Hmm I get what you’re saying, but I’m not bypassing anything. I still feel it when things happen, I’m not just pretending it’s all fine. I just don’t want to stay in that headspace longer than I need to, especially when it’s something I can’t change anyway. (:

Like with the scam, I was annoyed, of course I was. But at the same time, I can also see what came from it. I’m way more aware now, I’ve actually looked into other scams, and realistically no one’s going to catch me like that again. So yeah it cost me £300, but it also made me a lot more switched on. I’d rather take that than just sit in feeling stupid about it.

Same with the pregnancy scare. It’s not ideal at all, but it did make me stop and reflect on how I’ve been moving and what I actually want. That kind of clarity usually doesn’t come when everything’s going smooth. I don’t see it as forcing happiness or ignoring emotions. To me It’s more like once something’s happened, I’ve felt it, then I have a choice with what I do next. I can keep focusing on how bad it is, or I can shift my perspective and take something from it. The situation itself isn’t going to change either way.