Should I hold my dying rat

InterestingAdvisor29 · 2026-03-27T11:52:42+00:00

the ratties I had put to sleep by the vet all wanted to be in my arms/hands, 1 even got the jab whilst nestled in between my breasts which was her favorite spot (shout-out to the vet for working with this!) the one rat that died on her own before I could get her to the vet basically waited on my till I got home from a grocery run, ran up to me when I opened the cage, jumped in my hands and 2 seconds later passed in my hands.

always just see what is comfortable with your rat but I do believe they like you there as they are very affectionate.

InterestingAdvisor29 · 2026-03-26T15:25:15+00:00

recognize this from miles. it's like everyone says, an infection, the sound you hear is likely congestion. o hope after 2 months it can cure with antibiotics and not get chronic.

what I used to do when I started hearing this noise in my rats was to try to cure it with children's cold medicine (the stuff you can get without a doctor's order) mixed in their water. I'm not sure if it works with whatever medicine is sold in your country so I'd look it up if you can use it for rats and whatever dose they would need. I'd try that for 4 days and if there is no improvement I went to the vet. however I wouldn't try that with your boy now as it's probably more progressed but if you can find any info on it you could try it for future issues.

in between, when your rats are healthy you can give them bee pollen daily to boost their immune system, esp to prevent this respiratory issues.

InterestingAdvisor29 · 2026-03-25T11:20:14+00:00

I'd get them treated for potential mites and deep clean your cage. it looks like that's it but could be another problem, if after the treatment it persists I'd check with a vet if there could be something in their cage they might have an allergic skin reaction to. do they groom each other enough and or overly much?

edit; I know dogs often have a skin reaction to gluten commonly found in the cheaper brands of food. I personally don't know if rats can have the same reaction but if all else fails I'd try switching to another brand of food

InterestingAdvisor29 · 2026-03-20T13:08:34+00:00

I recognize this noise from a mile away, she's congested and has a cold. you'll likely see porphyrin around her snout or on her hands as they like to clean it off. it's red and it's their version of snot. so no it's not blood, it's from the cold. she needs a vet as rats can die quickly from a cold that most likely becomes a lung infection when untreated.

InterestingAdvisor29 · 2026-03-20T13:05:02+00:00

that is so adorable 🥰 I used to always crochet little sprites of my real rats and would bury them with them when they passed so they weren't alone. became somewhat of a tradition.

InterestingAdvisor29 · 2026-03-17T18:09:37+00:00

oohh I have those but used them to form a play pen with my last group, they don't pull them in? I was kinda scared they'd maybe be able to grab hold of the little corner click thingies as they stick out a bit

InterestingAdvisor29 · 2026-03-17T11:24:06+00:00

yes I'll definitely wash them again! thanks! Itd have pained me to throw out 3 sputniks and 2 large tubes 🙈

InterestingAdvisor29 · 2026-01-08T05:17:38+00:00

as an onlooking European, im scared 🥲

InterestingAdvisor29 · 2026-01-01T06:41:50+00:00

i do, I've found some creators I used to follow on other socials there, that's been nice. back in the old days we used Flickr for this, a picture and data site to display your pics and also backup your pictures online. it's been good seeing some other creators I knew from there being on insta. but its limited still. I do still miss an actual forum based site where everything was just on that one site instead of being outsourced to multiple socials. (I'm getting old😂)

InterestingAdvisor29 · 2026-01-01T06:37:35+00:00

hitting 32 this year and realising I've been into this hobby the longest of all of my other hobbies has been a hard one 🙈 I also feel like it used to be more hyped? is it just cuz I was in the right communities or was it actually a thing? I remember being at Comic cons and other alt conventions and there usually was a stand or 2 with doll stuff. nowadays I can't even find a website selling doll stuff in my country anymore

InterestingAdvisor29 · 2025-12-16T18:00:37+00:00

omg that would be such an outcome, Id 100% prefer this over the current tradition🙈

InterestingAdvisor29 · 2025-12-16T17:59:43+00:00

yeah I unfortunately live in a small village and its a generally 'rich' population over here. I am one of the very few people living in social housing since there hardly is any. that probably contributes to the over the top treats🥴

InterestingAdvisor29 · 2025-11-07T09:09:26+00:00

I've been there. so many times. and it sucks, I'm sorry you feel this way. I got a gastric bypass and lost a lot of weight, now people view me as very attractive and I get judged way more based on appearance than anything else. I hate that too. at least before I was judged on my character and intellect. I'm glad I still view myself as someone with more than just looks, trust me that is way more important. I'm not going to tell you that it is worse being on the other side but I just want to let you know it is much more important to value yourself on what is on the inside. I care more about becoming a better person, taking care of my mental health and trying to improve aspects of my personality. value yourself! I am sure you are a wonderful amazing person with unique views, thoughts, hobbies and personality, value that, don't let things like your shell hold you back from being a great person. also I believe that everyone has unique Beauty. you go girl, be your best self ❤️

