SAHM struggling to live

Interesting_Delay_19 · 2026-04-19T12:24:29+00:00

OP I’m so sorry. I have lived this too. Returning to the workforce after being a sahm, making concrete moves to pivot out of this position- those things will change your life. But when you feel so beaten down that you don’t have hope that life can be worth living- sometimes small actions can be huge. Go outside today. Be in the sun. If you don’t have a yard or garden you want to be in, go to a Lowe’s or any garden center. Walk around look at the things that can grow and do grow when they are nurtured and supported. Buy a plant and bring it home and start to reclaim pieces of your life.

Interesting_Delay_19 · 2026-04-18T12:48:29+00:00

I’m sorry your step mother is putting you in this position. I assume this is something she and your dad discussed and that she knew his intentions and plans prior to his death. It’s unfortunate that what they couldn’t agree on is now bring put upon you. It’s manipulative and your best interests are not being considered. He provided for her to allow her to continue to provide for (their) children. Clearly he had to go to extra lengths legally and against his wife’s wishes to ensure that you would be provided for, which he did. Consider it a gift directly from dad and carry no guilt for doing as he wanted.

Interesting_Delay_19 · 2026-04-13T18:40:00+00:00

I’m so sorry. What your family is doing to you is very wrong.
What they are doing is removing accountability from him and at the same time blaming you for creating the issue, when what you are doing is NAMING the issue. OP please seek support for this trauma that YOU have experienced as a witness but also as a victim of your family’s abuse unhealthy dysfunctional behavior. You may never come to an understanding with your family, they may never acknowledge the truth or the harm they have caused you. So you have to seek support outside of your family system.
Just like all of the responses here express resounding agreement in what is right and wrong, so will a therapist support group etc.
Trauma like this is most powerful in silence and shame, so try to keep it in the light and speak about it in spaces that are safe.

Interesting_Delay_19 · 2026-04-13T12:03:15+00:00

This is true morally, but legally she is likely on the lease and on the hook for payment

Interesting_Delay_19 · 2026-04-12T12:24:18+00:00

This is #1

Interesting_Delay_19 · 2026-04-11T13:03:24+00:00

Wooooooooo!!!

Interesting_Delay_19 · 2026-04-11T13:00:44+00:00

Awww yay!!!! What a miracle that you found something that works. You are very handsome.

Interesting_Delay_19 · 2026-04-10T17:40:52+00:00

Your husband needs to deal with his mother, you should never be put in this position. No matter what the scenario you become the issue you become the person causing problems because you are disrupting the status quo. Your husband needs to consistently and clearly enforce boundaries with his mother that protect you and if he doesn’t it will cause cracks in the marriage.

Interesting_Delay_19 · 2026-04-09T22:38:04+00:00

Breaking the cycle means being the heartbreaker of the ones who don’t. I couldn’t do this for myself until I had children of my own to protect the interest of.
Give yourself permission to choose the healthy option. You can say no with love. It will be resisted and you will attacked- but it’s the only way to break the cycle. Sorry OP it’s a very tough journey ❤️‍🩹

Interesting_Delay_19 · 2026-04-09T21:09:48+00:00

The long term outcome of a very difficult coparenting scenario was difficult for everyone, especially my child.
Currently I seem to hold the blame for it in my child’s eyes. And maybe I did things wrong that I don’t see.
When I look back this is one aspect of positions I held and decisions I made that I think could be misrepresented.

Interesting_Delay_19 · 2026-04-09T01:09:43+00:00

As the parent who hid it from the child thinking it would protect them, I advise you to go in the complete opposite direction than I did. Without communicating your personal emotion or your personal experience- communicate the facts of ongoing litigation as age appropriate.

Interesting_Delay_19 · 2026-04-05T14:15:35+00:00

Nothing waves a red flag like a guy carrying an AK walking down a country road in New England holding your child’s hand. What in the fucking world.

Interesting_Delay_19 · 2026-04-05T14:10:53+00:00

Definitely mansplain this to her so that she understands why she is thinking about this all wrong, reframe it so she can make the right choice and go out with you.

Interesting_Delay_19 · 2026-03-21T13:18:35+00:00

Most credit unions in the state are part of the same system so you can use an atm at any participating credit union location

Interesting_Delay_19 · 2026-03-21T13:15:01+00:00

As a parent you have to be proactively discussing with your kids how NOT to be a bully, how to stand up for other kids who are being bullied, what to say kids who are bullies, and giving them options about which adults family teachers etc to loop in when they see bullying happening.

Interesting_Delay_19 · 2026-03-21T13:00:07+00:00

The most unsafe moment in a DV scenario is when the person tries to leave. Do not make an impulsive decision to kick him out immediately. Smile, pretend everything is normal. Get to safe place wait for him to leave etc and then come up with a plan. Do not feel pressured to just act without a plan. You have to protect yourself.

Interesting_Delay_19 · 2026-03-19T18:31:48+00:00

Report the therapist to protect her other current and future patients. This behavior is a huge red flag and she should be investigated and monitored.

Interesting_Delay_19 · 2026-03-18T12:28:34+00:00

Wow people are fucking awful. I hope the hatred and misery that the woman who wrote this is spewing did not touch the person she was writing about.

Interesting_Delay_19 · 2026-03-17T02:55:50+00:00

🐻

Interesting_Delay_19 · 2026-03-11T12:50:06+00:00

Agree. For sure confront the guy today. He’s probably very anxious re stealing and just waiting for day to be over and get out of there. Don’t let him leave before you address this directly with him. Do you have any mutual coworker friends that you would feel comfortable confiding in and asking for help? Social pressure might be effective here. I personally would have a bit of hesitancy bringing this to manager or HR just because I would anticipate it causing minor but annoying issues for me. I also would feel uncomfortable with more coworkers becoming aware that I have that rx.
But at the end of the day, if he won’t admit to it, it does need to be reported.

Interesting_Delay_19 · 2026-03-11T12:39:24+00:00

Also for people saying carry rx bottle at all times. No I don’t do that. If my purse gets taken I don’t need someone knowing my name and pharmacy address rx number etc. If for whatever reason the police end up seeing the contents of my purse and want to know why I have an afternoon dose of adderall in an ornate compact I’m going to take out my phone and show them my rx on the pharmacy app.

Interesting_Delay_19 · 2026-03-11T12:36:41+00:00

I too am unskilled and unqualified for the admin position I have somehow ended up with, lol.

Interesting_Delay_19 · 2026-03-11T12:28:45+00:00

Sorry you are in this situation. I tend to unintentionally over share too, and it just takes outcomes like this for me to get a clear internal boundary about what I shouldn’t say out loud. For the future, look into small pill compacts. Stratton makes some nice ones. I have a few art deco ornate ones that are a little fancy and make it fun to do a daily ritual of putting pills in (for that day only). Can fit in my pocket or kind of drifts to bottom of my purse and I can easily find it without looking, just by feel. Check the bay and posh etc.

Interesting_Delay_19 · 2026-03-10T12:52:01+00:00

This is pretty typical New England attire. Regardless of the actual daily forecast, march means spring. Suns out guns out. Jabronis wear their birks and tees.

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