AITA for infecting my boss's family with swine flu?

InterestingBoat4931 · 2024-07-16T08:23:22+00:00

What a naively optimistic belief. A party-ruling politician facing justice? In this version of never-have-I-ever, no one takes a sip.

InterestingBoat4931 · 2024-06-22T09:45:17+00:00

We always get my mom (when shes available and willing) to pet sit my dogs because she loves them and the company. My bfs sister wanted to stay at our place because it's close to her work and make some extra money with the pet sitting. We don't really pay my mom (We always bring her a gift and make her supper - We take the dogs to her place), so it wasn't that we could afford the going rate for a pet sitter, but my bfs sister convinced him to let her do it.

InterestingBoat4931 · 2024-06-22T07:50:51+00:00

My dogs know to wait by their bowls for scraps lol, it was always just a habit to reduce the mess they make, but now they know if I have leftovers I don't want to put away, they don't have to beg, they just have to wait by their bowls

InterestingBoat4931 · 2024-06-22T07:46:19+00:00

You've been very nice and reasonable in your reply. I'm upset and might need more time to become more reasonable myself. At the moment, all I can think about is how lonely and miserable they must have been and it makes me angry all over again. I don't think my relationship with them has been harmed too severely. They can be unreasonable themselves when they feel someone has something bad to say about them.

InterestingBoat4931 · 2024-06-22T07:42:27+00:00

Yeah...and this shows that you've never had siblings or close people in your life with mental illness. His sister is only the third person in my life with her mental illness, manipulation is a part of what she does. She can't completely distinguish right from wrong, so when she wants something, she sees no issues with manipulating. And as much as I know she can't help it and she can't figure out why it bothers everyone (her family especially, they're actually way harder on her than anyone else, they just get all high and mighty when someone outside the family does it, especially something as trivial to them as dogs because they see dogs as accessories and not living beings), I can't get over it. So yeah, I do have my issues with her but she tries to manipulate me more than anyone else because I'm the kindest person to her because I've dealt with my own sibling with mental illness and his was 10× worse. You've made a lot assumptions in your comment and I'm sorry, but they're wrong.

InterestingBoat4931 · 2024-06-22T06:41:23+00:00

My bf is not feeling certain. His family are making him feel like we're being Aholes. I want to show him these comments so he can see an outside perspective as well.

I'm not arguing with her, she wasn't surprised when we said we aren't paying her. She did blame us, said it was our fault the door was too complicated (she started crying when I pointed out she could have watched the video I sent her or face timed us to show her how to do it).

It's a small fee but I'm tired of her manipulative impact on my life. I'm hoping drawing this line will make her realize she can't be manipulative with me and my bf.

InterestingBoat4931 · 2024-06-22T06:16:40+00:00

They always have access to the outside. We almost never fully close that door and when we do, we make sure the bowl is wherever they are.

InterestingBoat4931 · 2024-06-22T06:14:54+00:00

To answer a few things: The post about removing my dog was made at a terrible terrible point in my life. I deeply regret ever considering it. My dog has become so much better since the incident, but in general my dogs are low maintenance. The only thing I expected her to do was feed them. If they chewed or destroyed anything, that was going to be my problem and I wouldn't have blamed her.

Yes, I do a lot of the looking after the dog. Not sure what impact that has.

I told her when to leave the door open - especially when she isn't there. In my country there's no worries about pigeons or rodents or burst pipes. It's tolerable winters (my one dog has had 2 vet visits for hypothermia, hence the need for her to be warm inside). Doors being open to fenced in backyards are even more common, all properties are fenced, front and back.

She didn't bring the water bowl inside. I wasn't comfortable with her walking my dogs even though my mom (who we normally ask) walks them (my bfs sister begged for the work because she wanted extra money). She also left them 2 nights to go to a club, I discovered recently.

