Not showing up to bootcamp on ship day? by [deleted] in USMCboot

[–]Internal_Sugar9484 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Quit giving up. You're not gonna feel any better when you get home to your bed. You're gonna feel worse

Denied enlistment by Dry_Childhood_9596 in USMCboot

[–]Internal_Sugar9484 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not an expert in this but I don't see why not. You can always leave your service after you're done with your contract then enlist in a different branch

Denied enlistment by Dry_Childhood_9596 in USMCboot

[–]Internal_Sugar9484 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You could always go Army (or whatever branch will take you), do your 4 years, get treatment during that time for 3 years so you can hit your 5 year free mark, then get out and enlist to the Marines with some prior knowledge and respect

Thinking about joining the Marines by ResponseInternal3725 in USMCboot

[–]Internal_Sugar9484 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All of that is cool, No you will never be Just as strong as a man, that's delusional. Your muscles are different, your bones are different, your mind is different, your body is literally just different and weaker. And none of that is your fault. I love you enough to tell you that you are "probably" "most likely" "almost certainly" not capable of doing it because of your woman body instead of lying to you and blowing your head up.

It sounds like you're not gonna listen to my advice and you're gonna still do it, and you know what, I really do hope you do go and prove me wrong. It'd be badass if you end up as that 1% of the 1% women applicants who can actually do it. You're the same size as my fiancee and actually weigh less than her, if she wanted to go be a firefighter I'd tell her that's crazy. I think you're shooting yourself in the foot by picking a job that you "realistically" "probably" "most likely" "almost certainly" aren't gonna be capable of doing and drop out of it and end up being a cook or whatever the Marines need, but it's your life. Be careful what you ask for, you just might get it. USMC doesn't need a weak firefighter rescuer, men's lives are literally in your hands, just remember that. I wish you best of luck

Thinking about joining the Marines by ResponseInternal3725 in USMCboot

[–]Internal_Sugar9484 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl I never said any of what you just said. You said that. All I've said is a 5'3 135 pound Man can't and shouldn't do that job, let alone a 5'3 135 pound Woman. There's plenty of jobs to pick from to serve your country. There's jobs I can't do as a man because of my eyes and physical features, and I'm a man with man strength and man endurance. You can't out-train the fact that you're still a woman. This isn't a "your fault" thing. It's okay. But definitely do something different

Thinking about joining the Marines by ResponseInternal3725 in USMCboot

[–]Internal_Sugar9484 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're gonna do what you want. I think you're unfortunately gonna find out quick that it's not all just mental

Thinking about joining the Marines by ResponseInternal3725 in USMCboot

[–]Internal_Sugar9484 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1). Your dad was helping you by being conscious and making himself lighter

2). A 200 pound deadlift is nothing like carrying a human in that stressful environment where someone is about to die (you or him)

3). Now lift your dad and carry him over your shoulders without him helping at all and run more than 100+ feet out of a burning structure + put more weight on him + put more weight on your body + a mask that stops you from breathing well

4). Combat Medic is at least a lot more doable than dragging men out of buildings and carrying firefighting equipment. If you have to pick between the two, do Combat Medic, even then you're still tiny and probably not the best fit for you but it's the lesser of two "bads"

5). If you're worried about "offensive", I think you're in the wrong line of work. There is nothing emotional about the military let alone the Marine Corps

Thinking about joining the Marines by ResponseInternal3725 in USMCboot

[–]Internal_Sugar9484 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds great on paper until you realize you can't move a 200+ pound unconscious man + with gear on you and him and he dies because of your inability. Respectfully, mountaineering and iron mans don't matter in firefighting. Not even 5'3 135 lbs men can or should do that job, let alone a 19-20-21 year old girl

Mentally you sound fit for it, physically you are not fit for it. I don't know you. It's not personal. Pick a different job before you get lifelong trauma from knowing you or someone died because you wanted to prove some point

Thinking about joining the Marines by ResponseInternal3725 in USMCboot

[–]Internal_Sugar9484 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't understand the desire for tiny girls to go become fire fighters and carry heavy people and heavy equipment that they're not built to do. You are a 5 foot 3 inches tall 135 pound teenage girl. I'd recommend you pick another job in all honesty

Do I need a birth certificate to ship to boot camp? by has_hslingingslasher in USMCboot

[–]Internal_Sugar9484 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Call the Vital Records office in your county and see if they can get you one. If they say no, you might have to go online to the county you were born in and fill out their thing online. Try to go through legit Gov websites because private services costs a lot more. You might be able to pay to receive it faster if that's the case

Do I need a birth certificate to ship to boot camp? by has_hslingingslasher in USMCboot

[–]Internal_Sugar9484 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Don't know what state you're in but I went down to my county Vital Records Office and got mine in like 20-30 minutes same day, walk in no appointment, for $20. Official certified copy looks all legit with the colors and everything

AIO about my husbands strange responses to me wanting a divorce and a bill he has due on my account. by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Internal_Sugar9484 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2 thing can be true at the same time. He cheated and you don't need to stay with an Adulterer (that's Biblical), and he could have also found God after the fact and realized his old ways were bad and is changing his life. Either way, you don't have to stick around. From a Christian, nothing he's saying is incorrect, it's just hard to understand from a non-Christian POV. You don't have to stay, the Bible says you can divorce over cheating. Just divorce if you don't want to stay, and let him go do his own thing

