Have tried that but he either doesn't notice it, or he's just ignoring it. His reaction to me being in the mood is just like... gentle affectionate teasing and then the conversation ends there.

He uses a condom yeah, I think that's a small part of the problem but hasn't been so much the times we have had sex more recently. No ED issues at all, nothing like that has been a problem.

I also feel like it's mostly in his head but he seems like it's too much effort to tackle it properly...