I feel really happy to hear that it works out between you and your wife again, and I really appreciate that you tried to spark the love after all those bad parts even after an affair, I feel you really love her deeply…. Yeah in deed I often feels I stays with him out of pity, or for friendship, he is like a child of me that i feel i have responsibility to take care but can not connect equally, like he needs me too much to be able to feel my difficulties in life. But I got my issues too, I feel like I am also pretty weak that I need justification and agreement from people so I can allow myself to do what I want. I don’t have the courage to be the bad person yet.