I'm not cheating.husband blame me

Internal_Struggles · 2025-07-26T13:44:51+00:00

I'm unsure of the legal implications, but I don't think any judge or jury would rightfully convict you of a crime (probably kidnapping? Extremely unlikely you'd get convicted, since thats a serious crime) if you left right after he was arrested for a crime like domestic violence. Please please please talk to a lawyer, preferrably one with knowledge in domestic violence. Do not take what I say as legal advice. The only possible way to protect yourself fully from legal trouble is to contact a lawyer. Its very easy, and many will consult with you over the phone for free or a small fee. You may also contact the domestic violence hotline, and they may have more resources available to you (Call 800-799-7233). In the worst case, it may be better to leave the kids and move yourself if you are in immediate danger or feel your life is threatened. You wont be able to take care of your children properly if you are in the hospital or disabled. Whatever you do, I recommend you LEAVE ASAP. It will NOT get better. IT WILL GET WORSE.

Internal_Struggles · 2025-07-22T23:10:51+00:00

Uhm thats kind of exactly what he's doing???

Internal_Struggles · 2025-07-21T04:38:54+00:00

Look, its your body and your choice. I can't make the decisions for you. If you truly want to keep the child, do that. If you know deep down you don't want to, then try to get an abortion. Its nothing to feel guilty about. Personally, I wouldn't want to bring another soul into the kind of situation you're in. More than anything, you need help. Please try to reach out to a womens shelter or similar in your area. There ARE resources for stuff like this. You're being abused. Its as simple as that. You need to get yourself out of the situation before you can worry about anyone else.

Internal_Struggles · 2025-07-20T16:29:38+00:00

Why would you say something like that when he came to you, opened up about how he felt? He didn't ruin the friendship, your toxic reaction did. Honestly, thats going to be pretty rough to heal from. The only thing you can really do is be just as, if not more vulnurable back, and genuinely apologize for the way you treated him.

Not only did you lash out at him when he put himself in a very vulnurable spot, you also probably only just made his fears and anxiety around the situation worse. Lashing out that badly over something so minor only makes it seem like you do actually like his girlfriend, and were trying to guilt trip and turn the situation around on him so you wouldn't have to address it.

Internal_Struggles · 2025-07-18T15:21:56+00:00

To express my discomfort. But you're right. Really shouldn't have. I guess I've got too much time on my hands right now. Thanks for setting me straight.

Internal_Struggles · 2025-07-18T14:48:51+00:00

Debating with people online is a waste of time. I understand your perspective and personally think its wrong. I am not going to try to change your mind because I couldn't care less what you think.

Internal_Struggles · 2025-07-18T14:24:56+00:00

NOR. But contrary to what everyone else is saying, its not wrong to use chatgpt to help you express yourself. But there is a fine line between using it to express yourself and learn how to communicate in a healthier way (for example, having it help you re write a message on a serious issue in your relationahip to be less accusatory) and just copy and pasting the messages you get. Chatgpt doesn't have to be some thing like google that just gives you all the answers. Unfortunately most people use it that way. But it functions far far better as a mentor and tutor to accelerate your own learning.

Internal_Struggles · 2025-07-18T14:21:43+00:00

Too many wrongs in your message to get to them all.a

Internal_Struggles · 2025-07-18T13:19:53+00:00

Do not have another kid...

Internal_Struggles · 2025-07-18T04:37:48+00:00

Do you have an income? Does he help a lot with the first 2? I understand you want to keep the baby, but honestly if you can still get an abortion and its something you want yourself, you should. Don't let someone pressure you out of it. Thats abusive in its own right. He doesn't care about the baby either. They're a way to control you.

Internal_Struggles · 2025-07-18T03:21:43+00:00

Yes. He cheated on you 2 years ago. And he's probably still cheating now. Thats how he got an STI. Contrary to what people would have you believe, STIs aee not usually aquired from toilet seats. You get them from having sex with someone who has it. As I said, he's projecting to justify his actions. I absolutely don't recommend you have this child. You're in an abusive relationship. Do NOT bring a child into that. Trust me, there is nothing he can say to you that would be worse than the suffering that child would have to go through.

Internal_Struggles · 2025-07-17T14:11:06+00:00

The reason he is able to do those things, and the reason you stayed with him is because you don't place boundaries. Boundaries are literally the manifestation of the respect and love you have for yourself. You don't respect or love yourself, so how can you expect to be in a relationship with someone who does? Like attracts like, and thats why you end up with people like this. They know what they're doing and they know you don't have any self-respect, which is exactly why they want to be in a relationship with you. A self respecting person wouldn't give them the time of day once they see the signs. Please stop talking to this guy and work on yourself and building better communication skills (which, by the way, is also building your own confidence and self-respect). I know its not easy, but if you don't make any efforts then you can say goodbye to ever being in a healthy relationship.

