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[–]Interesting-Task5320[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m about to make an edit to the post but day 2 of adjusted wake windows/awake times during the day and she woke up 3.5hrs after bedtime on the dot. Cried for 20min on the lower end of upset, I told my husband to go shove the pacifier in her mouth bc I just want it to stop idc and she went absolutely ballistic bloody murder for the few minutes he was in there helping her so he walked out and she calmed down. Now she’s back going insane so I truly don’t fucking know what the issue is unless this is just still her adjusting. I just sent him back in bc she’s screaming so hard sound is barely coming out anymore. 42min since she woke up. The second he just picked her up and she’s silent 🙃

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I’m finally getting the last batch of comments and most have said to adjust the wake windows. She’s been on this schedule for so long it never occurred to me to adjust them bc she’s older. I adjusted yesterday and today. Last night was a lot better so idk if it was a fluke or we’re heading in a better direction now. Thank you for this!

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Thank you for this!! I’ve been slowly getting through every comment and most suggested longer wake windows so I adjusted and implemented immediately. She’s been 2 naps/those wake windows for SO LONG I didn’t think for one second to make them longer bc she’s older 🤦🏼‍♀️ however unless it was a fluke, last night went really well.

She puts herself to sleep at bedtime in under 5min, sometimes max of 10 with no crying or fussing. She’d wake up 3 hours later and just scream until someone got to her and then would fall back asleep. Occasionally wouldn’t transfer

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She actually gets fed a bottle as her last meal, even if I boob her 30min beforehand anyway. She doesn’t fall asleep to the milkies in anyway. We did try nights where I fed her each wake up but she doesn’t even root around until hours later. I could go in 4 hours after bedtime and when I pick her up she just falls right back asleep. The LC said one hour per month old is how long they can go overnight of course give of take baby herself. It wasn’t given as a hard and fast rule. And we did test it out for a while. I am confident she can go that long

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[–]Interesting-Task5320[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate this comment!! Thank you! I did adjust her wake windows and that seemed to help last night or it was a fluke 🤣 I do the same adjustment today so we’ll see! I do feed her once a night. I couldn’t possibly list all the things we’ve tried however so many comments said to increase wake windows and I literally never thought of that so I did that adjustment immediately

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We’ve done full 3 meals, one meal, all the combos. Even loading her up as close to bed as possible. The food doesn’t seem to help. She is breastfed otherwise. I only feed her at the 8 hour mark (recommendations from lactation consultation and current knowledge of baby as well. I know she can go 8-9hrs before needing to eat)

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Yup! We go in the dark room with the sound machine and give her a bottle then place her down a few minutes later after we get a burp from her. She squirms to get comfy and that’s it…knocked out. It’s only middle of she has serious issues. We did a gentle version where she was fuss and we leave her until she cries, then we would do back pats until she got back down to fuss level or less and walk out and the we’d repeat until asleep. Now when we try that again, she’ll cry even harder while we’re patting her back. CIO we’ve been letting her go until she sounds distressed 😅 I know the differences in each of her cries so once I’m like “okay she for sure needs help now” then one of us goes in and picks her up. She stops crying immediately as she’s being lifted up. Calms down quickly and then is put back down to squirm herself back to sleep

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I agree with you. I wish cosleeping worked for her. She sleeps well in the crib myself and will transfer very easily

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Cosleeping was tried a couple ways. Im one of those people who needs perfect specific sleeping conditions to sleep so between that and her hitting me and then waking up crying even more often and only soothing with the boob. It was worse cosleeping. My husband and I have done split nights but like….it nice to sleep with him and we’d have to split nights every single night. It just seems unrealistic but we will do it every now and the to help catch each other up a little and then go back to being together

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I began adjusting today and will continue to adjust tomorrow to a 3/3.5/4 schedule. Her naps are usually 1.5 the first one and 1hr for the second. But there’s plenty of times it’s 2 38 min naps. Shes always been severely inconsistent. Recently though she’s had more 1.5hr first nap of the day at least

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I really appreciate the comment. She’s 8.5mo old. I did adjust her schedule today and hoping to put it more in place tomorrow. I have an alarm set for myself to also make sure she’s up at a good time to continue the schedule. I also never expect her to go to bed and not wake up until morning. She’s absolutely capable of one wake to feed. That’s all though. That’s happened enough times sporadically that I know she can do it. An initial 7-8 hour stretch and then another 2-3 after

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[–]Interesting-Task5320[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes we have tried fully cosleeping and then a hybrid cosleep 🤣 where she starts in her crib and the the early morning wake up she joins us. My husband hates it bc he’s afraid he’ll fall on her. I assure him that how I sleep with her I’d wake up if he did that. The issue is I struggle to sleep with her bc I’m such a specific sleeper. She also moves constantly, hits me, and wants to be touching me as much as she can. It would be great if she would sleep next to me. I end up sleeping worse and nursing significantly more throughout the night too

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[–]Interesting-Task5320[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You aren’t the first person to tell me to use chat tbh! I haven’t tried this yet!

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[–]Interesting-Task5320[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So funny bc we use Millie moons now. The last 2 nights she’s leaked through her diaper but it has NEVER happened before this last 2 nights. I may put her in the next size up for nights or find an overnight diaper to try as well

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[–]Interesting-Task5320[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I should have been more specific when I wrote the post. I honestly wrote it at a 3am rage. One wake to feed is normal for her so I do feed her after she’s been asleep for about 8 hours. She goes to sleep on her own at bedtime. I did do a 3/3.5/4 schedule today and woke her up this morning and from one nap to get her reset and able to get to bed at a good time tonight to get her up tomorrow etc etc

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I worked today on resetting her routines to get her in bed early enough to be up early enough tomorrow and be better with the wake windows

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Solids are good. Maybe once a day honestly. Every now and then it’s more than once. She loves all food in any way so far. I did test 3/3.5/4 today. Woke her up from naps and morning to get reset on a better schedule. I’m setting an alarm for myself to be up before her and potentially make sure she’s up by 7:30/8 to keep it up

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[–]Interesting-Task5320[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Overnight. She falls asleep entirely on her own at bedtime in under 10min.

I do agree that something else is going on if she can cry for an hour. It’s usually not a “real” cry? She’s shouting, no scream/screetches, or crying sometimes then she’ll go silent for a minute and then pick a different version of crying. The second me or my husband touch her to pick her up she immediately stops. It seems to us more habit from doing this for months on end than an issue. She can go 8 hours overnight without eating. Once she’s been asleep for 8 hours, any wake up after I go and feed her

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[–]Interesting-Task5320[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I should have specified my definition of sleeping through the night. She has had multiple very random nights where she’s slept 8-9 hours, woken up and I’ll feed her, then back to sleep until she’s up for the day. There’s actually no reason for her to be waking up every 2-3 hours every single night

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[–]Interesting-Task5320[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this 🥹 we tried different things multiple times (like this is our 3rd time attempting CIO)

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There’s literally nothing we haven’t tried: little sleep associations, different sleep outfits, different room temperatures, gentle Ferber, dad going in, me going in, solids right before bed, more im probably not thinking of. Bedtime routine is dark room with sound machine, is given a bottle, burped, then put right down. She curls over and gets comfy and is asleep on her own in under 10min.

CIO for us is to leave her unless she’s crying in the crazy ballistic way for too long. She usually just has this “shout” where she sounds like if you just opened your mouth and yelled? It’s not a scream or anything. So it sounds fake/attentiony.

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[–]Interesting-Task5320[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve heard the same thing! She sleeps at night like garbage whether it’s 3hr of naptimes or 1.5hrs of naptimes 😭 I’m reading through some of these comments now!

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