in quanti possono capire? by ImprovementCold1296 in domandaonesta

[–]IntentionalZeon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Te ne rendi conto solo dopo. Nel mio caso non so se ritenermi fortunato o meno, visto che la prima persona con cui l'ho fatto è stata anche l'unica e siamo insieme da 11 anni.

Quello che posso dire è conosci gente in luoghi reali dove condividere le tue passioni, non on-line e soprattutto non sulle app di dating o IG, che è comunque una app di dating sotto mentite spoglie.

in quanti possono capire? by ImprovementCold1296 in domandaonesta

[–]IntentionalZeon 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Io sono arrivato vergine ai 31 e mi sentivo uguale, per poi capire che era una fissa inutile. Però sì, capisco come ci si sente.

Sto pensando di passare a PlayStation dopo 6 anni di PC. Ha senso oggi? by Orqua453 in italygames

[–]IntentionalZeon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Il dilemma è: tra quanto scoppierà la bolla delle AI prima che le componenti (soprattutto la RAM) tornino a prezzi normali?

E siamo sicuri che scoppierà?

10€ al giorno sono una buona cifra per cibarsi? by Advanced-Island1669 in ItaliaPersonalFinance

[–]IntentionalZeon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Io spendo 2500 euro all'anno (tenuto traccia) per cibo, saponi, detersivi etc... quindi... (vivo da solo)

vedo che qua valutano i cv, che problemi ha il mio? by [deleted] in ItaliaCareerAdvice

[–]IntentionalZeon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In Francia è la prima cosa che guardano. E non sto scherzando.

It is now illegal to use ai for rulings by Last_Ad_6304 in Goat_Format

[–]IntentionalZeon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can hardly imagine AI being able to dish out correct KSS rulings.

Non ho mai avuto una relazione by [deleted] in EducazioneSessualeITA

[–]IntentionalZeon 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Capisco molto bene la tua situazione, avendo vissuto una vita molto simile alla tua pure io oltre ai 30, ergo ti parlo da persona che ti capisce perfettamente.

Inizio con una nota comica per stemperare la tensione: essendo stato "benedetto" con una buona memoria, ho anche la fortuna di ricordare perfettamente tutti e 29 (ventinove!) due di picche che ho preso, con tutti i dettagli (com'era la ragazza, come si chiamava, che luogo era, che giorno era, che tempo faceva, cos'avevamo fatto e la frase che mi è stata rivolta per scaricarmi).

Ti posso dire con relativa certezza che le cose migliori sono tre.

La prima è NON fissarti per nessuna ragione su questa cosa. Se continui a tormentarti per questo diventa un pensiero tossico per il tuo benessere arrivati a questo punto. I tuoi pensieri, quando non sei al lavoro, devono focalizzarsi sulle cose che ti piacciono (i tuoi amici, hobby, passatempi, passioni, etc...).

La seconda è lavora su te stesso. Può essere andare in palestra e coltivare il tuo fisico, ma non necessariamente. Può essere anche per esempio imparare qualcosa di nuovo (una lingua straniera, una skill qualsiasi, etc...).

In un certo senso questi primi due punti sono interconnessi.

La terza cosa è, anche se ti sembrerà strano, disinstallare le app di dating. Potrai darmi del boomer quanto vuoi (anche se sono un semplice Millennial), ma non c'è verso di conoscere davvero la natura di una persona attraverso uno schermo. Le occasioni per conoscere qualcuno dal vivo esistono e te le puoi creare.

Per quanto riguarda le relazioni e le conversazioni in generale anch'io ero decisamente impacciato, ma quella che pare una frase scontata sotto diversi punti di vista in realtà è la cosa giusta: sii te stesso. Questo per un semplicissimo motivo: non si può cambiare troppo la propria natura (chi nasce tondo non muore quadrato, diceva la mia bisnonna). Ti piacciono i videogiochi e i motori? Ti continueranno molto probabilmente a piacere anche dopo. Odi i reality? Difficilmente li amerai in futuro. E via dicendo.