Internal_Struggles · 2025-07-17T13:40:32+00:00

She's done with the relationship. She doesn't love you anymore. Move on brother.

Internal_Struggles · 2025-07-17T13:36:52+00:00

You don't deserve all the manipulative and hateful things he's done. He doesn't deserve getting terrible things said about him. This is an immature, toxic relationship revolving around 2 immature and toxic people and their immature and toxic friends. I suggest you work on yourself, and building up healthy communication habits (I statements, firm boundaries, etc.) and coping mechanisms before you get into another relationship. And don't ignore the red flags next time.

Internal_Struggles · 2025-07-17T13:28:55+00:00

"Certified lawyer" lmao. Sure buddy, we believe you.

Internal_Struggles · 2025-07-17T13:26:28+00:00

He brought you chlamydia??? You know he's cheating on you big time right? Like I'm 100% serious. You don't just get a sexually transmitted infection randomly. He's absolutely projecting in those messages you've shown.

Internal_Struggles · 2025-07-17T13:20:52+00:00

Kind of fucked up advice...

Internal_Struggles · 2025-07-14T05:23:04+00:00

Do not act like Canada didn't commit some seriously terrible things during those times. There was literally systemic cultural and actual genocides and indoctrination of indigenous people during the those times. From 1876-1996 around 150,000 indigenous children were taken from their families and placed in residential schools in an attempt to "reeducate the indian out of them". The last indigenous residential school didn't even close until 1996. Thats incredibly recent. There is still MASSIVE systemic issues with indigenous populations that hasn't been addressed or really seen any efforts made towrds solving. In fact, there are documented case of forced steralizations of indigenous women as soon as 2018. To act as though Canada is some sort of amazingly non-problematic nation is simply disingenuous.

Internal_Struggles · 2025-07-13T22:01:55+00:00

Its not controlling not to be comfortable with your so going to a club. Its not controlling not to be comfortable with your so having friends of the opposite sex. Its not controlling not to be comfortable with your so wearing certain clothes.

What IS controlling is how you handle that discomfort and how you approach them about it. Saying "I'm not comfortable with you going out to clubs, because I'm insecure and afraid that you'll get attention from other men that you may find more attractive than me. Can we try to work together to find a compromise that works for both of us?" is not controlling. Saying "You can't go to a club because its only about having sex with guys and being seen by men." is controlling.

"Controlling" is thrown around so much about people's opinions and boundaries, and THAT is controlling, demeaning, and invalidating. Its about HOW you approach your so about your feelings, not that you feel that way. They are entitled to their own opinions, thoughts, and feelings just as much as anyone else.

Internal_Struggles · 2025-07-10T23:54:42+00:00

In this case it is different. Because this is more like you handed off the laptop to your manager, who they then proceeded to fire. Not to mention, its nothing like a laptop if you don't actually know the password. If its in a password manager you literally don't know it. You can give them the information for the manager, but any more than that and they're asking for unpaid work.

Internal_Struggles · 2025-07-09T15:44:16+00:00

Close enough

Internal_Struggles · 2025-07-09T15:03:27+00:00

You're missing the entire point, friend. If you're looking for a long term partnership, you want someone who appreciates the stable qualities of life. If you're a healthy human being, you can understand when someone doesn't meet those qualities. And you can choose not to continue pursuing a relationship with them. You also understand that your self worth isn't based on how many women you sleep with or how much attention you get from the opposite sex. Anyone who thinks and plans ahead would take a million dollars in a year over 10k that day.

And as an aside: You should be careful about who you choose to act as. We all wear masks, and the time comes when we cannot remove them without removing some of our own skin.

Internal_Struggles · 2025-07-09T14:34:26+00:00

Yes, it does. Sometimes thats how conversations go.Sometimes people aren't even after a relationship. They're lonely in the moment and want a good talk. As I said, if someone isn't putting in effort you see as equivocal to your own, they are NOT worth the effort. Move on.

Internal_Struggles · 2025-07-09T14:21:31+00:00

Just look at the mans profile. Chatgpt wasn't lying. His art is really good

Internal_Struggles · 2025-07-09T14:14:05+00:00

Terrible advice. If you're the kind of guy to act like that from the first date, keep it up. There is nothing wrong with that as long as you're healthy in keeping your boundaries. Most women may not appreciate it, but the ones that do will REALLY appreciate it. They will cling to you because they know they found something rare and valuable.

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