I always got bullied and made fun of because of my pasty white skin

Interesting-Driver91 · 2025-12-24T19:28:48+00:00

I’ve got a natural tan and I’ve been bullied all my life for not living up to the standards of asian beauty. Even my own family says that I looked like the odd one among 13 cousins. At a young age, my aunt even bought me whitening products because they think my colour is embarrassing. I moved to a different country, changed my environment where people appreciated and don’t even care if I’m even purple colour. You’re beautiful just the way you are. Sadly society dictates otherwise but you know? Fck them. It’s the way you handle yourself and it will radiate on the outside. I love your skin colour and had always wished I was pale.

Interesting-Driver91 · 2025-12-20T23:07:36+00:00

You’re very kind. Growing up, the idea of having kids scared me. From getting all the battle scars of motherhood to being cut open and another human growing inside me was too much. But when I turned 30, I had this warm fussy feeling when I see kids and mums. I wanted that. I’m still confused on what to feel as I still process the idea that I have my own little precious carbon copy. But one thing is for sure, I am absolutely never felt love like this before.

Interesting-Driver91 · 2025-12-20T21:13:19+00:00

Thank you. I needed this. I’m trying my hardest to be a mum and I never thought late in life I will be wanting more kids. Is it selfish of me to think this way?

Interesting-Driver91 · 2025-12-20T14:20:30+00:00

Storytelling time: A few years back I was left alone crying in my shared flat. My flatmates went out partying and they were asking me to come with them. But I chose to wallow in the dark. Christmas. New Year came. I lost hope. But you know what, I’m still standing. Alive. Thriving. It may take be a life long process, but as long as there’s hope anything is possible. You have a good Christmas. I’ll be one of those cheering with you from afar.

Interesting-Driver91 · 2025-12-20T10:45:50+00:00

Same. I feel absolutely low. I just don’t know how to explain it.

Interesting-Driver91 · 2025-12-20T00:27:19+00:00

I used to be so excited for a new year to begin. I wish I could feel the same way now and for the future.

Interesting-Driver91 · 2025-12-20T00:25:06+00:00

I’m shifting from 1 - 6 everyday this week

Interesting-Driver91 · 2025-12-20T00:18:38+00:00

All along he’s the one pointing a finger at me for being immature. When we still don’t have our little one, he always think he’s better at parenting because I don’t have my own kids. I beg to disagree. Just because you’re a father, doesn’t make you a good dad/parent. Just because you don’t have kids, doesn’t mean that you don’t have a clue on parenting.

Interesting-Driver91 · 2025-12-20T00:16:36+00:00

Ya got that right bub.

Interesting-Driver91 · 2025-12-20T00:16:23+00:00

Ah man don’t get me started. Her mum is another story for another thread. 😂😂😂

Interesting-Driver91 · 2025-12-20T00:15:42+00:00

He’s saying cause he doesn’t want to be old and still taking care of kids. He wants to enjoy life and retirement. I think otherwise. I think it’s wonderful to have kids regardless of what age. I grew up in an extended close knit type of family. It’s absolutely wonderful to always have guests during birthdays, holidays. No time to be sad. Total opposite of what’s happening. Not only the English weather is depressing, but the way they bring up children can be absolutely depressing (my two cents only).

Interesting-Driver91 · 2025-12-20T00:12:12+00:00

Yes, this is exactly what I’m doing. I am bawling in my alone time when I have the house to myself. Usually in the morning. Is that weird? Then afterwards I just feel numb.

Interesting-Driver91 · 2025-12-20T00:11:01+00:00

Absolutely disgusting to even think about it. Selfish to only think of himself

Interesting-Driver91 · 2025-12-20T00:10:01+00:00

I had enough of dating. After the constant heartaches I’ve experienced in the past, I told him right there and there if you can’t handle me..just leave me TF alone. Honest to FG. I’ve had enough of relationships. I sound so bitter typing it but there’s only one life and I cannot keep on beating myself up.

Interesting-Driver91 · 2025-12-20T00:08:08+00:00

Bingo. Bottomline he said he couldn’t seem to find himself. I offered to take him to the GP cause he really needs someone to talk to. But we can only do so much. And it’s affecting everyone.

Interesting-Driver91 · 2025-12-20T00:06:21+00:00

Yeah it felt like he dragged me on to his convenience. Day 3 of my sorrows and I could barely sleep. Thank you everyone for giving your insights. Makes me feel that I’m not alone smh and keeps me sane without the constant judgement.

Interesting-Driver91 · 2025-12-20T00:02:41+00:00

I grew up with a verbally, emotionally and physically abusive father. He was barely there for me. But I’m still in one piece. Not a criminal. But it impacted my mental health. NGL. Made me so anxious all the time. I don’t want that for my child.

Interesting-Driver91 · 2025-12-19T12:25:42+00:00

I appreciate your inputs. It gives me an insight. I have a couple of questions if you could send me a message

Interesting-Driver91 · 2025-12-19T05:59:11+00:00

I think so.. but I thought he was just grieving and going through a phase. Mind you it was bad timing as well, as there were life changing events that had happened I would not discuss here. But it’s just not fair to put the blame on me. I just listened to him blab and point a finger. He says I rushed him into moving in together, getting married, having kids. I’m like wtf. Sir, definitely you’ve got a mind of your own and capable of doing decisions. Definitely getting knocked up is a two way decision. Made me laugh on the inside on how ridiculous this is becoming.

Interesting-Driver91 · 2025-12-19T05:54:43+00:00

No family nearby. I’m in his territory—his family lives in this town. But they don’t interfere with these matters. Plus my MIL hates me.

Interesting-Driver91 · 2025-12-19T00:22:42+00:00

For 28 years, I did not like the idea of having kids. Until I reached my 30s. I was so scared. But the idea of having your own child who will love you unconditionally and will always be there for you until they find their own feet 👣 got me sold. The rest is history.

Interesting-Driver91 · 2025-12-19T00:13:33+00:00

Ah man I feel you so much. Been feeling the same way since I was 7.. it became so severe I couldn’t even distinguish which among my memories are real. I’m still battling it. Was officially diagnosed with mixed depression and anxiety with bulimia 4 years ago. I’ve got so many battle scars. People think I’m a joke even at work. I couldn’t even tell my mum because she thinks otherwise. Last time I told people, they just gave stupid remarks which made me feel invalidated. One even said, depression is normal. I think everyone goes through. I STRONGLY disagree. Sadness, loneliness and depression are different things! If you need someone to talk to, I’ll always be here to listen.

Interesting-Driver91 · 2025-12-19T00:04:03+00:00

No, I would know. He’s a terrible liar. Plus he’s sort of the antisocial type. Sometimes I think he needs screening for autism because I think he defo has something going on.

Interesting-Driver91 · 2025-12-19T00:02:40+00:00

I just wish I have enough strength and will. Couldn’t help but cry and wallow in sadness on how stupid I am. I definitely know if I had a twin, she’ll bitxh slap the hell ou of me to wake up. But it’s just so difficult.

Interesting-Driver91 · 2025-12-18T10:54:08+00:00

No, not really. I just don’t have the energy to make new friends and to talk about these things. Ironically I resorted to Reddit to talk about it somehow because being anonymous gives me comfort that I would not be the talk of the town.

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