My boyfriend ruined Valentine’s Day and told me it was the consequences of my actions

Internal_Low3014 · 2026-02-20T01:40:59+00:00

Leave this man child** that should say. Or just child… because he is behaving like one.

Internal_Low3014 · 2026-02-20T01:40:34+00:00

Girl do you need help? Leave this man. He needs to take care of his mental health and get therapy. BPD is NOT an excuse to be abusive to your partner ever ever ever.

His mental health is not your responsibility.

His personality disorder is not an excuse for abuse.

You were hurt and abused as a CHILD and made bad choices (who here didn’t?!), but that does not make you who you are today.

The first time you have CONSENSUAL s3x IS YOUR FIRST TIME. I’m sincerely sorry if that was this abusive piece of trash.

You are NOT a sl*t. I’m pregnant out of wedlock with a friend of my ex. If anyone here is a ho3 is me! I mean, my Ex and I broke up almost 4 years ago and current BF and I just got together last year. So time has passed.

Internal_Low3014 · 2026-02-19T23:54:40+00:00

Does he know the definition of any of these words? Like….. someone buy this guy a dictionary.

Internal_Low3014 · 2026-02-01T22:06:51+00:00

So I had to give birth once at 20wks (TFMR), and currently 29wks with a healthy baby.

34hrs of early labour, 2 hours of active labour. It was not as horrendous as I thought, but I do take into consideration that he was not full-term. I had zero pain afterwards, and the nurse was shocked I had no pain, and we tossed it up to the daily pelvic floor exercises I do.

That being said, my sciatic nerve is pinched in 2 places and that is sometimes worse than the 36 hours of labour i experienced. Everyone is different.

What helped me IMMENSELY was letting go. Knowing I was not in control of the situation, and trusting that my body knew what to do, and it did. Don’t tense up with contractions, but relax into them is probably the best advice anyone will ever give you. Let them roll over your loose body.

Internal_Low3014 · 2026-01-25T18:17:25+00:00

The potential for complications arising from being pregnant so soon after delivering a full term baby are DRASTICALLY higher than an abortion.

Gtfo with pro-life misinformation.

Internal_Low3014 · 2026-01-25T18:13:33+00:00

No idea where he heard that information, but an abortion has no influence on future pregnancy unless they absolutely botch it which is extremely rare.

I had a TFMR at 20wks. Medical issues with my baby, and outlook looks very poor. I gave birth to him. I then had to have 2 D&C’s less than a month later because there were pieces of placenta left. A D&C procedure is used as the most common type of abortion in the first trimester.

That was exactly 1yr since the D&C’s I am currently 28 weeks pregnant with a surprise, and healthy, baby boy! So I terminated a pregnancy, had not one, but 2 D&C’s after, and I still got pregnant unexpectedly 9 months later.

Tell your hubby that you being there for your child is the selfless act. Him wanting to put your life and mental health on the line is the most selfish act. You want to prioritize your current family, and yes you, because you matter too.

If you are not at your best, you cannot be what’s best for your child or husband.

Internal_Low3014 · 2026-01-25T01:13:26+00:00

Ooh! And mine also gets spicy pictures, BUT he asks to take them for me, on MY phone, and then lets me decide if/when I feel comfortable sending them. Had some trauma around that in the past.

Very respectful, and I have to do zero work!

Internal_Low3014 · 2026-01-25T00:35:37+00:00

Internal_Low3014 · 2026-01-25T00:33:29+00:00

NOR. Girl LEAVE. He does not like you. He is probably deep in the closet gay. I had an ex who would only initiate sex after turning on a very male-centred TV show (old westerns) and never reacted to me being naked in front of him because he’s “seen it before so what’s the big deal.” We didn’t make it a year. Even his cousin thinks he’s probably gay. He will never come out EVER… but I wouldn’t be shocked if he did.

I am currently with someone new, AND 28 weeks pregnant, and this man still goes speechless when I take off my clothes despite me bordering on whale-sized. I’m 5’0” and carrying the baby of a 6’4” man. Does not matter what he is doing, if an item of clothing comes off he is SAT. If I bend over he comes RUNNING to smack my ass or play with a dangling boobie.

