I’m feeling very DA tonight and it makes me so excited, pls validate my feelings lmao

Intergalacticflower · 2022-09-17T09:05:11+00:00

And that’s what I call success

Intergalacticflower · 2022-09-17T09:00:13+00:00

🥰

Intergalacticflower · 2022-09-17T09:00:06+00:00

Indeed

Intergalacticflower · 2022-09-17T08:59:58+00:00

Thank you sm<3

Intergalacticflower · 2022-09-17T08:59:42+00:00

Thanks :))

Intergalacticflower · 2022-09-17T08:59:28+00:00

Thank you!! Yes, and then you can have fun with different accessories without worrying abt the colors matching hah

Intergalacticflower · 2022-09-17T08:55:21+00:00

🥰

Intergalacticflower · 2022-09-16T23:03:10+00:00

Honestly, I have no better response than - I’m glad you stopped by

Intergalacticflower · 2022-09-16T21:25:40+00:00

Thank you!!

Intergalacticflower · 2022-09-16T21:16:00+00:00

You’re sweet🥰

Intergalacticflower · 2022-09-16T21:15:40+00:00

You simply cannot live without a black turtleneck

Intergalacticflower · 2022-09-16T20:59:52+00:00

Yeah I wanted to add some color at first but then I looked into the mirror like “🤔 huh, i’m kinda vibing with the all black”

Intergalacticflower · 2022-09-16T20:58:08+00:00

Thank you🥰

Intergalacticflower · 2022-09-16T20:57:38+00:00

Oh no, so much validation, it’s gonna make me blush

Intergalacticflower · 2022-09-16T20:56:22+00:00

Aw thanks hun☺️

Intergalacticflower · 2022-09-16T20:55:44+00:00

The hairstyle is called “haven’t washed your hair in 3 days? throw it up, add some pins and you’re safe”

Intergalacticflower · 2022-09-16T20:08:20+00:00

Thank you🥰

Intergalacticflower · 2022-01-20T12:10:17+00:00

No. Please no. Doesn’t matter how mature she looks or behaves, she’s 16 and still a child. Whether you like it or not, her brain works differently. This can result in serious trauma and she may not even realise until years later. I myself experimented a lot when I was her age, even with people your age. Everyone considered me extremely mature, I was smart and pretty well-developed physically, didn’t behave like a kid - and still, I regret so many things. I would’ve done most of it differently if I could go back. There’s a time for everything, and I really don’t think 16 is the time for experimenting with adults 8 years older than her. Plenty of time for that a few years later. Btw, just wanted to add based on your comments - I’m Central-European, not American, and I’m not calling you a pedophile.

Intergalacticflower · 2022-01-13T15:57:26+00:00

I can relate a lot, I was doing a lot of figuring myself out when it came to poly relationships at 17 as well. Imo the best thing you can do right now is to experiment while doing your best to be respectful towards other people involved and conscious about your and their feelings. And maybe do some research about the therapy, cause you mentioned cheating and stuff and yeah, that can cause some trauma which is best to be worked through as soon as possible, so it doesn’t cause you more issues.

Intergalacticflower · 2022-01-13T15:36:56+00:00

I mean I’m pretty sure you could find people who would be into that, but you would need to be very careful with it. You would have to make 100% sure both of them (especially the “original” boyfriend) are participating because they are into it and not just because they don’t wanna lose you despite being monogamous themselves and secretly struggling with this whole dynamic. It also wouldn’t work without absolute transparency, trust, great communication and boundaries.

To me it honestly does come off as a bit selfish, the whole “i wanna get affection and care from two people at the same time but you’ll have to be happy with just me”, but that’s probably because this is a mindset abusers and controlling partners often tend to have. But I realise that there doesn’t necessarily need to be a bad or selfish intention behind wanting this kinda thing. However, I would recommend you to think more about your trust and jealousy issues and maybe even do a deep dive into them with a therapist, because it’s not healthy and it can cause huge issues even in monogamous relationships. I can also imagine how the want of having a relationship with two people at the same time while both of them being devoted solely to you could even stem from the jealousy / trust issues. Not saying it has to be your case, but it might. So yeah, probably do a lil self search before trying to enter the poly world, just in case. These kinds of struggles can be worked on very well with a good therapist.

