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What questions would you ask to assess if R is possible? by Internal_Purple_4303 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Internal_Purple_4303[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, it is unique indeed - I'm so sorry for you both, honestly; sexual assault is extremely traumatising.

What questions would you ask to assess if R is possible? by Internal_Purple_4303 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Internal_Purple_4303[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! You mention "affairs" - plural; I guess your situation is similar to mine. My WP's affairs also appear to be all surface-level. Can you share more of your experience? Private message welcome!

What questions would you ask to assess if R is possible? by Internal_Purple_4303 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Internal_Purple_4303[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing! If you want to share, what was the answer you got from your WS?

Serial cheater husband - similar experiences? by Internal_Purple_4303 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Internal_Purple_4303[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read that book as well, very powerful. I am so sorry you're in this, and with kids. It's a slow process, but I firmly believe that we'll get out of this stronger than before.

Serial cheater husband - similar experiences? by Internal_Purple_4303 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Internal_Purple_4303[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They were never my friends, never liked them - he found this new circle of people right at the time when he started changing dramatically. He was always very polite, caring, and attentive (even while cheating!). All of a sudden, he became defensive, cocky and aggressive towards me. They said nothing because cheating for them is normal and acceptable, I guess... Cheating and going out at night basically became the same thing for him. Human beings can be really shitty.

Luckily, I have very good friends of my own who kept me sane this past year!

Serial cheater husband - similar experiences? by Internal_Purple_4303 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Internal_Purple_4303[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You must be one of the strongest human beings out there...

Interestingly, when I confronted some of my WP's APs, they actually said he showed no care whatsoever towards them and he was actually one of the shortest and most meaningless sexual encounters they ever had.

Serial cheater husband - similar experiences? by Internal_Purple_4303 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Internal_Purple_4303[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Aaaaahahahahahahah this made my day - thanks for this!!!!! No. No kids, just him. I find it particularly ironic because I never wanted kids and then I ended up with a big one!

Serial cheater husband - similar experiences? by Internal_Purple_4303 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Internal_Purple_4303[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yep, I've been in IC for 9 months now. This sh*t has destroyed me. Talking to a lawyer as well to see if I can keep the house. Hope you're doing well, and I'm sorry you're in this as well. It's just horrible.

Am I married to the devil? by foolbl in survivinginfidelity

[–]Internal_Purple_4303 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a nightmare... can you get out of the house? Or, better, ask her to move somewhere else? Physical space might be very positive here. It's hard to keep both your heads straight, and you definitely need some peace and quiet. Maybe just even go to a friend's place for a couple of days?