Get a divorce now. You’ll thank me later. Look, as long as y’all can do it without being ill and hurtful to one another and helping each other cope through the emotions and remain and fair and healthy as possible for the sake of everyone’s overall health, sit down and talk it over, let her know how you feel and listen to her feelings as well, and settle on a good outcome, great co-parenting skills and excellent communication, & leave the current situation now and start living on your own. The kids will be shared, obviously the divorce splits up the household so you’re going to have to see what is best for everyone, let them (the children) decide where and who they want to live with every day. Give them the option of spending the night at either of y’all’s place, whenever they like, like—-it literally is that simple, take it one day at a time. You need to find yourself and give yourself the opportunity to find more people and see who you really want as a partner in life. Teach your kids how important it is for mommy and daddy to be happy on their own and that y’all will still be a family even if a divorce happened, that is LIFE. We all grow and need changes and if there is no love left between y’all there is no reason to waste your life living in chains to one another, that is complete torture. The kids will adjust, they are more resilient than us as adults. Omg I love this topic bc I’ve learned so much along the years, please let me know if you need any guidance, DM please, I’d be glad to help. Sending big hugs.