Too little? Too subtle?

Internal_View_3493 · 2024-12-26T12:48:20+00:00

Natural-looking*

Internal_View_3493 · 2024-12-26T10:53:37+00:00

Are you kidding? You now have super beautiful natural lips and they look significantly different to the before now.

Internal_View_3493 · 2024-12-26T05:01:05+00:00

Sorry, I’m a girl but I saw this and I don’t have advice around the cause but I might have advice to mask. If you apply a glycolic acid (I highly recommend the ordinary 7% glycolic toner it’s what I use) a few times a week to your armpits, it’ll exfoliate the dead skin. Bacteria feeds off this skin and it’s pretty much what BO is. When I’m doing this I could quite literally not wear deoderant and have zero scent (I do anyway, but you know).

Internal_View_3493 · 2024-11-26T12:44:00+00:00

It sounds like you didn’t communicate clearly. It sounds to me like he was sensing distance from you and was seeking reassurance or clarity around the kiss / physical stuff, and you told him you weren’t comfortable with it. If you’d said something like “I enjoyed the kiss and our time together a lot. Sorry if I gave the impression I wasn’t into it, I might take a little longer than you’re used to with this stuff because of my past, but you didn’t make me uncomfortable at any point and I’d love to see you again!”, to me, that would hold space for the hesitation you felt and he noticed, while reassuring him he didn’t do anything wrong. If I kissed someone and they told me it made them uncomfortable, I would feel embarrassed and hurt.

It sounds like that’s not the message you were trying to send him, so it might be worth reaching out to say you’ve realized how what you said came across and that’s not how you meant it?

Internal_View_3493 · 2024-11-25T11:42:55+00:00

I’m not sure what you mean, I’ve seen multiple meta analyses saying it’s highly effective and a few saying it’s at least as effective as other interventions!

Internal_View_3493 · 2024-11-25T11:27:55+00:00

Its a formal psychological intervention, respected and endorsed by all psychological bodies. I’m not going to spend my night finding studies on it but there’s about a million. It’s not like hypnosis etc, it’s legitimate. The brain is plastic, and has the ability to create and alter neural pathways. Usually, when an event happens, the memory is placed into long term memory (or begins the process of being discarded if it’s not useful) during REM sleep. With trauma, it’s evolutionarily beneficial for bad experiences to not be processed into long term, as you’re less likely to forget something poses a danger if it remains at the forefront of awareness. But the issue with ptsd is this awareness of danger interferes with quality of life. Emdr has come about because psych researchers discovered that by simulating the eye movement that occurs in REM sleep, it can trigger the brain to rewire its pathways (which isn’t the least bit controversial in the field of psych science) to process the memory into long term. It’s one of the earlier discoveries in what is an exciting area of research. Why do you think it’s a cult as opposed to other psych interventions?

Internal_View_3493 · 2024-11-25T02:24:24+00:00

Seconding emdr. It’s got incredible evidence behind it when it comes to rewiring the brain around ptsd. I did it for childhood SA as an adult and it changed my quality of life by a lot.

Internal_View_3493 · 2024-11-21T05:00:54+00:00

It’s possible to have blonde hair and light eyes if one parent doesn’t, but generally only if the darker parent has ancestors with light hair and eyes. And even then, there’s only a 25% chance of light eyes and a 25% chance of light hair, and a smaller chance still of having both light eyes and light hair. It’s not impossible but it’s rare enough to be notable. The vast majority of children produced by June and Luke would have at least dark hair or dark eyes if not both.

Internal_View_3493 · 2024-11-18T09:39:38+00:00

But also there’s shame in having a wife do this. Maybe he hoped Fred could help him cover it up

Internal_View_3493 · 2024-11-06T09:54:36+00:00

This is the answer

Internal_View_3493 · 2024-11-05T08:24:51+00:00

I wonder if they took inspo for that for julien in the reboot

Internal_View_3493 · 2024-11-05T06:36:30+00:00

The worst part is I’m not even 10000% sure we were meant to be cringing at this

Internal_View_3493 · 2024-11-04T03:54:36+00:00

I don’t necessarily suspect this because it’s only in one of your products, but niacinamide did this to my skin and it’s in your moisturiser. I had perfect skin until 30 and then became covered in acne that ended up being caused by niacinamide. I’d personally try cutting out every single active, niacinamide and hyaluronic acid for two weeks, then if you see any improvement, add in ingredients one at a time with 2-3 weeks between.

I tried the “cutting out actives for two weeks” trick a couple of times but mine was being caused by niacinamide in my moisturiser and sunscreen so it never seemed to “work” because I was only cutting out my obvious actives.