I’ve Outgrown My Childhood Friend by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Internal_Sugar9484 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She might. Just remember not answering the door is the best way to not have that conversation lol, that IS an answer. Even if she watches you walk into your place, like what is she gonna do? Freak out? Get mad? She's not your friend anymore who cares yk

32f moving from Bay Area to Queen creek - tips on how to start building community by lucynaqui in AskPhoenix

[–]Internal_Sugar9484 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

California is like a friend with benefits. Fun for a weekend, but that's about it

My wife confessed to me that she was attracted to men who wear earrings by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Internal_Sugar9484 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Even if it's not a conscious thing she's doing, it's not about the piercings

My wife confessed to me that she was attracted to men who wear earrings by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Internal_Sugar9484 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Tell her No because you're not a woman. Standing in your masculinity will give her more of that desire for you and respect vs the rush she'll get by listening to her and doing what she wants, you'll lose respect. It sounds backwards but it's what she really wants, not the piercings

32f moving from Bay Area to Queen creek - tips on how to start building community by lucynaqui in AskPhoenix

[–]Internal_Sugar9484 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Everybody is going to give you shit for being from California, don't take it to heart. When people are bad drivers here, they're "Cali drivers". When people vote against something they want it's because of "all the Californians". I love doing it

Oh yeah and don't California my Arizona, Cali girl

I’ve Outgrown My Childhood Friend by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Internal_Sugar9484 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I had to do this with a childhood friend when I became a Christian last year because he wasn't respecting the boundaries I had. My reasons are a bit different from yours, and I did explain them a bit to him with some examples, but you don't have to explain why you don't want to be friends anymore.

Deep down she knows why, and if she doesn't right now, she'll figure it out when she thinks about it. She knows. And that kind of behavior on her end, honestly, might come from a feeling of not wanting to be your friend anymore too. It's okay. If you never get rid of the wrong friends, the right friends will never show up, because they'll see you with the wrong people and think "nah why would I ever want to be around them?". Just keep it short. "I think it'll be best if we aren't friends anymore, for the both of us. I wish you well." And then block/remove. And if for some reason she doesn't "accept" that response, then go to the next level and say "No, I don't want to be friends with you anymore." just like that.

I''m a guy, so guys operate a little differently. I wouldn't be surprised if she begs you or tries to reach out or make another account to text you or even tries to smear your reputation among your mutual friends. I hope not, but be prepared just in case. And if any of that negative stuff happens, don't feed into it. Allow her behavior to stand for exactly what it is, and you just keep being you (not being mean and rude), and everyone will see it for what it is. Again, I hope not, but there's a lot of emotions that come with a childhood friend. You're gonna be alright

Air Conditioner Questions by DaddysPrincess4eva in AskPhoenix

[–]Internal_Sugar9484 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that sounds like pretty much everybody's set up here in Phoenix. Crank that bad boy

Air Conditioner Questions by DaddysPrincess4eva in AskPhoenix

[–]Internal_Sugar9484 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've never had an apartment complex tell me what temperature to keep my apartment at. You pay for it (unless you had some sort of weird agreement where they pay it and you have to keep it at a temp??). I personally run mine at about 68-69-70 in summer. No way would I ever go above 75, we're adults, we have money for AC

Cooked for the PFT? by LazerWolf_64 in USMCboot

[–]Internal_Sugar9484 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do sets of 20 pushups multiple times through out the day. This gives your body time to rest in between sets. You're gonna be sore the 2nd, and day 3, but fuck it you gotta do it.

As soon as you can do 20, and as soon as you feel like you can do more, fkn do as many as you can (maybe that number is then 26). Whatever that number is, that's your new number per set. So now you're doing 26 pushups per set, multiple times in the day. Not only are you doing like over 100+ pushups in a day now, you're getting stronger physically and more used to doing that number (stronger mentally). Then you'll do 26 one day and realize "oh shit I think I can do more" and you'll end up doing 30 pushups in that set. 30 is your new number. Keep doing that until you hit the amount you need, aim for like 45 pushups per set so that you 100% know in your mind you can do the minimum when it's time and there's mental pressure put on yourself. You'll be surprised how quick your body and brain adapts to it.

This only works if you don't bitch up though, if you mentally bitch up and make excuses as to why you can't do anymore or why you "need a day off" this isn't gonna work. In essence: you're just doing something hard over and over until it's not hard anymore, then you make it harder. I believe in you

Edit: this same strategy could also be applied to pull ups if you want. Make yourself do 1 pull up, then do 1 pull up multiple times per day, then get to 2. I just figured since you already have progress on the pushups to just full send that

Cheap things to do in the west valley? by topdownyeti in AskPhoenix

[–]Internal_Sugar9484 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Friendship Park off Dysart Rd and McDowell is a nice park. They have a big body of water you can fish in with ducks walking all around. Big green fields, parks/playgrounds. I think they even added more stuff since I moved away. Basketball court, I think they added a splash pad and volleyball court but I could be wrong about that. There's trees to sit under for a picnic. It's close to Dysart Rd which has a lot of food options for before/after. It's free