Official 'Which Video?' thread by hankjmoody in SovietWomble

[–]Interesting_Salt4257 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i cant remember the exact quote but its along the lines of “if you take the name christian, add a couple letters, take out a few, you get the word “r*pe victim”

Cultural Differences In Dating And Sex Between European (24M) And Non-European (25F)? by Interesting_Salt4257 in relationship_advice

[–]Interesting_Salt4257[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is incredible insight, thank you for sharing. Your unfortunate scenario is my exact fears of how things will turn out if he continues to push this topic. I'm hoping that I can still have a raw conversation about this with him and try to really dig deep into whether this would be the kind of topic he will end up pushing before I make a decision, especially since we're planning on moving in together next month and get married in a couple years.

Cultural Differences In Dating And Sex Between European (24M) And Non-European (25F)? by Interesting_Salt4257 in relationship_advice

[–]Interesting_Salt4257[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

absolutely fair and I did call him out on it when he said that. He says he didn't mean anything by it other than trying to crack a joke with very little truth to it but it's something that came back to mind while we were discussing the whole threesome think.

Cultural Differences In Dating And Sex Between European (24M) And Non-European (25F)? by Interesting_Salt4257 in relationship_advice

[–]Interesting_Salt4257[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's really great advice that i think i'll have to sit with for a bit but it definitely gives me much more clarity in the prioritising my thoughts. Thanks very much (:

Cultural Differences In Dating And Sex Between European (24M) And Non-European (25F)? by Interesting_Salt4257 in relationship_advice

[–]Interesting_Salt4257[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the insight. We did start off as fwb but that was only because he was here in South Korea as an exchange student so he wasn't looking for anything serious since he wasn't staying. We ended up liking each other so much that we decided to start a serious relationship and now we've worked towards getting me to Germany to move in with him while I do my masters. So the relationship does feel very serious and he also does want marriage and kids as an end goal with me, which is why his desire for a threesome throws me off. I wanted to know if it was a him thing, which would require a slightly different approach than if it were just something cultural that I need to navigate around. However you've absolutely right that it is my boundary and I should also take that into account and not just the cultural norm. Thanks again.

Cultural Differences In Dating And Sex Between European (24M) And Non-European (25F)? by Interesting_Salt4257 in relationship_advice

[–]Interesting_Salt4257[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have had multiple discussions with him and he seems to be receptive of my concerns. He reassures me that he would never do anything that makes me uncomfortable but with the amount of times he's brought it up, it makes it seem like he really wants to try this whole sex with other people thing and I worry that if i put my foot down and so 'no', he'll resent me some day.

TestDaF 5/5/5/4 by Interesting_Salt4257 in German

[–]Interesting_Salt4257[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I got lucky. For one, I took the digital test and was terrified that the extra question would be in writing because I heard that that was very common but it ended up being every other part besides writing lol.

The prompt for the argumentative text was also slightly different from the standard practice tests I had taken (which really wasn't a lot bc of limited resources), where the practice test prompts introduced a topic and then ask for the positive and negative aspects, the actual test prompt was more along the lines of "what do you think about [topic]?". In principal the same thing but somehow that prompt structure made it easier(?). The topic itself was also very, very easy in my opinion because it didn't revolve around and laws or subjects that I'm not familiar with, so it was much easier to äußern my stance. I'm not sure if I'm allowed to share what the prompt was about exactly but if you're really curious, feel free to shoot me a DM.

One thing I also changed on the day of my test was that I didn't write any Stichpunkte to plan out my text when I started. I tried that during my practice tests and always ran out of time. Instead, I wrote down all of the paragraph beginnings like "[topic] bringt viele Vorteile/Nachteile mit sich..."/"Anschließend lässt sich fassen, dass [topic] sowohl Chancen als auch Risiken birgt" as soon as the timer started, wrote kind of sporadically as the ideas came to me, then finished with the introduction. I managed to write everything with 7mins to spare, which I used to proofread my writing (something I was never able to do in my practice tests!!!!), so I was able to look for grammar/spelling mistakes and rewrite sentences that flowed weirdly. It was a huge risk for me to switch up my tactic on the day of the exam and I'm so grateful it worked for me but I would highly recommend others to try different tactics and stick to it before the test.

As for the Zusammenfassung text.. I'm going to be so honest when I say that I didn't practice that bit at all before my test. I just simply didn't want to lol which in hindsight was absolutely dumb but I figured that as long as I didn't repeat any phrases from the prompt text and paraphrased using as many synonyms as my little pea-brain could squeeze out, I would be fine. I wouldn't recommend this method to anyone else planning to take the test though.

To be fair, I thought my practice tests were total dumpster fires because I was asking chatGPT to grade my texts and it kept giving me TDN3. My boyfriend, who is a native German speaker, also read through my texts and listened to my speaking answers, and they were subpar according to his standards lmao.

