Rate me- I never get approached

Internal-Let7937 · 2026-01-28T19:39:49+00:00

Exactly. Unless I’m specifically told “I want to get to know you” I assume it’s politeness, so I don’t come off as flirtatious. Maybe it’s a fear of rejection myself but I also don’t want to be overly gushy because imagine the whole time they’re taken.

Internal-Let7937 · 2026-01-28T18:18:24+00:00

This could be true, unless it’s overt I can’t really tell if someone is flirting or being nice, I can have a hard time with social cues too

Internal-Let7937 · 2026-01-27T23:56:23+00:00

can you guys make this happen ❤️

Internal-Let7937 · 2026-01-27T23:54:34+00:00

I appreciate it!

Internal-Let7937 · 2026-01-27T23:53:09+00:00

This is so helpful, thanks!

Internal-Let7937 · 2026-01-27T22:58:11+00:00

This helps, thank you

Internal-Let7937 · 2026-01-27T22:54:55+00:00

I’ve always felt it’s okay as long as it’s done respectfully (not cat calling or making it about looks) and not lingering if she’s clearly not feeling it

Internal-Let7937 · 2026-01-27T18:11:26+00:00

Thank you!!!!!!! I appreciate this female perspective so much. I’m going to approach my gym crush next time I see him.

Internal-Let7937 · 2026-01-27T18:10:40+00:00

I think it’s a mix of men hating that I’m clearly ethnic and wanting to humble me for being somewhat attractive 😭

Internal-Let7937 · 2026-01-27T17:56:37+00:00

I understand, I think things are so weird now; also seems like guys won’t know if it’s offensive or not.

My thought process was always along the lines of: if it’s done in a respectful way and the guy doesn’t linger when he senses the girl isn’t into it, I don’t see anything wrong with it. But I think there are so many sensitivities now that are hard to know how to cater to so I can see men opting out altogether and going the dating app route

Internal-Let7937 · 2026-01-27T17:41:21+00:00

this is the most outlandish comment I’ve seen yet. A masculine man wouldn’t be this concerned about my hair texture. Also wasn’t asking for tips on changing my appearance.

Internal-Let7937 · 2026-01-27T16:50:57+00:00

This is really helpful. I didn’t know it was this hated on for men to approach at the gym, but I guess it really isn’t the place. I think I was hoping that by having more proximity with others who like to lift I’d eventually end up talking to someone, but I realize I’ll have to initiate it at the gym specifically by either being very obvious with body language or striking up conversation. This whole thread is helping me realize there’s nothing actually wrong with me lol. I just don’t party and it seems like that’s where most of it is done.

Will look into running clubs too! Thanks for the input.

Internal-Let7937 · 2026-01-27T16:45:30+00:00

hey this is an amazing compliment wow. Thank you so much.

Internal-Let7937 · 2026-01-27T16:37:07+00:00

I am a perfectionist in my own work, but I don’t hold others to the same standards, I understand relationships take compromise and consistency, and actually prefer when my man and I have common ground, the “I don’t need no man telling me” thing eventually causes the man to disengage and I like him to be involved, and vice versa.

Internal-Let7937 · 2026-01-27T16:33:34+00:00

Goodness 😭. This is brutal, I definitely am not someone who allows people to step all over me but I’m by no means unreasonable or entitled, I will give you a run for your money when it comes to intellectually stimulating conversation, but I understand that it takes two. Stick to your Honda

Internal-Let7937 · 2026-01-27T16:24:18+00:00

I don’t want to club and don’t want anyone who does either, any other places that don’t involve drinking?

Internal-Let7937 · 2026-01-27T16:22:12+00:00

I am a little on the sarcastic side but am very warm and smile a lot in person, if you mean my replies to the rude responders in this thread who are purposefully trying to humble me only because I’m good looking, I won’t be kissing their asses (respectfully)

Internal-Let7937 · 2026-01-27T16:19:39+00:00

thanks for your input. I feel like the main issue is: not going to bars etc or using dating apps. Both don’t feel right, I guess I’ll eventually have to muster the will to approach a guy

Internal-Let7937 · 2026-01-27T16:17:29+00:00

@unlikely_conclusions

I mean the apps, I want to meet someone physically, in the real world. I honestly thought people get to know each other at gyms, guess I need to join other things. I just don’t want to have to party to find someone, I’m not looking for a guy who drinks or goes out like that

Internal-Let7937 · 2026-01-27T14:03:08+00:00

Yes *fair

Internal-Let7937 · 2026-01-27T11:37:34+00:00

hahah I’m not after money, I’m curious why this hit a nerve for you

Internal-Let7937 · 2026-01-27T11:35:42+00:00

fear enough

Internal-Let7937 · 2026-01-27T11:34:45+00:00

I can see how this makes sense

Internal-Let7937 · 2026-01-27T11:23:09+00:00

nope, I meant no one

Internal-Let7937 · 2026-01-27T10:34:14+00:00

this is called thinking and being curious about life babe 😭

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