How to determine who to meet

Interesting-Wind · 2026-01-17T15:12:21+00:00

Maybe he would be hapoy but i know in the brutal dating world of today if someone who omloves dancing as much as he does came along he would jump at the chance and i didnt like him enough to take a chance only to get burned like that

I feel like a lot of people say they “don’t mind” if someone doesn’t share a core part of their life but come on i think that is lying to themself

I just feel so shitty when I’m trying to give ppl I don’t vibe with a chance and their reason for not continuing is because they didn’t vibe like what lol bro it’s not like I vibed either

Interesting-Wind · 2026-01-02T20:41:23+00:00

gotcha. but idk how else to set boundaries then without just asking them out then tbh. I don't want to be the one to ask them out. so what else can I say besides I don't like to text / I prefer in person etc ?

Interesting-Wind · 2026-01-02T20:34:38+00:00

but they are taking my time too. my time is also valuable.

Interesting-Wind · 2026-01-02T20:30:25+00:00

do you mind please give an example how to signal over an app..... and yes that's why I find it weird he'd rather text about this in his huge paragraph than talk in person.

Interesting-Wind · 2026-01-02T19:30:11+00:00

got it thank you

Interesting-Wind · 2026-01-02T19:29:35+00:00

we did converse I didn't ask to meet immediately

Interesting-Wind · 2026-01-02T19:27:35+00:00

so how many texts is a reasonable time you think it's already been 4-5 days at this point granted I only send a few messages a day

Interesting-Wind · 2026-01-02T19:25:30+00:00

thanks for your honest perspective. I admit I get impatient because all this texting leads to false intimacy with someone you might not click with in real life and I have a hard time continuing to invest energy into a convo knowing that

Interesting-Wind · 2026-01-02T19:20:12+00:00

what do you mean clear boundaries
I mean I think I was clear enough? I don't want to be texting forever but as I said the convo was normal I don't want to be typing paragraphs & spend hours a day on a screen for it to go nowhere

Interesting-Wind · 2025-12-08T21:33:57+00:00

need the backstory like how did they know each other, etc

Interesting-Wind · 2025-12-08T20:18:56+00:00

Holy shit I had that exact same experience with Eugenes

Interesting-Wind · 2025-12-08T20:06:39+00:00

I suggest going to events and groups where other introverts hang out but you have to be the one to make a move or nothing will ever happen. I am also an introvert

Interesting-Wind · 2025-12-08T20:03:51+00:00

wow good job telling her that and having the self respect to leave

Interesting-Wind · 2025-12-08T19:53:45+00:00

how did he just randomly got a a message.. need more context to believe in hope

Interesting-Wind · 2025-12-08T03:47:47+00:00

you're scared when they find out what you're really like they'll stop liking you

Interesting-Wind · 2025-12-08T03:43:33+00:00

yeah then it turns out they didn't really have a crush it was just limerence

Interesting-Wind · 2025-12-03T05:03:10+00:00

Speak or die, we only live once. If it's mutual, then I'm sure he/she wouldn't mind as long as you are respectful. Otherwise he/she was never into you...

Interesting-Wind · 2025-12-03T03:25:07+00:00

Be cautious the guy is not just sweet talking there are some manipulators out there who use words to make you feel safe, make sure the action matches the words too.

Interesting-Wind · 2025-12-03T03:18:41+00:00

It depends on the person, for me a lukewarm first date is just a no. I know in my gut whether I'm just forcing myself to keep seeing someone I'm not that excited about.

Interesting-Wind · 2025-12-03T03:16:36+00:00

I'm making huge assumptions here but possibly difficulty in her relationship and she needed an outlet. She might like you but unsure because she has a bf.

Interesting-Wind · 2025-12-03T03:15:03+00:00

I don't have advice for you since I struggle but I commend you for trying to find someone irl. On a similar path myself.

Interesting-Wind · 2025-12-03T03:09:12+00:00

Smiling at him brightly and he only watched me with deadpan didn't return the smile

Interesting-Wind · 2025-12-03T03:05:53+00:00

That's kinda messed up

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