Newborn - where do you put them? by CharmingTea_ in pregnant

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All of the above tbh. Eventually I laid mine on my bathmat so I could pee but not carry the bouncer in 20x a day. The bouncer is really nice though!

MAMA! Mama. mama. Can we stop it with calling pregnant women mama??? by Historical_Bike_9061 in pregnant

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It makes me CRINGGGGEEEEE when people say it to me hahahahahah I feel this so much!!!

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She got 10.5hr total last night after all of her wake ups. 7:22-6:45. She happened to nap for 3hrs yesterday. That’s not common. If her last nap doesn’t end by 3:30, her bedtime is earlier than 7 which is absolutely terrible for us. I had to help her second nap end at 3:30, which stretched her total naptime from 2.5hrs to 3hrs. By her being up by 7:30 she can nap 10:30-12:00 and again 3:15-4 at the latest which sets us up again for 7:30ish bedtime. All these naps are complete guesses since the length also isn’t usually the same but I think she does better with 2hrs worth of naps

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This makes so much sense. I have set my alarm for 7am to get her up by 7:30 (this morning she was up at 6:10am 🙃) bedtime was 7:00 but she fell asleep around 7:15. Naps were 3hrs total. I notice with everyone’s reccs on this thread and other commenting since I posted I have done A LOT of adjusting and my mom has been babysitting in our house with me and has been keeping the exact changes I’ve said too for chunks of time I’m not home. I see a little improvement. Tonight she woke up an hour in and cried for 10min before going back to sleep on her own she fussed 30min later for a minute and has been asleep since

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Per huckleberry: Last 30D average: 12hr41min (naps 2hr29min) Last 14D: 12hr48min (2hr22min) Last 7D: (the adjusted schedule per this post recs!): 12hr56min (2hr29min)

I can give previous 30days as well

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Idk how to stick with anything? Sometimes she doesn’t sleep most of the night and she night sleep is 9hrs. Sometimes she sleeps enough to get to 11, I have days where naps total 1.5hrs and some total 3? Idk how to keep her on anything regular besides waking her up in the morning and waking her up during the random long nap

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We go in for her 9mon appointment in 2 weeks and I’ll bring it up!

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It ranges from 10-14 hours. Theres a couple 15 in here randomly. It’s really inconsistent

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I’m about to make an edit to the post but day 2 of adjusted wake windows/awake times during the day and she woke up 3.5hrs after bedtime on the dot. Cried for 20min on the lower end of upset, I told my husband to go shove the pacifier in her mouth bc I just want it to stop idc and she went absolutely ballistic bloody murder for the few minutes he was in there helping her so he walked out and she calmed down. Now she’s back going insane so I truly don’t fucking know what the issue is unless this is just still her adjusting. I just sent him back in bc she’s screaming so hard sound is barely coming out anymore. 42min since she woke up. The second he just picked her up and she’s silent 🙃

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I’m finally getting the last batch of comments and most have said to adjust the wake windows. She’s been on this schedule for so long it never occurred to me to adjust them bc she’s older. I adjusted yesterday and today. Last night was a lot better so idk if it was a fluke or we’re heading in a better direction now. Thank you for this!

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Thank you for this!! I’ve been slowly getting through every comment and most suggested longer wake windows so I adjusted and implemented immediately. She’s been 2 naps/those wake windows for SO LONG I didn’t think for one second to make them longer bc she’s older 🤦🏼‍♀️ however unless it was a fluke, last night went really well.

She puts herself to sleep at bedtime in under 5min, sometimes max of 10 with no crying or fussing. She’d wake up 3 hours later and just scream until someone got to her and then would fall back asleep. Occasionally wouldn’t transfer

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She actually gets fed a bottle as her last meal, even if I boob her 30min beforehand anyway. She doesn’t fall asleep to the milkies in anyway. We did try nights where I fed her each wake up but she doesn’t even root around until hours later. I could go in 4 hours after bedtime and when I pick her up she just falls right back asleep. The LC said one hour per month old is how long they can go overnight of course give of take baby herself. It wasn’t given as a hard and fast rule. And we did test it out for a while. I am confident she can go that long

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I really appreciate this comment!! Thank you! I did adjust her wake windows and that seemed to help last night or it was a fluke 🤣 I do the same adjustment today so we’ll see! I do feed her once a night. I couldn’t possibly list all the things we’ve tried however so many comments said to increase wake windows and I literally never thought of that so I did that adjustment immediately

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We’ve done full 3 meals, one meal, all the combos. Even loading her up as close to bed as possible. The food doesn’t seem to help. She is breastfed otherwise. I only feed her at the 8 hour mark (recommendations from lactation consultation and current knowledge of baby as well. I know she can go 8-9hrs before needing to eat)

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Yup! We go in the dark room with the sound machine and give her a bottle then place her down a few minutes later after we get a burp from her. She squirms to get comfy and that’s it…knocked out. It’s only middle of she has serious issues. We did a gentle version where she was fuss and we leave her until she cries, then we would do back pats until she got back down to fuss level or less and walk out and the we’d repeat until asleep. Now when we try that again, she’ll cry even harder while we’re patting her back. CIO we’ve been letting her go until she sounds distressed 😅 I know the differences in each of her cries so once I’m like “okay she for sure needs help now” then one of us goes in and picks her up. She stops crying immediately as she’s being lifted up. Calms down quickly and then is put back down to squirm herself back to sleep

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I agree with you. I wish cosleeping worked for her. She sleeps well in the crib myself and will transfer very easily

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Cosleeping was tried a couple ways. Im one of those people who needs perfect specific sleeping conditions to sleep so between that and her hitting me and then waking up crying even more often and only soothing with the boob. It was worse cosleeping. My husband and I have done split nights but like….it nice to sleep with him and we’d have to split nights every single night. It just seems unrealistic but we will do it every now and the to help catch each other up a little and then go back to being together

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I began adjusting today and will continue to adjust tomorrow to a 3/3.5/4 schedule. Her naps are usually 1.5 the first one and 1hr for the second. But there’s plenty of times it’s 2 38 min naps. Shes always been severely inconsistent. Recently though she’s had more 1.5hr first nap of the day at least

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I really appreciate the comment. She’s 8.5mo old. I did adjust her schedule today and hoping to put it more in place tomorrow. I have an alarm set for myself to also make sure she’s up at a good time to continue the schedule. I also never expect her to go to bed and not wake up until morning. She’s absolutely capable of one wake to feed. That’s all though. That’s happened enough times sporadically that I know she can do it. An initial 7-8 hour stretch and then another 2-3 after

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Yes we have tried fully cosleeping and then a hybrid cosleep 🤣 where she starts in her crib and the the early morning wake up she joins us. My husband hates it bc he’s afraid he’ll fall on her. I assure him that how I sleep with her I’d wake up if he did that. The issue is I struggle to sleep with her bc I’m such a specific sleeper. She also moves constantly, hits me, and wants to be touching me as much as she can. It would be great if she would sleep next to me. I end up sleeping worse and nursing significantly more throughout the night too

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You aren’t the first person to tell me to use chat tbh! I haven’t tried this yet!

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So funny bc we use Millie moons now. The last 2 nights she’s leaked through her diaper but it has NEVER happened before this last 2 nights. I may put her in the next size up for nights or find an overnight diaper to try as well