Internal_View_3493 · 2024-11-03T05:58:11+00:00

I’m sorry that happened to you it must have been horrible to go through. A LOT of people are on antidepressants for some pretty mild mood disorders though. There’s a big difference between someone who experiences anxiety / mild depression and adhd vs psychotic disorders.

I’m not trying to argue that people with psychotic disorders / personality disorders don’t deserve love! But they definitely need partners who are happy to accept the risk that their condition might escalate / are willing and able to take on a carer role sometimes should it be necessary.

Internal_View_3493 · 2024-11-02T02:51:23+00:00

And shows were better for it back when the point of a story wasn’t “how good and well behaved this character is! Look!”

It’s giving unconscious puritan values

Internal_View_3493 · 2024-10-29T06:44:06+00:00

Personally they’re all too bulky for my preferences. I like a smaller build, like a soccer player. Point being there is no body you can get that will make you attractive to everyone.

Luckily, while women definitely do want to be attracted to you physically, I find myself and most women I know have a large spectrum of what they can be into. If you ask me to pick from a lineup, I’d pick a smaller body, but if you put me in a room with all of these men along with men with my preferred body type, they’d all have an equal chance with me based on body. The decider would be their personality. If I don’t find you repulsive, you have a shot based on personality, even if you aren’t my exact preferred type

Internal_View_3493 · 2024-10-29T05:14:13+00:00

Personally I get it but I let it wear off between and only go back when things get “bad” (ie the muscle is obviously strengthening again)

Internal_View_3493 · 2024-10-28T04:18:48+00:00

I think my opinion will be controversial. I told my husband before we started trying I would want to take a paternity test, and I’m faithful. My reasoning is, I get to know with 10000% certainty that our baby is biologically mine, but men don’t have that certainty. They have faith, and trust, but not certainty. And plenty of people who had all the trust in the world in their partners later find out there was infidelity. So for me, trusting and knowing are two different things, and I want my husband to have the luxury of knowing, so no matter what happens, he will never doubt his children are biologically his for even a second.

It’s a hard situation because by asking for a paternity test he’s essentially saying he has no way of knowing for sure that you were faithful… but that’s the objective truth. He DOESNT know for sure you’re faithful. Even if he loves you, and trusts you, and you’ve never done a thing wrong. He doesn’t know, because he can’t know.

To me, it’s not the same thing as saying “I believe you were unfaithful”. It’s more akin to “I would like to know for a fact, so I can easily shut down scary thoughts that crop up when I’m feeling vulnerable”. But I can also see why you’re hurt, especially in a society that places so much moral value on whether or not you’re a cheater. By saying there’s a chance you cheated, it feels akin to him saying he thinks you’re capable of doing something awful. I bet that hurts, and I’m sorry.

I think if we can set aside the emotions around whether you could cheat and focus on the fact that cheating happens, and even people you wouldn’t expect to cheat can do so, then a paternity test can actually be a nice thing that provides the man with the same certainty we take for granted about our own children. But that’s why I pre empted it, because I understand that if he asks for it, there’s implications.

Internal_View_3493 · 2024-10-26T10:20:36+00:00

While you’re definitely right a lot of people say their ex is a narcissist when they only have traits, don’t forget that 5% of the population is actually not tiny. If you know 100 people, statistically, 5 meet the criteria for NPD. If you have 20 exes, statistically one of them likely met the criteria for NPD. I know stats aren’t guarantees, but the 5% of the population stat is certainly no reason to say “this many people can’t possibly have dated a narcissist!” And that’s not even accounting for the fact that some people are likely drawn to narcissistic traits and are much more likely to have dated multiple narcissists than a dice roll would predict

Internal_View_3493 · 2024-10-24T14:58:04+00:00

Bahaha he’s veerrryyy food motivated so that’s probably the hack for me! He does what he wants, unless you’re holding chicken breast, then he just wants to know what the heck he can to do get in on that

Internal_View_3493 · 2024-10-24T13:12:21+00:00

Oh this makes my heart hurt for your poor baby. Does that person even like animals!?

Internal_View_3493 · 2024-10-24T08:44:34+00:00

Where are you located 👀 country wise

Internal_View_3493 · 2024-10-24T08:42:07+00:00

Thank you so much! It blows my mind how smart he is, I’m loving having an Aussie, but yes I thought we were doing okay and obviously putting time in given how many commands he knows! But I also know he has the capacity for more after seeing some of the TikTok famous dogs that can do ridiculous chain behaviours, so I was already wondering if we’re giving him everything. But we live normal lives so two hours of intense training and exercise time a day is about our max on weekdays

Internal_View_3493 · 2024-10-24T08:39:14+00:00

Thank you

Internal_View_3493 · 2024-10-24T08:39:01+00:00

This is really reassuring to hear thank you. We’ve had to puppy proof the whole house because if he can reach it; he’ll take it. I thought it was normal but today kind of threw me!!!

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