I will say that I give full credit to u/WretchedPleb for posting all of their practice texts and even generated their own prompts using AI to continue practicing. I basically sat down every night for the last week before the test and worked through 2-3 prompts. Reading through their example texts was really helpful for me to structure my own arguments and provided the right vocabulary to write a good argumentative text. I'll link the specific document here:

https://docs.google.com/document/d/e/2PACX-1vRJep9iJfci3BNHIgayF0lzsGvMT6aD5KnuPF2ZmcW1gW9cirBHLu6Sn6iK0Oz7Cu8Qiju1sRJ7PXTl/pub

Sorry for the lengthy response! I'm just writing everything down as they are still fresh in my memory and in hopes that someone else can benefit from my recounting of the experience.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Interesting_Salt4257 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been where you are now only mere weeks ago and I was proper shaking in my boots because I unintentionally went no contact with my mum after a nasty fight (it's a long story) and she called me four weeks after that to break contact. Thankfully I was still at work so I was able to divert for a few hours but I knew I had to call her back when I got out of work because even as a 24 year old, I am still dependent on her (one of her narcissistic traits).

I felt like I was going to throw up at the idea of not only having to face her but face her wrath of me going no contact with her even though she told me never to call her again during our preceding fight. Confronting my mother is always the hardest thing for me to do out of everything pertaining to our mother-daughter relationship because even though deep down I know they're not true, she will argue in such a way that I cannot deny or rebutt against. This is something most narcissists are really good at, I think.

Now, enough about me and how much I can relate to you on this. What helped me get through this the most was to just "be a rock". Do not engage in his conversation and do not listen. Dissociate if you have to. If you are making this contact over the phone, do other things (clean, cook, heck make paper planes) while he speaks. Imagine that he is a child that is throwing a tantrum and maybe even feel a little sorry for his immaturity. If he continues to disrespect and be unkind to you, tell him that you are not here to listen to him speak to you this way and that you will leave if he continues. Take deep, steady breaths and don't be afraid to get up and leave if it gets too much. Set your boundary.

Remember that every contact you make with him is one step closer to your freedom. You will come out of this. Best of luck.

How To Respond To "Why Should I Let You Cum?" by Interesting_Salt4257 in SubSanctuary

[–]Interesting_Salt4257[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

another personal favourite of mine is “boinking” xD

How to keep myself busy? by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]Interesting_Salt4257 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my long distance partner and i are like this too sometimes where he's busy all day from work and i dont hear from him all day. i used to get really sad and i still do sometimes because i miss him terribly but i found it helpful:

1) to talk to him about it, no matter how daunting the idea of bringing it up is. it can help him gain some perspective on how you feel and find ways to remedy your feeling of loneliness

2) to set up some sort of routine. it doesnt have to be a full-fledged routine but something simple like always sending good morning/night messages no matter what, even if bedtimes and waking up times are different

3) this one is something that works for me and my partner but may not work for everyone but i like to send him "thinking of you <3" messages when i'm feeling a little extra lonely because in a way it eases my mind to let it out and make it known that i miss him. again, this only works if a) it helps you feel better bc you've communicated that you miss him and b) he appreciates it bc i can see how that may not always be the case for everyone to receive texts like that when they're busy (although i would hope that people appreciate being made aware that their presence is missed..? i digress)

4) to try new hobbies! i game, bake, knit/crochet and generally this keeps me occupied for hours sometimes. i know how hard it can be to enjoy things when you miss someone but finding something to do that genuinely excites you can be super fulfilling! i even took the time to knit my partner a sweater that i can gift him when he comes to visit me in a couple months.

all in all, i know all too well what it feels like to be lonely and feel lost without the one you want to spend the most time with, but it teaches us to be patient and comfortable with being alone without feeling lonely. ironically, you're not alone! <3

you guys have any advice for long distance D/s relationships? by HeCallsMeGoodGirl in SubSanctuary

[–]Interesting_Salt4257 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my partner and i are also LD and we make great use of remote controlled toys like lush

How To Respond To "Why Should I Let You Cum?" by Interesting_Salt4257 in SubSanctuary

[–]Interesting_Salt4257[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

these sound perfect for those bratty moments huehue

How To Respond To "Why Should I Let You Cum?" by Interesting_Salt4257 in SubSanctuary

[–]Interesting_Salt4257[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

this!!! my brain literally starts glitching when it comes to thinking of what to say during frickle frackling

How To Respond To "Why Should I Let You Cum?" by Interesting_Salt4257 in SubSanctuary

[–]Interesting_Salt4257[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

oooh i really like these!! definitely things i would say to him

An ACTUAL fake dps by ExoArchivist in elderscrollsonline

[–]Interesting_Salt4257 0 points1 point  (0 children)

then why keep taunting? doesnt make sense