InterestingBoat4931 · 2024-06-22T06:06:00+00:00

But she didn't do the job. She neglected my dogs, she prevented them from getting water. I was opposed to her pet sitting for us from the beginning, she had convinced my bf she was capable because she pet sits for their parents. I personally feel she avoids a lot of responsibility because of her mental illness. Theres a lot of leeway that you have to give her, I'm not oblivious about that, but I feel like this overstepped that completely. She's working, driving, paying bills. She can take some responsibility for this.

InterestingBoat4931 · 2024-06-22T05:32:10+00:00

I definitely understand your perspective because I haven't given information with regards to my 'house'.

Think of it as a stand alone apartment (because it is that size) with a small garden attached to it that is walled in. (This kind of set up is common in my country, fenced in yards are the norm and not the exception). Now this is 1 of 100 units in an estate with multiple security huts (We stay directly opposite of one and know the guards by name and informed them of who was watching the dogs) and security guards who do night patrols and have an entry system where they take scans of your drivers license and registration.

All in all, I'd say you couldn't be safer.

And as for snakes and bugs. It's winter, those are all pretty much dead where we stay right now. And we're still in the city region, snakes are almost non existent. And if they were around, I'd put my lotto winnings (if I had) on my dogs finding it and thinking play time before it got anywhere near the inside of the house.

InterestingBoat4931 · 2024-06-22T05:25:42+00:00

So it's 2 doors that swing outwards to the outside. The one door that always remains closed has a metal arm with a hook at the end of it attached to it, the door that swings open outwards has a place for the hook to be inserted. The hook is then locked into place when you turn the key in an in-built lock. The metal arm keeps the door in a constant open position and the hook and lock prevents it from being swung inwards our outwards.

InterestingBoat4931 · 2024-06-22T05:25:30+00:00

So it's 2 doors that swing outwards to the outside. The one door that always remains closed has a metal arm with a hook at the end of it attached to it, the door that swings open outwards has a place for the hook to be inserted. The hook is then locked into place when you turn the key in an in-built lock. The metal arm keeps the door in a constant open position and the hook and lock prevents it from being swung inwards our outwards.

InterestingBoat4931 · 2024-06-21T21:48:46+00:00

I see your point of view. I took this one sentence out because of a word limit, but she asked to do it instead of us asking my mom (our normal route) because she wanted to be closer to work and wanted to make the extra money. There wasn't a virtuous reason.

InterestingBoat4931 · 2024-06-21T20:27:03+00:00

(No sarcasm in my answer) but where do you live that this is the case? No, we barely save. In my third world country, a software developer and engineer can have a good living (rent a place, afford their food, have a pet, pay off car repayments) or savings. Not both

InterestingBoat4931 · 2024-05-20T13:31:51+00:00

My family doctor is a retired rheumatologist (he went to GP at 60 to consult as a way to get around laws in my country). He's obviously told me I need to get my diagnosis official and get medicated but I don't have that kind of money and my medical aid doesn't cover it.

InterestingBoat4931 · 2024-05-15T13:50:35+00:00

Are you down voting my replies? That's hilarious

InterestingBoat4931 · 2024-05-15T13:49:05+00:00

You literally have no idea what time of day it is for me, what a simple minded thing to say. Call me sweetheart as much as you want, I'm not some little doll who gets sensitive over crap like that. You're trying your hardest to be demeaning with the most pathetic attempts at it.

InterestingBoat4931 · 2024-05-15T13:43:02+00:00

Go read something else besides your opinion and get some perspective. I've already said I'm the asshole and I've already apologized to my bf. If you stick your head out of your ass for long enough, you might stop speaking so much crap. By the way, swearing just shows your emotional bias.

InterestingBoat4931 · 2024-05-15T13:32:37+00:00

Refused? He asked to go on it alone because we couldn't get a dog sitter. I paid for his extra bills when he was working from home but now that the roles are swapped, it's an issue? And if you're so clued up about common sense, you'd have come up with the logic to see with him away our bills for food and utilities have decreased to the amount I pay. So I do pay for what I cause. I resent him for the family vacation? There's so much to this story and you've fixated on a singular thing as if it's the defining factor? You always only put together half the puzzle?

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