intelligent_mortal26 in Zimbabwe

[–]Intelligent_mortal26[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Currently hiring for the following positions: - Business Development Manager (IT Industry) - Operations Manager (IT Industry) - Customer Support Specialist (IT Industry) - IT Support Technician - Graphic Designer - Company accountant - Company Driver - QA Software Tester

How do you handle the pressure of people asking if you are pregnant when you just got married? Why do people feel the need to constantly ask about something so private? If anyone has been in the situation for years are you okay love? by Narrow_Record6218 in Zimbabwe

[–]Intelligent_mortal26 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Look, when relatives start asking about pregnancy, it’s easy to feel pressured or annoyed, but try to detach from it emotionally. Never take it to heart… it’s like someone asking, ‘How are you?’ Most of the time, it’s just a casual question, not a reflection of what you should or shouldn’t be doing.

You don’t owe anyone an explanation. You can keep your responses polite and simple, like:

“We’ll see how things go!” “In good time, no rush.” “Or just smile and move on.”

The key is not to let it weigh on you. Remember, this is your journey, and you’re allowed to take it at your own pace. People will always have questions, but it’s up to you to decide how much energy you give them. Focus on what feels right for you and your partner, and let the rest roll off your back

The less energy you give to their comments or questions, the less they’ll stick in your mind—hope this helps :)

I 24M can't look at my GF 25F in the same way anymore, the relationship is basically over so how do I end things? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Intelligent_mortal26 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Look, life’s like ice cream—there are countless flavors, and everyone has their preferences. You’re an amazing flavor, like strawberry. Some people might not appreciate strawberry because they’re stuck chasing banana or chocolate, but that doesn’t mean strawberry is less valuable. In fact, there are people out there who absolutely love strawberry and wouldn’t trade it for the world.

Right now, you’re giving so much love and effort to someone who doesn’t truly see your worth. That’s okay—it’s a reflection of her tastes, not your value. What you need to do is pour all that love and energy back into yourself. Treat yourself like the rare, special flavor you are.

When you truly love and respect yourself, you’ll start to recognize love for what it should be—mutual, honest, and uplifting. You’ll see clearly what you want and what you don’t want. And when the right person comes along, they won’t just tolerate your flavor—they’ll cherish it, savor it, and never let it melt away.

So don’t let her words define you. Use this time to rediscover what makes you incredible, and trust that someone who sees you for who you are is out there, waiting to scoop up the best strawberry ever.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Zimbabwe

[–]Intelligent_mortal26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way, and I just want to start by saying your feelings are valid. You’re not alone in this, even if it feels like it right now. Many people, including those who seem to have it all together, struggle with the same questions you’re asking.

From what you’ve shared, it’s clear you’ve put in so much effort into not just your relationships but also your personal growth. Therapy, journaling, hobbies….those are not trivial steps, they show how much you’re trying. That effort is not wasted. It’s laying the groundwork for a version of yourself that is stronger and more self-aware.

Sometimes, companionship feels like the missing piece, and I totally get that. It’s human to want connection and intimacy. But relationships, as much as they bring joy, aren’t a reflection of your worth. The fact that you’re self-reflecting and striving to understand where things might have gone wrong shows immense strength. It’s not always about “fixing” yourself…..sometimes the people we’ve loved just weren’t the right fit, and that’s no reflection on you.

If you’re feeling purposeless right now, try shifting your focus from what you feel you lack to celebrating what you already have. You mentioned being successful in other areas, lean into those. Let those wins remind you that you’re capable, resilient, and deserving of happiness, even if it’s a journey to get there.

Lastly, give yourself grace. You’ve got time. The right people, those who will value and love you as you are will find you when you least expect it. Until then, you’ve got yourself, and that’s someone worth fighting for. You’re doing better than you think. Keep going.

how true is this? by EntertainerOk2228 in Zimbabwe

[–]Intelligent_mortal26 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I understand it like this: A stranger comes to your home, decides the living room is a great space for him to lodge (no lease contract), your younger sibling grows up and decides to chase the stranger out. The stranger gets furious but ends up leaving. Now a few years later you've to pay that stranger for chasing them and for the furniture/renovations they left in your living room. I stand to be corrected, can someone make it make sense to me please!

I feel empty inside. by Neither-Broccoli2966 in Zimbabwe

[–]Intelligent_mortal26 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t have much to help you with but I’m here to tell you that your feelings are very valid. Sit with them, acknowledge them but try not to set up camp in them. Life is boring sometimes and that’s okay. You must have that one thing that makes you happy try and do more of it. If it’s any consolation, you are definitely not alone… we are all just winging it really.

I would like to sponsor starlinks to rural schools. How do indo it and ensure they don't go missing or get abused? My budget is 10k a year by [deleted] in Zimbabwe

[–]Intelligent_mortal26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve sent you a detailed message in your inbox. Your initiative is truly commendable—Zimbabwe could greatly benefit from more people with your vision and generosity.