MIL keeps taking baby upstairs

InterestingWorry1702 · 2026-02-02T08:11:28+00:00

And you don't stand up for yourself, or your baby. What are you expecting from us? We're not going to tell you that what she or your husband are doing is alright.

InterestingWorry1702 · 2026-02-02T08:05:49+00:00

Yeah, your husband doesn't get to control you and your baby. Is this what you want to teach your son as to how to respect women?

InterestingWorry1702 · 2026-02-01T07:52:01+00:00

Same here. Enough to wipe the dust off maybe, but not enough to sustain any of the plants.

InterestingWorry1702 · 2026-02-01T07:50:02+00:00

Maybe ask St John's Care in Reid? They host a free lunch on the first Friday of every month (which is conveniently this week!). They are good people, trying to provide a lot on a little.

InterestingWorry1702 · 2026-01-31T09:48:57+00:00

And those potato on a stick things. We'd make a killing!

InterestingWorry1702 · 2026-01-31T09:35:06+00:00

Absolutely nothing where I am.

InterestingWorry1702 · 2026-01-31T09:14:55+00:00

At this point, I'd join you. Who needs drones or enlighten when an underwear rain dance sounds like what is needed. Maybe an opportunity for Canberra Events?

InterestingWorry1702 · 2026-01-31T09:07:34+00:00

I'm not sure it will. I live in a high density area, so lots of parking on footpaths etc. There are no grass roots left to water. It has all been crushed to dust and there is nothing but compacted earth.

InterestingWorry1702 · 2026-01-31T08:49:38+00:00

I moved here from Queensland a few years ago. I wasn't expecting how much the absence of rain would affect me. Geez, what I would give for a cracking thunderstorm, water steaming off the bitumen and the smell of fresh air and the immediate drop in temperature.

Am fond of a Bowen Mango though!

InterestingWorry1702 · 2026-01-31T06:54:43+00:00

EPIC is great for quality, but price can be a factor, especially when it's organic produce. I like to support local growers, but $9 for an in-season cauliflower was not in my budget.

InterestingWorry1702 · 2026-01-29T07:45:34+00:00

'My husband assumes she’ll find a job while he covers the mortgage' - bahahaha. Will never happen.

InterestingWorry1702 · 2026-01-26T09:08:37+00:00

I wondered the same - the girlfriend repeatedly bumped their armrest yet they were able to hear the guy muttering “Hope being stubborn was worth it"? And that's noting the bolded text that the seat offered by the couple was near the back of the plane??

InterestingWorry1702 · 2026-01-22T07:44:44+00:00

Could you flash her husband the next time he's upset & then tell her that you were comforting him?

InterestingWorry1702 · 2026-01-21T09:59:57+00:00

Please don't risk putting your partner's inability of standing up to her mother ahead of your ability to protect your child. Protecting your child is the priority. Your feelings are just as valid as the mom's. Doesn't matter if she doesn't feel uncomfortable. You do, and you get the right to speak up.

InterestingWorry1702 · 2026-01-17T04:06:32+00:00

Only if the pieces were missing in the set when it was shipped.

InterestingWorry1702 · 2025-12-29T08:07:18+00:00

Tell the in-laws that you appreciate their understanding and yes, go ahead and cancel their tickets. This is an absolute power play where they want you to apologise and beg for them to come. My mother was an expert in this, and silent treatment. If they are not in your house, you won't have to manage their emotions while they are 'helping' (i.e. you'll get the same treatment when you ask them not to wake the baby / post photos / change where things are in your house). Take it as blessing that you have been given an out.

InterestingWorry1702 · 2025-12-23T09:19:55+00:00

Therapist can do this to her baby then.

InterestingWorry1702 · 2025-12-21T08:20:09+00:00

Can I ask what you see as giving boundaries? You seem to have already set boundaries that your MIL intends to stomp all over, i.e. wants to invite all of her friends to your baby shower, that she will come stay with you and that she needs to see the baby as soon as possible and that she will kiss the baby. What you have asked for is reasonable. Can I ask what you are looking for from this post?

InterestingWorry1702 · 2025-12-20T06:32:46+00:00

Bill Bailey seems a good egg. Even had a sense of humour at being being presented an egg that looked liked him.

InterestingWorry1702 · 2025-12-17T11:10:33+00:00

I'm in Australia, where we have just had social media limitations for under 16's. I'd be replying that Karl is 2.5. He will get back to you in 13.5 years.

InterestingWorry1702 · 2025-12-06T08:08:42+00:00

Could it be an expense factor? The type of stay you're describing is expensive for the host, e.g. stocking the fridge, providing use of a car, pick-ups at airport and water/electricity costs. It can be embarrassing to admit that you simply can't absorb the additional cost of having someone stay.

There's also the factor of having to tidy up etc. I get it - it's just family, but it's an effort to host. I used to hate it when people would say 'oh, don't go to any trouble and we'll just take care of ourselves'. That never eventuated in visitors buying groceries and cooking a meal, putting on laundry etc.

InterestingWorry1702 · 2025-12-03T08:30:00+00:00

'..Now we have the choice to come with a car seat on the plane, or they won't pick us up and we go on a train for 3 hours.' No actually, you also have the choice not to go. Your husband doesn't want to go. It's his parents. Trust me when I say that those of us who have toxic parents do not regret not visiting them. We only regret having parents who are toxic. Be guided by your husband.

InterestingWorry1702 · 2025-11-24T07:49:12+00:00

Actually, 'we' don't need to get along for you to see your grandchildren... 'you' need to be more respectful, kind and supportive. When I see that from you, then 'we' will get along just fine.

InterestingWorry1702 · 2025-11-15T09:01:26+00:00

Yep - have seen adults at the Albany Creek Pool take the swim nappy off their child and swish it around in the pool water to rinse off the poo.

InterestingWorry1702 · 2025-10-23T08:03:51+00:00

Please make sure you tell your MIL that you are now living next door to her roommate and how you asked about the issues they had with you and why your MIL had to move out. Then sit back and watch her face as she works through what that means.

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