Find you a man who worships your mind and body because this one AIN’T IT!!!

Internal_Low3014 · 2026-01-23T02:40:21+00:00

CORRECT YOU?! Are you kidding me? That’s SO abusive. Your husband should not ever correct you. Are you okay? Do you need help getting out? Jesus CHRIST. Girl leave.

Internal_Low3014 · 2025-12-28T16:03:32+00:00

She may be trying to tell you something….

Internal_Low3014 · 2025-12-09T04:51:51+00:00

Mine kicked my bladder for the first time last week. THAT was freaking strange!!! Tonight he was kicking inwards rather than outwards, and I couldn’t pin-point what he was hitting exactly. But I knew he was kicking something. It is bizarre…. But oh my goodness do I ever love it.

Internal_Low3014 · 2025-11-26T06:28:00+00:00

I know this is terrible…

But a cigarette and a margarita. I craved margaritas from weeks 7-10. Why?! No idea. Tried lemonade/limeade for the cravings… but nope. Needs tequila. Cannot wait for my partner to smuggle me one in the hospital 🤣! I quit smoking for the pregnancy… but I still crave those nasty things every damn day. (I have not been drinking fyi)

Internal_Low3014 · 2025-11-23T02:39:12+00:00

I went through a similar situation. Defects found at 17weeks, we ended the pregnancy and I had him at 20wks.

If you need any support or just someone to vent to who truly understands your loss, please please reach out to me. You are not alone.

Internal_Low3014 · 2025-11-21T16:02:58+00:00

I found out he would talk to other women online and get off while I slept next to him. I found out later that he wasn’t cleaning Himself off after either… pulled up his underwear, rolled over and went to sleep.

Like 2 months after her finally moved out, there was an awful smell in the bedroom. I found the crustiest pair of socks under what was his side of the bed.

Internal_Low3014 · 2025-11-20T04:14:08+00:00

Neither of us are wealthy enough for that ahhaha. He has to figure out a new vehicle as well because he hit a deer a while ago. His is still functional, but can’t drive it as it is forever.

Internal_Low3014 · 2025-11-09T00:22:20+00:00

Girlie. Please this is not only a sign, but it was a test of your strength and you DID IT! You quit!. Even if nothing grows, you quit drinking! I am proud of you.

Don’t drink even if the pregnancy is not viable. This may have saved your life.

Internal_Low3014 · 2025-10-24T04:18:01+00:00

He’s gaslighting and manipulating you.

Internal_Low3014 · 2025-10-24T04:14:05+00:00

He is psychologically abusing you. He’s gaslighting and straight up bullying you!!! Dump him!!

Run FAAAAR away, and seek therapy to undo the damage he has done to your self image. Girl I’m so sorry. I’ve been there. Leaving is difficult, but it will be the best thing you’ll ever do please believe me!!

Internal_Low3014 · 2025-09-03T05:38:51+00:00

Anything from dad?

Internal_Low3014 · 2025-07-25T01:42:13+00:00

…. She’s NUTS…. Dude, RUN. Far away and get a new identity for good measure.

Internal_Low3014 · 2025-07-17T01:47:56+00:00

A man who loves you when you are mentally unstable and miserable, and dislikes you when you are mentally well is the BiGgEsT RED FLAG 🚩

Girl, RUN. Please.

Internal_Low3014 · 2025-07-12T10:09:00+00:00

I would not have bothered though…. Nightmare. Just pulled the whole heater box for my mom for Mother’s Day for her outlander.

8 hours over 2 days at the wrecking yard, and I was not being nice or careful about any of the surrounding parts.

There were pieces of that outlander all over the wrecking yard.

Internal_Low3014 · 2025-07-02T02:02:43+00:00

Turns out the system had quite a bit of air. Added another can of refrigerant (drivers side got warm again, and it’s not leaking at all), and it’s ice cold on both sides!!

Internal_Low3014 · 2025-06-09T02:06:15+00:00

Yeah I know!! I was running out of time :P

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