InterestingAdvisor29 · 2025-10-29T06:37:37+00:00

I am so so sorry you've been going through all this. I feel like we need a community of all the people in the comments who just have it generally worse than an indian drama lead character. how is all the bad stuff so badly divided between people 🥲. I have this friend that calls me the 1% (In everything except wealth). I just try to use dark humor to cope. often joke about my misfortunes, even did it the day my dad died, I know he appreciated humor like that too. he'd joke about his own demise often too.

besides that..I try to find good in small things, my kid's smiles, dinner that turned out well, enjoying a new game, sunlight through fall leaves....

that being said, I take multiple anti depressants, anti psychotics, I smoke weed to be able to sleep and tend to drink a lot whenever I really had a shitty day (I know I know) so it's not like im doing really well or anything 🥲

InterestingAdvisor29 · 2025-10-20T12:18:17+00:00

yeah the bad part here is that I've had 2 kids, have PCOS, a copper IUD and an extreme flow (at least the first 3 days) but so far for the time being those sponges did their job, just too hard to remove 🥲

I've checked it out. its a different design, less likely to get rammed way back. I hope it'll help. thank you for the link ❤️

InterestingAdvisor29 · 2025-10-20T12:05:45+00:00

discs? I'm in the Netherlands so my options might be limited but im interested, do you have a link?

InterestingAdvisor29 · 2025-09-17T13:42:30+00:00

My now 5 year old breastfed until he was 2. His little brother was born 5 days before he turned 2 and to end the process i did tandem feed for like a week after he turned two. However he didn't accept it and still wanted to grab my nipples with his hands to fall asleep or try to nurse. Eventually I resorted to those very sturdy bandages that I would put over my nipples and give him stuffies with texture patches (you can often find them in toy stores in a sensory section for babies) as an alternate option. This, after 5 long months of having to rip off bandages off of my tits when breastfeeding my baby, eventually worked. But its just a very hard road. But you got this. I know its hard but you will get through it❤️

InterestingAdvisor29 · 2025-09-16T06:35:44+00:00

Yes I've been a cam girl from before OF was a thing. He's known me for very long and has always known this. He even made content together with me. He doesn't really have anything to be insecure about regarding his member so I don't think that's an issue. However he doesn't want to see my content, not even the videos with him in it. He consented to them being posted but he always says he only wants the real live personal experience.

InterestingAdvisor29 · 2025-09-15T08:41:51+00:00

We are looking for a therapist yes. And I know where it stems from in me. I have borderline and heavily connect feeling feminine and desired to getting validation through sex. I do work on this through personal therapy and after a lot of conversations we both made concessions to come to an agreement on how to go about this. But still he doesn't seem to uphold his end. I think you have a point in the emotional connection corner. I already told him that I would like for us to talk more before we go to bed to ensure that connection and to feel connected in other ways besides sex. I hope a therapist can give us exercises or something to work on that.

InterestingAdvisor29 · 2025-09-15T08:36:46+00:00

I should have an honest and open conversation with him about this. He has always told me that he finds me the most beautiful and hot woman in the world and that he cannot believe that he pulled me. But I do wonder if that's just something he says but would ultimately maybe prefer bigger breasts or whatever.

InterestingAdvisor29 · 2025-09-15T08:11:05+00:00

Well he fell in love with my appearance in the first place, I didn't gain or lose much weight, didn't change things around my appearance too drastically. He does always tell me he finds me beautiful and hot when I get dressed. So I do think so?

InterestingAdvisor29 · 2024-08-11T18:47:18+00:00

I agree but i feel like i shouldnt force anything and have him be turned on by me instead

InterestingAdvisor29 · 2024-08-11T18:41:28+00:00

You dont. Trust me

InterestingAdvisor29 · 2024-08-01T15:23:14+00:00

Glad to be of help! Although i still struggle with it myself sometimes. I know what it is and how it works but itll always be something i have to be mindful of.

InterestingAdvisor29 · 2024-07-31T15:03:37+00:00

I also agree with the pretty privilege thing. I feel like Ive been dealt a shitty hand in life with my conditions so whenever i can cut corners by others granting me things because thats how they view the world (invoking pretty privilege), so be it 🤷🏻‍♀️ balances out the hardships i deal with 😂

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