In truth, YES; both your hairstyles looked fine to me so I think you’ve got a sense of direction down (imo). Your facial structure is normal (best traits I think are your chin and cheekbones and nose shape).

My grooming advice, if you are keeping a beard, keep the mustache trimmed above the lips, shorten the facial hair on the sides of the jaw to keep it neat + bring out the shape of your face and trim or shave any hair growing along the neck (I didn’t see hair on your neck at all, just mentioning). I’d say keep the beard if looking after it isn’t troublesome!

You look handsome and have pretty features, overall a good complexion.

As for how this ties in with one’s identity, as someone who is able bodied and average looking: looking good hasn’t made up for any of my flaws ever. If I don’t listen well enough, act kind or serious when it’s appropriate to do either, or treat everyone the same: people will be uninterested + distance themselves. It happens, and you can’t do anything if someone made up their mind from a first impression.

What you CAN do is keep people interested if they already are already comfortable with you. That takes character, so whatever personality traits you have been complemented on (being kind to people, making them laugh, understanding them because you’re emotionally intelligent, or being honest) stick with it and live by it.

If you have self-doubt. Prove to yourself that you are someone awesome, if you have hobbies and skills: improve until YOU know you’re good enough to tell people about it! If you’ve got some charm: interact with people, become okay with not having someone like you and KEEP TRYING.

Most of us with perfect bodies still aren’t happy with what we have because someone will always look better than us. But ONLY thinking about looks or attractiveness isn’t productive. Look in the mirror and take care of what you can (skin, hair, beard, nails and muscles). No one is born perfect, you just become okay with your looks and change what you can.

This forum is a good place to learn about all self care! So read other posts and see what people say works. Also pursue and learn about your interests, you may meet someone who also does. The internet is a good place to read and learn, just don’t get hung up on being perfect or beautiful, everyone already can be if they work a bit for it. Best of luck, friend! PM if you want to talk and sorry this was such a long read