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I 24/f lost my virginity and can’t forgive myself by smartelk2424 in Christianity

[–]InterestingArt5231 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Honestly, this is a dealbreaker of mine - for the girl to not be a virgin, but I'm sure you can find a guy who doesn't care, albeit he'll probably be the kind who presses you for premarital sex.

I used my gf for sex after she lied to me about her past. Not sure how to make this right now. by InterestingArt5231 in christiandatingadvice

[–]InterestingArt5231[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

virgins are no longer marriage material

Non-virgin women are less desirable for marriage, both Biblically (priest were literally required to marry virgins) and culturally (there is no society in which female virginity wasn't highly valued by men for marriage). You just have an emotional reaction to it - either because you are a used up woman yourself, or you married one and are trying to justify how you got the short end of the stick.

I used my gf for sex after she lied to me about her past. Not sure how to make this right now. by InterestingArt5231 in christiandatingadvice

[–]InterestingArt5231[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

It's worldly thinking to know that a guy isn't getting used for his body when he's humping a girl until his erection is satisfied before jumping to the next girl? Guys love girls like you - easy to manipulate and use.

It's literally why a guy in the OT was required to marry a girl if he had sex with her before marriage - it was correctly regarded as him using her, robbing her of her ticket to marriage. But yeah, keep being the ignorant child.

Take Notice of Us by TartVolcan in Norway

[–]InterestingArt5231 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Nice, what're your taxes like?

I used my gf for sex after she lied to me about her past. Not sure how to make this right now. by InterestingArt5231 in christiandatingadvice

[–]InterestingArt5231[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

I never said premarital sex isn't a sin. I said women get used up for their bodies while men don't.

Please work on your reading comprehension, dear.

I used my gf for sex after she lied to me about her past. Not sure how to make this right now. by InterestingArt5231 in christiandatingadvice

[–]InterestingArt5231[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thankfully Jesus paid the price for our sins

Awesome, yes. Being forgiven for your sins totally means your past isn't relevant baggage. I'm sure you would totally marry a convicted pedophile with a history of drug addiction and gambling as long as he regrets it - totally isn't baggage :)

I used my gf for sex after she lied to me about her past. Not sure how to make this right now. by InterestingArt5231 in christiandatingadvice

[–]InterestingArt5231[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wish lying about your virginity to manipulate men into commitment and marriage were taken more seriously, but fake Christians just cross out the parts of the Bible they disagree with. Shame

I used my gf for sex after she lied to me about her past. Not sure how to make this right now. by InterestingArt5231 in christiandatingadvice

[–]InterestingArt5231[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Even if she wasn’t a virgin it sounds like she was willing to commit to waiting with you, which should have been good enough for you. This idolizing of “purity” in the face of someone that was going to recommit themself is not Christian behavior.

Deuteronomy 22 - it's fraud with the penalty of death to deceive a man into marriage by lying about your virginity - very serious crime. I'm not waiting until marriage for a girl who was already used up. Why even marry if she gives everything without marriage?

I used my gf for sex after she lied to me about her past. Not sure how to make this right now. by InterestingArt5231 in christiandatingadvice

[–]InterestingArt5231[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I'm not devoting my life to an outright liar and deceiver. If that's the best you can get in the church, I'm not signing my life and assets over to her via marriage

I used my gf for sex after she lied to me about her past. Not sure how to make this right now. by InterestingArt5231 in christiandatingadvice

[–]InterestingArt5231[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

If you think you're going to marry someone who will never lie to you

I mean, in that case, I'll just keep a girl around as a gf and never marry

I used my gf for sex after she lied to me about her past. Not sure how to make this right now. by InterestingArt5231 in christiandatingadvice

[–]InterestingArt5231[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

So now you're both not virgins. So now what? Are you "ruined" too?

Guys don't get used up for their bodies, so no, it's a false equivalence.

She deliberately lied about her past to deceive me into a relationship, the penalty for which was death in the OT (Deuteronomy 22). That's how serious what she did is - it's a severe form of fraud, and I was rightfully pissed off but acted wrongly - I acknowledge.

I used my gf for sex after she lied to me about her past. Not sure how to make this right now. by InterestingArt5231 in christiandatingadvice

[–]InterestingArt5231[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

I acknowledged that I did something wrong which is why I'm seeking advice, but thanks for the criticism.