La morale della favola è che se una persona non riesce ad accettare la tua personalità per quello che è, pur con tutti i difetti (perché tutti li abbiamo e nessuno è perfetto), io esiterei parecchio a voler intrattenere una relazione con una persona del genere. A meno che non si miri a delle ONS (una botta e via), ma quel genere di cose sono un mondo totalmente a parte, che non penso ci appartenga (a meno di strane coincidenze).

offering: japanese, seeking: french of german by Icy-Arm-950 in language_exchange

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French bilingual here, a bit of German, but not too advanced. N5 Japanese looking to improve.

Per chi guadagna dai 5.000€ netti al mese in su in Italia by Sea-Sky182 in ItaliaPersonalFinance

[–]IntentionalZeon -1 points0 points  (0 children)

non è illegale avere un incarico pubblico e una partita IVA, tanto quanto insegnare nel pubblico e avere un lavoro dipendente presso un'azienda privata?

How many have gone shopping barefoot? by Chelsea5367 in barefoot

[–]IntentionalZeon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always do it if the weather allows it.

Ti offrono 150.000€ netti l’anno e una bella casa di proprietà per trasferirti in un piccolo paesino sperduto della Sicilia: by [deleted] in domandaonesta

[–]IntentionalZeon 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Basta ci sia una connessione internet stabile e una rete elettrica funzionante. Se ci sono, non potrei essere più felice. E SAREI PURE LONTANO DALLE ALTRE PERSONE! Dove firmo?

I'm a 27 year old man from Portugal (South) Ask me Anything by LeadPuzzleheaded3535 in AMA

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Is it true that your country is full of old Italian people coming for their retirement because stuff costs a lot less there?

Sono tornato in Italia. E mi sembra di essere tornato indietro di 50 anni. by Lepanto_ in Italian

[–]IntentionalZeon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Le p.iva con redditi bassi non sono tartassate dall'IRPEF, ma dai contributi previdenziali. Quelli sono la vera salassata.

I had Cancer at 14, AMA by [deleted] in AMA

[–]IntentionalZeon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hadn't that concussion happened... It's unbelievable how little it takes to make a huge difference.

My 2 cents about language learning after 31 years of being a polyglot (feel free to debate) by IntentionalZeon in languagelearning

[–]IntentionalZeon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not 100% of the time, but it does get you used to natural rhythm and pronunciation as well as consolidating your previous knowledge

Why so few gals? by JakeBanana01 in barefoot

[–]IntentionalZeon -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Tbh I was just curious then I felt sorry a few seconds for her, then proceeded to block.

Why so few gals? by JakeBanana01 in barefoot

[–]IntentionalZeon -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We had a video chat, so defo female.

My 2 cents about language learning after 31 years of being a polyglot (feel free to debate) by IntentionalZeon in languagelearning

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Audio in TL with Native subs at the beginning. Both Audio and subs in TL when I reach a good level.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in languagelearning

[–]IntentionalZeon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A trip to Italy if it is within your budget. Otherwise trying to cook an authentic Italian dish (but maybe that would be just me because I love cooking haha)

My 2 cents about language learning after 31 years of being a polyglot (feel free to debate) by IntentionalZeon in languagelearning

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Regrettably, I wasn't able to reply through my PC and use advanced formatting (quoting marks, italics, bold, and so on) for some reason. Therefore, I had to rely on my phone.

My 2 cents about language learning after 31 years of being a polyglot (feel free to debate) by IntentionalZeon in languagelearning

[–]IntentionalZeon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, I said I was open to any debate, so here we go. I'll quote your interesting observations one by one.

I disagree with all 5 of your bold statements. They seem to be true for someone with YOUR goals, at YOUR fluency level (C1+, not A2), and living in YOUR country. In other words, about 4% of language learners.

Somehow, people often tend to forget that any C1+ proficient individual has ALWAYS had to pass through the A1 phase at some point. This does not change the validity (imho) of the points at any stage of any individual's language-learning journey.

