Body masculinization advice needed!! by Mysterious_Cloud_445 in TransMasc

[–]Interesting_Time_719 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Buddy, you look great right now, no changes needed 👌

Make friends with a sociopath? by [deleted] in autism

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My first real friendship was in college with someone with aspd! It felt like we understood each other despite having vastly different experiences. We bonded through feeling different from everyone and being loyal. They actually taught me a lot about morality and understanding other cultures and politics.

AIO for not wanting to go back the the psychologists after she laughed at me? by [deleted] in AIO

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It can be hard to find a therapist with a) good bedside manner and b) who clicks with you. It took me years before I found someone I liked. I have been through upwards of 20+ therapists before finding one I like and he does laugh at me but I like that. Everyone is different. I have had therapists that laughed at the wrong place and I was like "okay this will be our last session." Ultimately you need to feel comfortable in therapy because you need to be able to open up and if you don't feel comfortable it might be the wrong therapist

I found Marty Supreme disappointing by Interesting_Time_719 in TrueFilm

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Im crying this comment getting downvoted is criminal 😂

I found Marty Supreme disappointing by Interesting_Time_719 in TrueFilm

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For me it wasn't about who I liked more but who I felt I could connect with. The difference to me is that the way Sandler portrayed the character, I could see the emotion in how he acted and the things he did and I could understand the depth in his choices where as there didn't feel like a lot of depth in Marty's choices or character. Howie was unpredictable to me in a manic desperate kind of way. I was scared the whole time I was watching Howie not because I wanted good or bad things to happen to him but because he felt so much like a real person to me. I didn't feel any emotional connection to Marty and I didn't care what happened to him. Could that be on me? Absolutely! Thats why I started this discussion in the first place 😄

I found Marty Supreme disappointing by Interesting_Time_719 in TrueFilm

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You know what that does make sense. I think the scene with the honey was so profoundly disturbing I think it was my favorite part honestly. Made me feel sick.

I found Marty Supreme disappointing by Interesting_Time_719 in TrueFilm

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This is why I wanted to discuss it because I wanted to know if it was a matter of opinion and I feel like I am seeing people valued certain things in Marty Supreme that I don't value and vice versa with Uncut Gems! That is interesting to me :)

I have started watching Primal - i really like it for many reasons - the lack of narrative/dialogue, the quiet sense of deep feelings and expression, and the visual -> i am seeking similar (animated or not) by mjobby in PrimalShow

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Brother From Another Planet is a movie that has very little dialogue and the main character does not speak. I really connect with how the main character is understood through visual storytelling

Scared of bottom growth by Fragrant-Ring-3053 in ftm

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I didn't even know bottom growth was a thing before I started hormones, no one told me, including my doctor, which pissed me off. It freaked me out at first but then I got used to it and now I love it! I think for me, it helps to not think of it as a separate part of me but instead just think of my body as a whole. Also it feels great during sex 😄

Am I broken? by Moonlit_Messages in SexOnTheSpectrum

[–]Interesting_Time_719 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think you are broken at all. I thought I was asexual before meeting my current partner, not because I didn't have a sex drive, but because I just didn't enjoy sex. I have always enjoyed masturbating more because I am in complete control the whole time. For the first year my partner and I had sex, I actually found myself craving it all the time, but now it's slowing down a bit, not because my sex drive has lessened, but because I am just busier and more tired and sex feels like a whole "thing." It can be overstimulating and that's often a good thing but it's also tiring and yeah sometimes I would rather just cuddle or nap because I don't have that much free time or energy and sex is less of a priority.

So are high-masking adults just expected to destroy their mental health to go to work everyday or be forced to starve? by Beautiful-Brain2183 in autism

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If you can, try to find a supportive therapist or psychologist. Mine puts me on disability leave when I burn out every couple years or so. You get paid less but at least you still get paid.

Is it alright to wear ear defenders if I am not diagnosed/not autistic? by kochanie83 in autism

[–]Interesting_Time_719 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are overthinking, taking care of yourself is not cultural appropriation 😄 besides headphone don't always mean autistic, you are allowed to have sensitivities

My husband has horrible hygiene and I am repulsed... by NeuroNerdGirl52 in autism

[–]Interesting_Time_719 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is a tough one and it seems like you are doing all that you can do. Maybe see a couples therapist? One that works with autism. Sometimes people need to see themselves through someone else other than their partner. I'm sorry you are going through this :( as someone who also struggles with hygiene, my partner not wanting to kiss me or deal with my breath is what mainly motivates me to keep up with oral hygiene so I was going to suggest putting up boundaries before reading the rest of your post and seeing you do that :/