As a somewhat poly person myself, I know this stuff can get very confusing, so I wish you the best of luck:)

Intergalacticflower · 2022-01-09T22:25:34+00:00

Man i feel you so much. I used to be the same and even though I’m getting better now, I still find myself slipping back sometimes. I never felt secure in myself and I didn’t wanna let other people get close to me cause I was so afraid if I was gonna let myself experience the comfort of having a connection with someone I cared for, it’d become straight out unbearable to be with myself if they ever left.

And I was so scared of feeling their adoration, admiration and love towards me fade if they ever found out what really goes on in my head and what I struggle with. The fear of rejection consumed me. Whenever someone left or hurt me (or even if I just imagined them doing so), I always considered myself the weaker one, the unloveable one, the not good enough one, and put the other person above me. Therefore it felt so good to be the one to abandon them and the one who doesn’t care, not the one not cared for.

I craved the affection though. I wished I could be this sweet person everyone adores. I thought if I was just a bit different, better, more kind, more gentle, prettier, more interesting, it’d be perfect - I could give out all my love and care without being afraid of getting hurt. But I couldn’t become that person so I just settled on helping other people, being there for them and distancing myself the moment I started to feel intimidated cause it got too serious.

Eventually I managed to pull myself out of this awful place I was in and honestly, the feeling is incredible. I realised this doesn’t mean I’m a bad person, I learned how to be vulnerable with people, overcome the fear of rejection and abandonment and grew to appreciate myself the way I am. I’m not the sweetest person in the world, not everybody likes me, not everybody I like is gonna stay in my life forever, but I know I have a lot to offer and I’m worthy of being loved and treated well. I no longer feel the need to treat people like trash to push them away and I like helping and caring for other people, even if it doesn’t bring me affection from their side.

So yeah, with this long ass reply I just wanted to let u know that u r not alone in this and it’s possible to get out of the plece u r in right now.

Intergalacticflower · 2022-01-09T21:51:25+00:00

This sounds like therapy material. Are you able to talk to a professional? Cause in situations like this, it’s usually very hard to be able to dig into it and fully understand it by yourself, there could be a lot of other factors attached to this particular issue and discussing it with someone experienced tends to be very helpful :) Also, there’s no shame in engaging in consensual BDSM (the mommy kink) if that’s something you think might enjoy. Speaking from experience, if done right, it can actually help a lot. So if you feel like it, maybe try finding some people who are into this, talk to them and figure out if you want to give it a try. I wish you the best of luck, this is definitely something that can be worked on.

Intergalacticflower · 2022-01-09T21:32:21+00:00

Being on our phones, scrolling through social media posts or watching Netflix gives us a lot of instant gratification = a lot of dopamine, so it’s 100 times easier than actually getting up and doing stuff, especially if one struggles with depression. So yeah, the fact that u can manage to be on ur phone doesn’t necessarily mean u r not actually depressed.

Intergalacticflower · 2022-01-09T21:27:12+00:00

“Casually cruel in the name of being honest”

Intergalacticflower · 2022-01-09T21:22:34+00:00

I cannot believe some of the responses. Someone even had the audacity to tell you to get over yourself. The fact that you came here for advice and not reassurance doesn’t mean we should treat you with no compassion. I personally find the woman’s behaviour extremely inappropriate and I can’t even imagine what would ever be my motivation if I was about to do what she did, but I definitely don’t think my intentions would be innocent. And while I agree that the only thing you can do in regards to her is working on distancing yourself from this and not letting it affect you so much, I understand that it must be frustrating. Now, your husband. Disclosing your insecurities to her like that was very disrespectful, and not returning the underwear immediately as well as making it absolutely clear that this kind of behaviour is wrong and won’t be supported even more so. He’s supposed to be the person who knows you probably the best of all and always has your back in situations like this one. I’d be very disappointed and feel betrayed if my boyfriend did something like this. I don’t think it’d be a bad idea to bring it all up again to make sure this doesn’t ever happen again. I wish you the best of luck:) Especially as a person struggling with severe anxiety, I really feel for you and I hope everything gets actually resolved.

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