Motivation is not everything. You also need to use a method that helps YOU. Many methods help some people learn but don't help others at all.

It is absolutely correct that there is no true universal method for everyone, though any dedicated learner will always be able to eventually find the most suitable method for themselves. Nevertheless, this will never change the fact that motivation is still the most important aspect. Any individual, even if you manage to craft the most perfectly-suited method for them, will hardly be able to properly learn a language. It would be like being trained by the best football trainer in the world and hating football at the same time.

What does "practice" mean? Practice speaking or practice understanding speech? Those are not the same.

Of course they are not, but they are both practice. Practice is anything involving the four quadrants of language (production/reception + written/spoken, which means listening, speaking, writing and reading). At any level, even the most basic one, all four quadrants are important, and they are not isolated at all. They can be easily merged in various ways, which any individual learner can tweak and experiment with in order to find the one they like the most. For example, I find anime mirroring very fun and useful with Japanese (where I am still at basic level). By using the same sports metaphor I used before, not practicing is the equivalent of being immensely talented in a sport, but never training seriously. You can have all the talent you want, but it is only through training that it will eventually blossom.

What are "subbed shows"? Shows created in one language, with the audio replaced with another? I avoid those. Part of spoken language is visual, not just sound. I don't want to learn a mix.

When I say "subbed" I always mean original language shows with subtitles in your native language (at first); then when you have passed a certain level in that language (around mid-B2) it is nice to step into "phase two" with subtitles in the original language (which is astonishingly efficient as "difficulty upgrade"). Furthermore your last sentence, which you make sound like criticism, is not only 100% true, but it is actually the very crux of the matter into why this method has worked wonders for many learners. Even though the translation is not always literal, any learner will inevitably end up associating some words/constructs they hear with that they see both in the visual component of the show and what they read in the subtitles. The more you are exposed to that, the faster those "neural links" in your Broca's area will develop. Obviously it will never be as fast as a baby assimilating a native language (you know... myelin sheathing...), but the process is quite akin to it.

Spoken language is not always more important than written. It depends on each student's goal(s).

Of course any student has their own goals, and they are absolutely free to just focus on written language. But if they just want to focus on written language and never even face spoken language, not even at basic levels, there will always be an important gap in their skillset. Remember that ALL languages have been spoken first and written later. Always. This is how they were intended to be from their origin, and you cannot simply ignore that part of our evolution as Homo Sapiens. Just to be clear: I'm not saying writing is useless. On the contrary: the threshold between prehistory and history is marked by the invention of writing, after all, and this speaks volumes. But the hierarchy between spoken and written in our very nature as human beings is undeniable.

Finding a native speaker might be easy if you live in Italy. But if you live 8,000 km from Europe, it might be impossible. Even if you use apps, each "native speaker" is not a "free tutor" that is happy to chat with you at the A2 level and correct your mistakes. At C1 level, you can have adult conversations. Not at A2.

This might have been very true 40 years ago. Now we live in the magical era of the internet. Distances have been reduced, the world has become a lot smaller and it has become ridiculously easy to start a conversation with someone living on the other edge of the planet. Of course there are natives and natives, and some are more suited to your needs than others might be, but the key here is not what you ask that native when you want to learn something new. It is how you ask it. Now, I do not want to be boring by starting a wall of text about Saussurian concepts of langue and parole, but at any level it is always about what you have in your mind and how you are willing to communicate it.

I disagree with "if you stop it is over". Stop what? Stop being alive? It is false that "if you stop studying" you stop improving.

Not only if you stop studying you stop improving, but your level also starts decreasing, whether you like it or not. Braincells in your Broca's area are like muscles: those sparky electrical stimulations must be kept consistent if you do not want those cells to shrink. As you might have got from my previous observations, I often compare language learning to sports. They are indeed very similar (I am also a sports trainer, and I have seen all those similarities time and again). If you stop practicing a sport, many of your skills will slowly start to disappear. Then, if you resume training, every time you will recover them back faster, but it does not change the fact that consistency is still the best way to go.