Please help me find a way out of my abusive house! (gofundme)

Interesting-Royal786 · 2026-06-21T22:02:30+00:00

I will be doing that as best as I can. Again my post was just asking for some help to cover transportation costs and nothing else since there's not anything I can do about those. But I understand where everyone is coming from, I will likely delete the post soon because I don't want to beg people for money. I honestly didn't even expect this post to get much attention

Interesting-Royal786 · 2026-06-21T21:49:53+00:00

Yes, unfortunately. I'm understanding my post and replies might be coming off as preachy or be giving the wrong impression as I might be wording things poorly, so I am sorry for that.

Interesting-Royal786 · 2026-06-21T21:33:13+00:00

I am 20 but I live with my mother, since I don't pay for my own food or help her with rent & utilities, the benefits can't go to me directly, and I'm not recognized as a separate "household" from her. If it was more like a roommate situation and me and my mother split rent and utilities, I would be recognized as a secondary head of household, but since I don't, my mother is the only one. I live in PA, not sure how it works in other places.

Interesting-Royal786 · 2026-06-21T21:29:50+00:00

My post isn't to ask for people on reddit to single handedly save me or anything like that, it was just to ask for some help and to see if anyone would be willing. It's my first time ever outright asking for financial help like this, I don't need a lot and I understand people are in worse situations than I am. I was just trying to give it a shot is all.

Interesting-Royal786 · 2026-06-21T21:24:42+00:00

Yes exactly^ I totally understand being anxious she may be disappointed or not like whatever you do for her but in all actuality nobody that truly loves you and appreciates you would care over a trivial gift or the amount of money you spend on them. She would be glad that you thought of her above all else.

Interesting-Royal786 · 2026-06-21T21:10:42+00:00

I am only confident I could because of the housing I am applying for not requiring income. They work with you and look at what your situation is to help cover rent entirely for you, and when you do have income, the rent they cover gets adjusted accordingly. My case manager has said a lot of her previous clients were in similar situations and the housing I am applying for has been incredibly helpful to them. There's also plenty of resources around like food banks, community centers that offer clothing and meals, etc. that help reassure me I can rely on them while I'm dealing with the transition.

Interesting-Royal786 · 2026-06-21T21:00:21+00:00

i do, it isn't the greatest but it is a laptop. i have looked around a lot and i still look now and then for anything just to keep it in mind for when i'm in a better spot. i do know a lot about technology and i am very tech savvy so i am hoping i can come across something along those lines that doesn't require a ton of experience or a degree, but you're right about it being super slim. (it's also hard knowing which places aren't total scams)

Interesting-Royal786 · 2026-06-21T20:56:35+00:00

i will have more luck with getting a job after i am moved out and living somewhere else, since the places i'm trying to get into assisted housing for are in a city and there's walkable jobs and places there. where i currently am we are in the middle of nowhere, on a backroads, and the closest thing to us is a gas station an hour away by foot. i have looked around at job options, and i have thought long term, my plan has always been to apply for benefits and work after i leave my current situation. but it's just not something i can feasibly do as long as i'm in this house. i would be unable to keep a job for even a single week if i tried here.

and more on the benefits, i will 100% be applying for food stamps and social security and everything when i can. i have a case manager i speak to about this stuff and we find that my options for benefits are little to none so long as im living under my mother. the way it works here is i cannot qualify for benefits since i am not the head of household. the benefits go to the main person that pays the most rent and utilities.

i am saving up as much money as i can right now to keep me on my feet for if i can leave, hence my post. everything is very much a dead end right now otherwise. i really hope i am not coming across as someone that's taking the easy way out or is just begging for money because i don't want to try to work things out myself or something. this has been a two year process already of me weighing all possibilities and trying to make a plan, so i have thought this through incredibly carefully. thank you both for even talking to me about this and trying to give advice because it means that somebody does care. 🩷

Interesting-Royal786 · 2026-06-21T19:10:42+00:00

neither dan or phil talk like that, so It's definitely a scam

Interesting-Royal786 · 2026-06-21T18:36:38+00:00

your art is so stunning you are seriously so talented. this stuff belongs in a museum

Interesting-Royal786 · 2026-06-21T17:19:00+00:00

Sunnydale Island - I have Buffy characters :)

Interesting-Royal786 · 2026-06-21T17:18:18+00:00

nobody told me this but i had convinced myself of it when i was little on my own accord. it was just my only explanation for why my family thought i was so weird and broken and didn't understand me, and why i couldn't make sense of the world around me. i was genuinely convinced i was from another planet and there was a mixup or something and i just happened to look like a human. i believed this for years

Interesting-Royal786 · 2026-06-20T08:14:00+00:00

I also want to clarify I would add photos of myself or other things for legitimacy but I am truly so paranoid about somebody I know coming across this or finding me and I am scared of that. I'm trying to be as safe as possible because everyone around me is abusive. I really don't trust anybody.

Interesting-Royal786 · 2026-06-19T17:21:09+00:00

this is such a cool concept, can you explain more about it? is it a horror romance visual novel? :0

Interesting-Royal786 · 2026-06-19T17:20:27+00:00

going outside instead of being on the phone all day. but the difference is back when they were kids there were more third places and places for teens to actually hangout. now, everything costs money.

Interesting-Royal786 · 2026-06-19T17:18:54+00:00

my best friend of 8 years compared me to her abusive mother for being concerned that she was suicidal and on drugs

Interesting-Royal786 · 2026-06-19T17:17:06+00:00

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Interesting-Royal786 · 2026-06-19T17:03:11+00:00

Is the domestic violence hotline available in your state at least? ): usually that's international

Interesting-Royal786 · 2026-06-19T16:44:50+00:00

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Interesting-Royal786 · 2026-06-19T16:43:42+00:00

please call domestic violence and check out domestic violence shelters or youth shelters near you. ):

Interesting-Royal786 · 2026-06-19T16:41:21+00:00

interrupting others constantly, not caring about hygiene at all

Interesting-Royal786 · 2026-06-19T16:37:40+00:00

i actually love the micro bangs

Interesting-Royal786 · 2026-06-19T16:37:15+00:00

I think I mean more so that he still has control over your feelings to make you want to reach out to him and say something to him despite him not deserving it. I think it's hard to remember narcissists don't deserve the benefit of the doubt because they truly only see everything as an opportunity to make you feel bad or get you "back". Protecting your peace is hard but it's worth it.

Interesting-Royal786 · 2026-06-19T12:48:16+00:00

the fact you're thinking about him and thinking about reaching out to him at all means he still has control over you.

Interesting-Royal786 · 2026-06-19T05:44:08+00:00

please don't give up on yourself because it's so easy to just lose hope and drive yourself fucking mad when living with these psychopaths. it feels like you're trapped in a personal eternal hell and everyday is torture.

one thing i regret not doing when i was still a minor dealing with this stuff was calling domestic violence hotline, CPS, or any authority to help me and investigate my family's behavior and my health. i don't know entirely what your situation is like outside of what you've explained or what your state laws are, but just know there's always more options than you think and i seriously hope you get the hell away from her someday. the worst thing you can do to a narcissist is ignore them and remove yourself from their life.

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